Not going out with friends?

[PoppyLove]

I'll keep this short. One of my best friends wants me to go out to the bars with her, her boyfriend, and his friends tonight.

I like her (obviously) and her boyfriend is great too. His friends are okay, but I don't like them as much.

Problem is, the rest of our friends are all out of town. I always feels weird going out as the only single girl with couples. On top of that, I don't have a DD to take me home, and I have a massive cyst on my chin right now....I'm self conscious about my skin normally, but really at this point.

I feel like I don't want too go, but our lives are busy and we don't get to go out too terribly often so I feel bad turning the invite down.

I dread saying no, I dread saying yes....what do I do? Am I terrible for not going?

[ParanormalChickenGeek]

You're not terrible for thinking of not going! You need to do what YOU feel comfortable doing, not what you think you should do or what others want you to do.
I often have the same battle in my head, 9 times out of 10 if I do go, I really enjoy myself and am glad to have gone. Just do what you feel best doing!

[PoppyLove]

Thanks :) I ended up going and am having a decent time so far. I'm only staying out until 1 but I'm glad I came.

Although....the group just asked me what I was up to and what I wanted to do with my future....kind of of a sore subject with me because I am 24 and soooool lost as to what I want to do with my life and I'm very stressed about it right now.

But, one day at a time on that front I guess :)

[BrotherForLifeLostForever]

If you decide to stay in, there will be other opportunities to do so. Also I feel your lost-ness, I recently bumped into 1 primary school teacher and two high school teachers who asked me about myself for ALL THREE to say, "I had such high hopes for you".

Me and you are both 24 but we will find ourselves, I firmly believe it.

[PoppyLove]

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Originally Posted by BrotherForLifeLostForever

If you decide to stay in, there will be other opportunities to do so. Also I feel your lost-ness, I recently bumped into 1 primary school teacher and two high school teachers who asked me about myself for ALL THREE to say, "I had such high hopes for you".

Me and you are both 24 but we will find ourselves, I firmly believe it.

Thanks. I'm trying to embrace the "lost" feeling and find myself; honestly, I'm not the only one of my friends who is this way. It seems to be harder to find yourself in the world these days :)

But, with anxiety I always want to have a plan, so that's hard. Plus I feel like society in general expects me too. And my parents are very responsible so they want me to be responsible as well.

So there's good and bad. I guess that's life, but it isn't easy or ideal.

[88shelz]

I'm glad you went out. Remember there will always be awkward moments with conversations you don't have but if it comes to feeling at a loss about your future don't let it be awkward or shameful. I'm 27next month without a clue where my life is headed. I know others of all ages with no clue either. No one has any right in this life to judge. We are all with our flaws

[PoppyLove]

Thanks. I know they weren't judging me, it just brought up the panic I'm always feeling and the pressure I put on myself to figure things out.