is it possible to start over?

[impossibleprincess]

I feel I've messed things up with a guy i've met and talked to a lot.
We've met twice our first date was ok but i was nervous he was nervous there was alot of silence and then i met him again and still their was silence i was nervous still also we communicate more online so ran out of thinks to say. I was honest with him about something and he felt i betrayed his trust in a way and i feel guilty about it. I hate hurting people but it over a mobile phone app because sometimes i get busy and obviously this app if i miss a snapchat it downloads them to my gallery but i delete the pics off after looking at them. But still he felt it betrayed him so i told him he can go through my phone next time and he said no i don't need to. then he opened up to me about suffering from depression and feels i need someone better i feel like it's his depression talking he also said he doesn't feel we get along well either when in person which is because i'm nervous still and to be honest we have more chemistry in person i feel than just general chatting. A few weeks back he said he was going to try and get back into the right mind of having a relationship as hes been single for over a year now hes saying he doesn't feel like it will work my friend has told me not to give up and support him as hes depressed. But i seriously would like to start over with him on good terms i just don't know what to say to him help please thanks

[Mpro1972]

In this case I was the guy u we're talking to. I hadn't dated in over a year and then I met my current boyfriend.. In all honesty I wish I would have waits till I was healed because now we fight about my trust issues but if it wasn't for him I wouldn't be getting help. I mean we argue and fight and he gets mad but at the end of the day we can laugh and be happy. Ur guy needs to see just like I did that it's gonna be rough and it's gonna be a struggle but moving on and gettin past bad breaks ups is the only thing to do. It may not be the best relationship as I said but my boyfriend now is so supportive about my state and my eating disorder you're just gonna have to be patient and deal with the problems you may face but if you fave them together it's easier believe me. I wouldn't say u want a restart because a there's honestly no real way to but I would say what I told my boyfriend that I want to be able to trust and be happy again and I want to be able to don that with you. He needs to know you'll be there through it all.

[susieannah]

In addition to the advice given above, perhaps consider doing something next time where you can both relax and have fun, but without too much pressure for talking, like go bowling or something. Perhaps even just as friends for now. Maybe taking the relationship pressure off you both will make things easier for you two.