There are times to stay put, and what you want will come to you.
But there are times to go out into the world and find such a thing for yourself.
I aint no abacus but you can count on me.
yeah i struggle with keeping up with the fast pace of it all.also when i first came into chat i got scared off as one person asked me my real name as they thought they knew me (which fortunately they didn't) but that was pretty rude and someone else in answer to my question where i literally said i was getting bad nightmares or something does anyone else get that just went no and that was it really blunt,so i felt really on my own so i thought yeah the majority of people are lovely on here but that really put me off chat so thats why i haven't been back in a nutshell.
"And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back so shake him off."
Chat is usually really quiet in my timezone, but then there were many lovely moments I had with Zoe et al., back when i could stay up crazy hours. Now I think I'm just too busy and forget to go in, also I use my mobile to access RYL mostly these days.
I keep meaning to get back into chat because I always see some very lovely people, but it's like a time eating device, and I'm also trying to get an education.which involves a lot of study. I do miss the cool cats I spoke with though.
I only ever used chat in the beginning but found it extremely cliquey and exclusive and it made me feel terrible.
Often I would speak and got completely ignored, everyone seemed to know everyone else and the people who werent known werent acknowledged. When I tried to bring this up, someone who I am not going to name started basically making fun of me.
So I gave up and didnt come on for a few years - id still drop in to chat but not often.
Then I went on my first meet and realised the forums were a MUCH more inclusive environment so I stayed there.
Went to chat 7 times. There was a fight 7 times. That was awhile ago though. Forums feel like sitting in a park. Chat felt more like a pub with people yelling over each other
I'm extremely shy and private. I don't even accept PMs anymore because someone sent me a random message one day asking if I wanted to chat - it was perfectly friendly but it really freaked me out. I feel more protected on the forum - even though it's public, I feel much more invisible.
And the illusion of love is the only promise of defence, and even that will crumble.
Went to chat 7 times. There was a fight 7 times. That was awhile ago though. Forums feel like sitting in a park. Chat felt more like a pub with people yelling over each other
But I like the pub. :P
Chat is less fighty now, it's got a lot better in the last year, two years.
It doesn't matter where you come from; it matters where you go.
No-one gets remembered for the things they didn't do.
We won't all be here this time next year,
so while you can take a picture of us.
We're definitely going to hell,
but we'll have all the best stories to tell.
I stay on the forums more than chat - I do venture into chat every now & then. People always seem to be lovely in there so I don't know why people think it's a scary place to go. I just stay in the forums more because I get distracted so I don't want to be chatting away in chat and then look in another window and forget about them!
DILLIGAF
"it’s when you’re acting selflessly, that you are at your bravest"
- Four.
♥
So I gave up and didnt come on for a few years - id still drop in to chat but not often.
Most people who were on chat years ago don't even go there anymore... it's even very different than it was last year.
The best way to get people in chat to talk to you is to go in so they get to know you and you get to know them. A lot of people are shy around people they don't know (something that I figure should be understood here) and feel uncomfortable openly chatting to people who never ever come in chat. I figure this is fuelled when it is people seen on the forums a lot but never in chat. Because you figure they are avoiding us because we're so "scary and cliquey" that it's a bit awkward when they do come in. Also, I've been coming here for a couple years and at least twenty times a week I'll go into a very busy room in chat and nobody will say hi to me (like just now! :D). A lot of the time people completely ignore me. But hey, that's life. I personally haven't made many friends or conversations via the forum. As I find it currently very, very, very, very cliquey, much more so than chat has been in a long time.
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People always seem to be lovely in there so I don't know why people think it's a scary place to go.
Also, this. I remember you coming in a small handful of times and everyone was lovely. People in chat aren't usually spontaneously terrible to people, especially names from the forum. Usually it's, "Wow, you never come in here!" and a chorus of welcomes. lol So I'm not sure people who say chat is scary have really given it that much of a chance. Sure, drama happens. But believe me there is extensive drama on this peaceful park of a forum haha! I usually visit the forum for drama as chat never has any. :p
No,it may feel that way to you but chat isnt at all exclusive.Maybe give it another try before you bad mouth it :)
There are times to stay put, and what you want will come to you.
But there are times to go out into the world and find such a thing for yourself.
I aint no abacus but you can count on me.
I don't think i've ever been ignored in there either before, even if I don't speak first! I really should go in there more.
Exactly, you should :D
There are times to stay put, and what you want will come to you.
But there are times to go out into the world and find such a thing for yourself.
I aint no abacus but you can count on me.
I have given it plenty of tries since I joined RYL and have always had the same findings. So am not "bad mouthing" anything, without good reason.
I am entitled to my opinion, as everyone else has given theirs related to both forum and chat - I was answering the question that the OP posted.
This is my experience of chat.
I dont think I have said youre not allowed to give your opinion,let me know if I did though.
What I am saying is maybe give it another try now as you havent been in 'since the beginning.'
There are times to stay put, and what you want will come to you.
But there are times to go out into the world and find such a thing for yourself.
I aint no abacus but you can count on me.
:\ I said I have tried it several times since the beginning - including recently. I have always had the same findings, therefore I prefer the forums.
Also, I never said that you said I couldnt give my opinion - I am merely saying that I am entitled to it since you said "no, chat isnt at all exclusive" - it may not be to others or to you, but in my opinion and experience it is.
That's all.
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