I have been diagnosed with BPD...and I just can't shake the feeling that there is NO recovery from it. Like, I can do all the DBT in the world and use distractions and mindfulness and everything til I'm blue in the face...but is there actually gonna be a time when I'm not plagued with paranoid/anxious/obsessive thoughts that come from the mindset of BPD?
It feels never ending...like the rest of my life is going to be filled with feeling like I love people in one moment and hate them in the next. Why bother building relationships in my life when they are all ALWAYS temporary?
Does it end?
Sorry, I don't even know why I'm posting; I know you guys can't give me specifics and probably can't put my mind at ease...I'm just looking for some faith in meds/therapy/recovery etc. I just don't have anyone in my life who understands anymore.
Thanks,
Katie
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Just wanted to say that yes it is possible to stop being plagued by BPD behaviours. I myself have been free of then for just over a year. Although they do occasionally pop up from time to time.
The problem is that it can and will be hard to fight the behaviour but it can be done.
Tha behavious, for the most part, I have beaten...in the sense of ODing as cry for help/SHing; I haven't done since March...
It's the thoughts and paranoia and anxiaties and obsessions with people that plague me the most. Do they end?
Thank you; it helps to hear some people beat it.
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♥It's the ups and downs of living life this way. Promise me you'll never go away. Just stay with me through one more night because it's always darkest before the light and now I promise you I'll never turn away. I won't let you give us one less heart to break...♥
I struggled with my thoughts too but slowly over time I used the distraction and coping strategies my CPN gave me and the thoughts slowly became less frequent.
The key for me was finding the one thing that distracted me the most, which was helping out at my local beaver scouts unit and then noting down how I felt and what we did to help me when I struggled the most with my more difficult thoughts.
It is possible to do it without meds. I understand how you feel. I may have it too not sure. Im off meds and able to function I have a job and go to school. Sure I struggle a little but Im doing okay. You can do it off meds. The diagnosis is horrible I know and understand once you say borderline therapist want to get rid of you its hurtful and not right but it does happen. I have had so many therapist give up on me and leave me }: Every one that I love and get close to they just leave me but I don't think that's just from maybe having borderline its just me having bad luck or me being really worthless and don't matter. I had a perfect relationship with one of my psych we got along he was the first mental health person I got along with I adored him and loved him and he really did care about me but he abandon me left me for no reason at all didn't tell me why nothing just left and I seriously didn't do anything to him to deserve this. }: and now im in grief and hurt deeply because of I just want the pain to stop its unbearable.
Hugssss. I hope you get the help you deserve I hope therapist don't give up on you and leave you like they have me }; After a while of that happening you start to believe you don't deserve help and there is no hope that's how I feel }:
DBT may help and residential treatment may help and support groups and maybe CBT too. it is possible to do it without meds sometimes meds just make us worse or feel a certain way. God will also get you through it lean on him pray to him he will never leave you he is with you every step of the way.
I think that the general perception of PDs are changing and the untreatable side is beginning to be seen as untrue.
There are other therapies bar DBT that have been developed for people with BPD such as MBT and group therapies like STEPP (I think that's the right one!).
It's not going to be an easy or a smooth ride but if you want it then I would say its possible
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It's not going to be an easy or a smooth ride but if you want it then I would say its possible
I don't have BPD but I do have some learning difficulties from a medical condition/brain injury, Hydrocephalus. If you break what you want into smaller goals it makes it a lot easier. Mostly what I want to say is well done for wanting to overcome your challenges- that's a lot more than most people ever try to do
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It really helps to hear people have overcome BPD issues and are controlling the houghts/behaviours...I was really starting to lose faith in the idea that I could recover.
I'm on medication and have been through DBT which helped while I was doing it but it's hard to impliment a year on. I guess it's just a case of being patient while I learn to distract from the thoughts.
Thanks for the input guys.
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♥It's the ups and downs of living life this way. Promise me you'll never go away. Just stay with me through one more night because it's always darkest before the light and now I promise you I'll never turn away. I won't let you give us one less heart to break...♥
This is exactly why I don't buy into the whole DBT and meds crap. This is where I say loads of really unimportant and useless things like "start focusing on loving yourself" etc and I understand it's easier said than done. The massive thing with BPD I think is developing a strong support network. People who're genuine and who will give you a bit of support and a cuddle if you need it. I think therapists forget that a *massive* part of BPD relies on the external rather than the internal, and so if you manage to have someone there to sort of hold your hand, and encourage you, the mindfulness and distractions will seem easier, the thoughts and fears will begin to fade, and you'll become a lot more stable.
Again, not easy to do. Developing support networks doesn't just happen, but it's well worth insuring you invest the time in meeting friends, and explaining things and working on being as patient and as clear as you can with them so that they're less likely to misinterpret your actions.
In my eyes, people with BPD just want unconditional love... I really hope you meet someone who can provide it.
I agree with you fiddle sticks. People with BPD don't need meds they need unconditional love that is so right. We wouldn't be unstable if some one just showed us the love and care we deserve and want. I remember all the therapist giving up on me leaving me hurting me just because I got a little unstable when they showed they didn't care . it s like if you just said sorry and tried to change and cared I wouldn't have acted that way.
all we need is love and caring and some one that truly listens to us your right. we don't need some ass hole cold hearted therapist.
Good luck mix tape you can get through this. Find something that makes you happy and something you feel gives you purpose that willl help a lot feeling better.
But not everyone with BPD craves unconditional love. I know a few BPD sufferers myself included who don't always feel the need to have unconditional love, infact I can find it quite stifling.
To be honest, I'm with Ytak; I don't crave unconditional love per say...for me; yeah I'd like to have friends and family who care about me...but I can feel really smothered at times if it's all the time.
I suppose one thing that annoys me is that I used to be really independent; i.e. I was happy on my own, did everything for myself etc...but now other people's actions affect my emotions...but that's only been recent. So, I dunno, is it to do with the BPD or is it something that's just changed in me?
I'm still struggling with the idea of recovering from BPD to be honest but I think I'm getting better at letting the irrational thoughts run their course until they're proven wrong rather than acting on the thoughts and making things worse. If that makes sense?
Thanks for asking Ytak <3
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♥It's the ups and downs of living life this way. Promise me you'll never go away. Just stay with me through one more night because it's always darkest before the light and now I promise you I'll never turn away. I won't let you give us one less heart to break...♥
