felt betrayed and hurt :"(

[Jeen11]

hi uhm well here it goes..

it seems that my friends are not there for me anymore..they just only talk to me when they need something..Im not the type of person to just jump to conclusions but it really is becoming more obvious to me..I even confronted them but they shrugged it off and really did not pay attention to it...am I paranoid? am I just imagining this?

they seem so distant now..im now pretty much alone coz they dont even want to hang out me anymore..I just dont understand and its really hard for me to deal with this kind of feeling :( Im soooooo hurt...I dont want to think that they are just using me coz they're my friends..

can you give me advice? :3

[talaiporia]

I'm sorry that you don't feel like you friends are around. What makes you think that they aren't there for you any more? Sometimes situations can get misinterpreted, but it might be worth having a proper conversation with them about it.

[Patent Pending]

Hi there,

I'm sorry to hear you're feeling so low and alone.

I have felt similar to how you're describing things right now, but I have found that speaking to my friends and telling them that I feel distant from them and that they're not there for me as much has helped and we've all made more of a conscious effort to meet up etc. However; this has had to be a proper conversation where we honestly talk about it and where neither of us can shrug it off or glaze over things.

x x x

[Steel Maiden]

To be honest I only ever ask my (few) friends around, or call them, when I need help from them. I see friendships as functional (with exception of my dad being my dad). I still call my friends friends and they still call me their friend. Occasionally we meet up for a birthday celebration or a Christmas celebration, but 90% of the time we only meet up when we need help from each other. It's not necessarily a bad thing and it doesn't mean they don't like you.

[ctried]

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Originally Posted by Jeen11

hi uhm well here it goes..

it seems that my friends are not there for me anymore..they just only talk to me when they need something..Im not the type of person to just jump to conclusions but it really is becoming more obvious to me..I even confronted them but they shrugged it off and really did not pay attention to it...am I paranoid? am I just imagining this?

they seem so distant now..im now pretty much alone coz they dont even want to hang out me anymore..I just dont understand and its really hard for me to deal with this kind of feeling :( Im soooooo hurt...I dont want to think that they are just using me coz they're my friends..

can you give me advice? :3

Without actually knowing your circumstances, we obviously can't say for sure one way or the other what's going on in your situation. All I can say is that situations where people get used by so-called "friends" who don't really care for them do occur.

I hope that things work out and you and your friends are able to get past whatever troubles you are experiencing and become more closer and dependant on one another.

But if your heart is telling you that there's something not quite right in your relationship with these people, I think those impressions are worth at least considering. All friendships require a little trust and a willingness to be giving. But I think if it gets to the point where you start to feel like having these people in your life causes you more grief then fulfilment and they have no intention of doing anything to change that situation, then it might be best for you to sever ties as respectfully as possible.

Again, keep in mind that I don't actually know your circumstances, so that advice mightn't suit your situation appropriately.

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Originally Posted by Steel Maiden

To be honest I only ever ask my (few) friends around, or call them, when I need help from them. I see friendships as functional (with exception of my dad being my dad). I still call my friends friends and they still call me their friend. Occasionally we meet up for a birthday celebration or a Christmas celebration, but 90% of the time we only meet up when we need help from each other. It's not necessarily a bad thing and it doesn't mean they don't like you.

I think the OP was trying to say that while they are willing to serve their friends' needs, their friends don't seem to be willing to repay them in kind. Friendships aren't so functional when they become all take and no give.

[Steel Maiden]

^ I see.

[High_Voltage]

The best advice I could give is to talk to them about your concerns, maybe work them out and figure out what's going on