I wouldn't worry too much about you're kids speech. My friends son who is 3 months younger than Faith hardly speaks at all (2 and a half). He's beginning to say words now...Even if his mother isn't teaching him the proper words for the things he's learning.
If Faith does anything naughty, she gets a count to three to stop her behaviour and if she doesn't then I put her through to her room. Same goes if she is throwing a tantrum as she got wise to the time outs and started putting herself on them.
I've done the naughty step since Elliot was 1 and he didn't understand it then but I think he's now grasped the concept so I think it's just because its what we've always done with him rather than him being clever or anything.
Yeah they learn through re-enforcement. Its brilliant he understands what the naughty step is for though Sam!
I'm feeling a bit put out at the moment by one of my friends. She's continuously boasting about all the new stuff her son is doing (same friend that I mentioned yesterday). She messaged me yesterday after she had finished work to tell me that her son was dry through the night (Sunday night), but the way she phrased it, it felt like she was trying to rub it in my face. She knows I've struggled toilet training Faith, and even though she can be dry all day we do get the occasional days where she isn't. I know all kids do things when they're ready and in their own time and I'm not worried about Faith not being dry through the night at the moment cause I know it takes time. But yeah, its left me feeling a bit put out.
My main problem just now is that I just don't have the confidence in myself and in Faith to take her into Aberdeen (1 hour bus journey/25 min train journey) in pants and for her to tell me every time she needs a pee. We went into Aberdeen a couple of weeks ago and she wanted to wear pants and I would have let her if it wasn't for the hour bus journey (couldn't use the train cause we were running late) so I convinced her to wear a pull up and then once we got into town she didn't want it off. In a way, I'm glad she didn't want it off cause she fell asleep in the buggy and because she had drank a lot in a short time she peed and I didn't have time to change her before the bus home cause we were running late to catch it. She ended up leaking through her pull up about 15 mins from home.
Should I just have confidence in her next weekend when we have a soft play birthday party in Aberdeen and put her in pants and have a towel on her buggy just in case, even if I'm not confident myself?
Chloe was 4 1/2 before she was dry at night, I didn't 'try' with her, I waited til she got up in the night to use the toilet or potty reliably, then knocked the nappies on the head. As far as teaching not to touch we used the 'smack hand' thing from an early age, saying 'no - smack hand' and smacking our own hand to show what we meant. If they carried on we said 'no - smack hand' and held their hand and smacked our own again, eventually we would tap their hand if they carried on. Usually they'd stop and cry when we just smacked our own hands, different things wowork for different kids, we had to start early coz by 8 months chloe would climb up the fireguard
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I haven't got Faith up through the night to pee cause I don't want to force her. My friend that was boasting didn't with her son either. We take her too pee before bed (use pull up nappies at night) and tonight she hasn't had anything to drink since about half 5 -5.45 with her dinner.
Beautifully Broken, the best thing to do once you potty train is to keep them in pants and not put them into nappies/pulls when you're going out because it can confuse them and so take it longer to grasp potty training fully. If she wets when she's out, she wets/poos it happens. Just make sure you're prepared with spare clothes and give her regular reminders and ask if she needs to go etc
As for the night time thing, that's completely different, most two year olds aren't dry through the night and that can take a good few years to crack. My daughter came out of nappies at night when she had just turned 3, a whole year after she was potty trained, and that was from me taking her to the toilet before i went to bed, she then got into the routine to get herself up at that time going to the toilet and back to bed. Each child is different and different things work for different children/parents. I really wouldn't worry about being dry at night time yet
It's so easy to get lost in constantly having to present
whatever face you believe a person wants to see rather than your own
She's in pants pretty much all the time, its just for longer trips now where I put her in pull ups but usually she's dry then too...I just fret that she's not going to ask me. I remind her regularly about the toilet and usually when the kids are playing at one of my friends houses or at mine, if one needs then they all go. I think I just lack confidence in her telling me even though I know she probably would.
It'll be fine! all children have accidents so don't worry about it! if you know you're going on a long bus journey or somewhere with no toilets, make her go for a wee before you go and limit drinks for that period.
