Feeling a little lost

[Truth&OtherDisasters]

I think I've been getting depressed lately. I've been depressed before, but for some reason that doesn't really help me much in figuring whether I am now and what to do forwards.

I wish I could talk to my friends or my boyfriend, but I'm not sure how.

The previous times when I was depressed, it always went the same way- I sulked in the sadness until I couldn't anymore; I told someone; I spend more time getting through it and trying to figure why I'm unhappy; then some effort went into fixing that. And then I slowly got better. Both times I had big, valid reason to feel bad, though it was actual depression (if it hadn't been I may have dealt with the bad a bit easier).

Now, I've mentioned this in passing to a friend and to my boyfriend, but what can they do?

I went through this anxiety filled time two months ago and somehow slid into old bad feelings. My job in going fine, the rest of my life is finally good- it can be better, but it's still going good- and I can't explain why I feel so bad.

I can't decide on solution because there isn't an obvious problem except I'm feeling low.

I can't ask anyone for help, because they will ask me what I need, and I have no idea what that is.

A part of me thinks I should ride this out- do the work I absolutely must in these few months, and cut down on the things I can cut down on. Leave general mellow time to relax, enjoy myself, try some new things and perhaps try to figure things out a little. I think may be it's just a belated reaction to some more stressful times in my life where I couldn't allow myself any downtime- and now it's coming back to bite me...Like if I allow myself some weeks in which I manage what has to be managed and really concentrate on taking care of myself, and figuring this out, may be I can manage it....can I? I appreciate any advice...

[Steel Maiden]

Do you take medication for your depression?

[crazykat]

If your finding that you can't manage this on your own I would suggest seeing your doctor as they will be able to offer some extra options to you such as therapy or medication. It's okay to admit that your not coping and need some extra help. With depression there often isn't a reason why we feel so bad we just do and that's okay.

Some things that can help when we are feeling depressed are to make sure we are trying to practice self-care as this is something that often slips when we are feeling depressed. So things like eating properly, getting enough sleep, getting a bit of exercise and just generally looking after ourselves. Also thinking about what kind of things you used to enjoy as we often lose sight of these.

[Charmed]

Hi there,

Sorry you seem to be having a difficult time at the moment. You mention you're not sure how to open up to your friends and family and you're not sure what you need to help. You don't necessarily need to know what will help you, it can help just to talk about it, so they know how you are feeling and can just be there for you. They can also help you explore your options on how to feel a little better. Do you think you could try and speak to your friends and family?

You also mentioned you have recovered from depression before, do you know how you recovered last time? It might be helpful to think of what you did and how things slowly got better and try to implicate them again this time.

Take care.