Alcoholic friend

[ASkatersDream...]

Hi ive never posted here before but would like some advice

I have an alcoholic friend P now when he is sober he is absolutely lovely when hes srunk I cant stand to be with him. I know he needs help but he pushes everyone Away like I was really worried about him and call an ambulance and he told me in a drunk way I was stupid.

Today he told me to come up as I do sometimes and the last time I came up he was spber amd lovely I went in today. Alcohol all over the place flat a mess looked like he didnt know who I was I just threw his birthday card at him and his £10 gift card for his kid and walked out.

Im in a dilemma I do like him but I really cannot deal with him drunk I cry all the time when im with him. But I feel **** for walking out on him but I cant deal with it especially when he steels money off me.

Any ideas what to do?
Laura.

[Snow White.]

Hi Laura
Have you ever had a chat to him when he is sober about his drinking behaviors, and why you are concerned?

[talaiporia]

I agree with Aimee, it would be a good idea to talk to him about how he makes you feel and how he's hurt you. But, it's worth remembering that you can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped, and if he really won't change, it may be better for both of you to walk away.

[Hisn1977]

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Originally Posted by talaiporia

I agree with Aimee, it would be a good idea to talk to him about how he makes you feel and how he's hurt you. But, it's worth remembering that you can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped, and if he really won't change, it may be better for both of you to walk away.

You're definitely right with that Sophia, you cannot help someone, unless he/she is willing to be helped.

Much better thing to do? Just wait the moment until he realize his wrong doings. If not, Sophia (talaiporia) is right, it may be better both of you to walk away.

[Comagese]

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Originally Posted by Hisn1977

You're definitely right with that Sophia, you cannot help someone, unless he/she is willing to be helped.

Much better thing to do? Just wait the moment until he realize his wrong doings. If not, Sophia (talaiporia) is right, it may be better both of you to walk away.

Hi Everyone! Hi Laura :) I read about your conversation. I think they are right. Although he your close friend you don't need to push yourself to please someone, if he is not willing to be helped. Just wait for right moment that he realized everything. You should let him walk away for him to realize that he needs you in his life. Like you, I’ve been there before, and you know what after I let him go because he always fight me when he drunk. One day, he came back and he apologized for all the bad things he done to me and he told me that he realized all of those things (Friendly Advice and Suggestions) that I’ve told to him. Try to talk to him with patience when he is not drunk and say all the things you want to tell to him. You don't have to be afraid of, just do it and clarify everything to him. You can do it my friend.