How to adult properly

[Mbarrae]

Hello all!

New to the forums and looking for advise about life and to cope.

Where to begin... I was medically evacuated from the Philippines while serving in the U.S. Peace Corps. Dealt with medical stuff for a year and a half, and was put on short term disability. After all was said and done, I decided that I needed a new adventure, that was Oregon. Good friends lived up there and offered me a cheap room to rent while I got on my feet. Things hit the fan there within a month. They kicked me out, gave me 10 days to move. Found a place in the nic of time but still had no job. Found two minimum wage jobs to get on feet. Then a few months later I found a full time job of 55+/hrs/wk. A big change. With starting this new gig, I started to see this wonderful young woman long distance(1.5hours away). Never had communication this good. It was perfect. I found my best friend who I could talk about anything with. We dated for 10 months, evaluating relationship currently. I don't have a big social life due to work. I feel like this has had a strain on my relationship. I was up front about this all from day one of meeting her. Told young woman I was/am at an all time low in life. I am trying to figure out my career. My lady has been working on her career path for 5 years. I work from 7-6p Monday- Friday.

My is question/need opinions... What does one do for a social life when working so much?

I go to bed around 9-930p, old man status. I joined a gym to work on self so now I get home around 7ish.

What do working adults do for a social life and a love life? Do people not sleep?

Please help. Looking for different perspectives. Also trying to see if I can save my relationship. I can relocate toward her area anytime. She wouldn't be the only pull for me to move.

Hope everyone is well!

[mat]

Im thirty when i did work full time i slept about five to six hours. I dont work full time im active anough keeping up with relatuons and doing what i need to do, with kids, i get about five hours of sleep if im lucky. Sleeps something i sacrifice to do what i need for the days. Wish days were longer or i view sleep as a waste of time. Felt that way for about ten years. Pretty much travel time can be spent witha Bluetooth headset in your ear talking. Evaluate private time, it cuts into everything else when you are truly busy. I can take a shower in literally a minute, full body soap wash hair and full rinse of be walking out of the bathroom hair a little wet full clothed in about three minutes. Eat standing up, all kinds of things.

[mat]

I wouldn't move for a person, people let you down. My opinion.

[Mbarrae]

Moving for her is part of it. But! Where I am currently is a small college town and the job prospects are garbage... Up north, where she is, has a lot more opportunity work wise.


What do people do to gain friends after a 12 hour work day that ends at 6p?

I'm 28 and trying to figure this all out.

[mat]

You said you goto the gym, talk to someone there. Or find someone doing something you like. I don't know. I stopped looking for friends so Goodluck