Possibly Triggering - Do you count how long since last si?
If you do then why? I'm just curious really because although I know I haven't self-harmed for a while I've never counted and couldn't tell you how long it's been. I don't care to know really. I feel a bit weird because I have a different attitude to a lot here. I say that I've stopped which is mostly true but when I slip up I don't feel bad about it and I don't feel that it's the end of the world. I don't feel the need to count days, weeks or months because it just isn't that important.
So yes, answer the poll and tell me I'm normal :P
It’s not always that easy to distinguish the good guys from the bad guys,
Sinners can surprise you and the same is true for saints.
Why do we try to define people with simply good or simply evil?
Because no one wants to admit that compassion and cruelty can live side by side in one heart and that anyone is capable of anything.
Yes I do ... the reason is because I used to do it the same way you do and that worked for a while... but then I started to slip up a lot and because I didn't count I convinced myself that they were just slip-ups. Then one day I thought about how frequent these "slip-ups" were and I found I had them at least once a week (which is a bit more than a slip up)... so now I really decided to stop and I chose a good date (1st March) and now I count because it makes me less likely to have a slip up because then I think " I've done x months without and I would break my promise to myself if I did it' and that has helped me until now :)
I don't count it, but I can normally work it out once it's been a while.
Like, "I know it was the week that my parents went away with Ted and Sue, which was about 2 months ago, so it must've been about 2 months" kinda thing.
Or, "it was before that exam, so that makes it 45 days".
But like, I won't count every single day, I'll work it out roughly when it's been a couple of months or so.
Saying that, I have no idea when my last cut was, but I can probably find out if I really wanted to, through posts on here or asking the person I tell.
Chels I kinda do that, well I know the last time was around christmas/new year but it just seems that others have the actual dates and it makes me feel I'm weird for not knowing the precise date. It's also something I watche in desperate housewives about alcoholism and Bree told the AA dude she didn't know the date of her last drink and he said that all alcoholics know that and I guess it'd be similar for self-harmers and stuff.
It’s not always that easy to distinguish the good guys from the bad guys,
Sinners can surprise you and the same is true for saints.
Why do we try to define people with simply good or simply evil?
Because no one wants to admit that compassion and cruelty can live side by side in one heart and that anyone is capable of anything.
I think that counting days works for some people, however I know it doesn't work for me.
I mean like currently I'll go a month or two, then slip up for a week/couple of days/maybe just one, and then go another month or two. So if I was counting, I'd be like, where do I start counting from, you know?
i count. i had a cycle of stop then slip then stop for about 4 months before i actuallly quit. i like be able to say i've quite for 11 months and counting.
I don't count because for me it isn't how long i've been without it.
it's about stopping so that i never even have to think about it as a resort.
i guess it's strange, because i can never fully stop thinking about it.
but i mean, when it gets to the point that everything is ****,
but i'm still don't cut.
that's what it's about for me
I count (not every day) but I always know how long its been. Its something to be proud of for me. My friends like to know whats going on and theyre always really proud when I can tell them that I've managed 6 months so far! Its gives me something to aim for, I'm working towards the next milestone. It would drive me mad if I didn't know how I was doing. I stopped on the 1st January 2007 so I always know how many months :)
Counting never really helped me, because every time I looked at my signature I'd see something that reminded me of self harm, and as long as I was being reminded, I wasn't going to stop.
I don't know when I last intentionally self harmed, but I do know that it was years ago.
I have done in the past but I am not bothering atm because I am only getting a couple of days before I mess up again and being so frequent there seems no point in me saying to myself I am trying to stop because I am clearly not very good at it.
I did count when I got to about three weeks, then I actually feel like its something worth remembering. Also it can help me keep going without it.
It depends on how I feel and if I have anything worth stopping for or anyone taking any interest in how I'm doing. I dont see anybody anymore so nobody can ever find out so it doesnt matter. I could be dead before anyone would notice the SH.
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I count because stopping cutting was the ahrdest thing i have ever had to do and each day i go without is a small victory. I am over 2 years now, but still now the exact date (812 days ago). I do that to remind myself how far i've come. i wish i could just forget about ever cutting, but the truth it, i am who i am because of what i've been through (good and bad) and i am proud of who i am. Dismissing part of my past would be being ashamed of it. and while i would never cut again, i know that at the time it saved my life. I count to show myself that I am ok and will always be. it;s jsut something that helps me
I dont count. I know when i last did it, I dont count that time tho, but i have no idea how long it was before that. i know it has been about a yeah and a half since i was doing it a lot but not too sure.
I think i mostly dont count because if i do its kinda reminder of it and makes me think about it more. But i see that a lot of people would use it as a type of motivation to quit or to try stop for longer
Yes i count. The only reason i know when exactly i stopped is becuase it was a week after my friends funeral. I keep it in mind so i dont slip up too much. But when i do slip up, i dont stop counting. I dont feel bad and i dont beat myself up about it. I dont count days, but i do celebrate anniversaries. It gives me something to look forward to. That probably makes little sense.
What ever works for you is best. You arent weird at all.
~He accepts that ambiguity and compromise are a part of life, but he doesn’t necessarily like it. It’s not his way to dwell in gray areas, not to try and resolve complex situations. And yet, if he’s really honest with himself, this time he doesn’t care. He surrenders to what he wants, not what he must. ~
I write down the last time.....mainly b/c when I'm triggered, I can say to myself that's it's been so many weeks or months and if I made it that far I can go even further........keeping track helps me
heh...hopefully that makes sense...
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I used to count how long it's been, but I quit doing so because it was actually a trigger for me, now I just try not to think about it. I assume it's been about 3 months since I have last cut myself...
