It is scientifically shown that when a child between infant and toddler age is separated form their mother for any prolonged amount of time, it can negatively impact the child’s ability to form relationships later in life.
Even if you don’t realize it now, your baby needs you. You were the first person in that child’s life, and the first one he ever trusted. For nine months, you carried him, and you were his whole world. You were the only one he knew, the only one he loved, and the only one he trusted. A bond like that doesn’t just disappear, and leaving him would break the first trust he ever had, and likely affect his ability to trust people going forward.
Sure, other people can feed him, and clothe him, and even love him. But they can never replace his mother. You might not quite believe me, but if there is even a sliver of doubt in your mind, then don’t take that chance. You might think you’re replaceable, but I’m sure he doesn’t.
Don’t give up on yourself. Nobody is perfect. Think about it this way, you made it a year. A year. There are a lot of people who would give the world to be strong enough to do that. Sure, you messed up. But you are trying, and that is all anybody can ask for. Your son should be proud.
Last edited by blue_eternity : 10-12-2014 at 04:17 AM.
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