It's so easy to get lost in constantly having to present
whatever face you believe a person wants to see rather than your own
I have a slight issue, but i'm probably being silly.
I've just done the first part of a paediatric first aid course. There are 2 sessions altogether. We did CPR on 3 dummies, a baby, a child and an adult.
It was great and i actually really enjoyed it, but when the trainer asked us to practice on the dummies, every single parent (12 others) expressed concerns about doing it on the baby one, they were quite upset by it and a couple refused to do it.
I'm a bit worried because it didn't concern me one little bit, i wouldn't have given it a thought if the other parents hadn't said anything.
I'm worried there is something wrong with me, like I don't care enough.
If practicing CPR and pushing down really hard on this baby's chest didn't affect me in the slightest then is there a part of me that just doesn't care?
I'm fine! Totally fine. I don't know why it's coming out all loud and squeaky, 'cause really, I'm fine!
I have a slight issue, but i'm probably being silly.
I've just done the first part of a paediatric first aid course. There are 2 sessions altogether. We did CPR on 3 dummies, a baby, a child and an adult.
It was great and i actually really enjoyed it, but when the trainer asked us to practice on the dummies, every single parent (12 others) expressed concerns about doing it on the baby one, they were quite upset by it and a couple refused to do it.
I'm a bit worried because it didn't concern me one little bit, i wouldn't have given it a thought if the other parents hadn't said anything.
I'm worried there is something wrong with me, like I don't care enough.
If practicing CPR and pushing down really hard on this baby's chest didn't affect me in the slightest then is there a part of me that just doesn't care?
Or you have the ability to emotionally detach yourself when needed. If a baby had a heart attack, you'd be far more use than someone who worried too much to do it properly.
Beckie I wouldn't worry about it. I have done pediatric first aid courses before for uni and it doesn't bother me to do it on the baby or child dolls. Of course you never want to be in a situation where you need it but if you are then you need to be able to detach your feelings and get on with it to potentially save that child's life. Nobody else on the courses I have been on have had a problem with doing it.
You're entirely bonkers. But I'll tell you a secret. All the best people are.
Its a horrible thing to think about but it is an incredibly useful thing to know and if you aren't comfortable doing it to a maniquin how do you expect yourself to able to do it to a child.
I had a medical emergency at work once and was surrounded by first aiders non of whom felt up to treating, scariest moments of my life, don't do the qualification if you aren't up for administering what you learnt. So I would much rather any children of mine to be around you than those that refused to do it. I think it shows that you are more pragmatic that the average (hope that is the right word!) and in my books that is a positive more than a negative.
It was annoying because a group of young mums who obviously knew each other were just messing about most of the time. They were the ones who didn't want to do it.
I thought they same, wondering why they were at the course if they didn't want to do it?! Grrr
I'm fine! Totally fine. I don't know why it's coming out all loud and squeaky, 'cause really, I'm fine!
I'm thinking of moving into the hospital I spend that much time there! :P
I was visiting my grandma this afternoon and fell on my way out so I ended up back upstairs while they hooked me up to the monitor and sorted out my anti d. Not impressed though, they forgot about me and so I was there even longer than needs be. While I was on the monitor they said I was having regular 'tightenings' and they got stronger as I was on the monitor. Her head is well down in my pelvis so hopefully she will make a move soon.
You're entirely bonkers. But I'll tell you a secret. All the best people are.
I think Elliot is quiet advanced or Lucas is very slow because he is 17 months and doesn't talk apart from saying "cat, dada and no" and he doesn't seem to understand a lot of what we say. He understands "no" but just thinks its a game and laughs and keeps doing it or just says no back. If I put him on the naughty step then he just gets up straight away and when I keep doing it he laughs and thinks its a game. He doesn't seem to understand. It's really frustrating because he almost pulled the TV On top of himself today and wouldn't stop doing it.
Elliot seems advanced. Dylan is the same in thinking no is funny. He hasn't very many words either nor does he understand many instructions.
Maybe just have to continue removing him and enforcing a rule for naughty behavior when he is a little older. Eg time out or toy taken away.
