Contains sexual abuse - My ex

[not_so_insig]

Just accused me of making the SA up. I wouldnt lie, and besides why would I spend nearly 2 years in counselling just to tell lies? Why do I have a flashbacks if everything isnt real?

I feel so worthless and I want to hurt myself. I told my best friend (who has also been SA) and she said that people like us dont make it up.

That's why I have never gone to the police because I am afraid of being disbelieved, in case people think that I am lying. I have a history of psychosis, I dont want people to think it's all lies and down to the illness.

I dont know what I want from this thread, just to let it out. I feel so numb and I dont want to talk to my ex ever again. I have call/text blocking software on my phone (I get tons of PPI calls) so it's not impossible for me to do it.

[Uglyducklin]

Hi insignificant one ( you are not insignificant at all) everyone should be believed but I do get what you mean I in the past have been frightened of people not believing me but actually have found it to be the opposite. I'm so sorry your ex behaved in that way , perhaps he couldn't handle thinking you had suffered so much if that makes sense? I believe you. I hope today goes ok.

[Crysainta]

Your ex probably only said that as a way of hurting you. I've read and heard many accounts of people who say their exes or even sometimes their current significant others accuse them of "making the whole thing up."
If possible, cut the ex out of your life completely. Unless you have children together I see no reason for you to put yourself through that torture.

[Patent Pending]

Hey,

I'm sorry they said this about you. As the others have said; it was probably just as a way of trying to hurt you - my ex has tried this tact many times.

Can you cut contact with them?

How are you doing now?

x x x

[not_so_insig]

Sorry I didn't see this before. I am no longer speaking to my ex and have added his number to my number blocking app on my phone. He is stressing me out because he lives less than 500 yards away and he regularly turns up at my flat unannounced. He sometimes accosts me in the street as the route from the bus stop to my flat takes me past his front window.

[beautiful_seclusion]

If he's harassing you, which he is, you can file a restraining order. You don't even need to bring up the sexual abuse. He's stalking you and intimidating you by bothering you when you don't want it. It's causing fear, and that's wrong. So you should be able to legally prevent him from coming within a certain distance from you.