Inappropriate things to say to someone who self harms

[82dragons]

"are you going to tear up your sexy legs?" from my concerned boyfriend. I know he didn't mean any harm but it still hurt :/

[Lone Star]

The worst one I've been told is "Why don't you just cut your whole arm off?"

Then one time someone told me "If you really want to feel pain, why don't you rub salt and lemons in the wounds after you cut cuz you don't know what real pain is".

I did so, and I think that's when that person noticed things were really bad.

The one that hurt me the most was when I was asked what happened to my arm by this girl I really liked and she gave me a bad attitude for telling her the truth.

[Blue&Grey]

"Your daughter is the worst case I've seen it thirty years."

Said to my mother from a doctor who stitched me up. I was mad at him for saying that because it really shook my mom up. Also, I kind of felt like a freak :/

[Imamotherfudgingpirate]

"Y'know what, I don't think you even mean half the things you say, you probably just quote it off the internet!" (We were talking about why I self harm, I said "It makes me feel better" this was my mother's reply.)

This one is depression, as opposed to self harm, "Y'know I don't believe you even are depressed." (Also my mother. Before this she was all, YOU THINK YOU KNOW BETTER THAN THE PSYCHIATRIST, YOU HEAR WHAT YOU WANT TO HEAR, kinda thing, then after the psychiatrist diagnosed me and prescribed me anti-depressants (which she signed for, and collected my prescription - only to then blank refuse to let me take any medication - i know right, mindblowing) she's saying I'm not depressed.. because of course, i may not know better than a psychiatrist, but she does... Hypocrite.)

"I should just drag her down to bridgend (this is our nearest mental hospital) tell them she's on a path of self destruction, and that she'll end up killing herself and that she needs to be locked up." (my mother said this to my step-dad, safe to say I burst into tears)

"Clearly, you're doing everything you can to f*ck your life up and not become a doctor, I'm not going to pay for your UKCAT because you aren't even going to pass A-Levels. You should probably just take the year out and decide on something else to do instead." I've wanted to be a doctor for as long as I remember, and my mother knows this, and somehow thinks that crushing the only hope I have left (cause if my own mother doesn't believe in me, who will? How can I believe in me if even she doesn't?) is the way forward.

"Clearly you're trying to kill yourself!"

and "You WILL kill yourself, I can see it."

All of these were said by my mother. And she expects me to be able to talk to her?

[midnightphoenix]

"You're an attention seeking liar"

[DontLookUp]

"Self harmers are all emo looking kids" ... do i look emo to you?
"SH is just for attention" ... you dont have any idea that ive SH
"SH is for psychos"

just some of the lovely things people have commented about SH.

[FlyingNy]

I hate ignorant people who think it's for attention or 'emos'. Why do they think we hide it if we want attention?

And whatever happened to unconditional love from parents? Too many just don't understand or make it all about them.

"Do a better job of it next time so I have one less mouth to feed."- My dear parent on the one and only occasion known to them.

[livinginshadows1]

things my mum said
i asked if i could go ice skating "no best to keep u away from blades" (was quite amusing but not with how she said it)

"your not f...ing depressed so stop pretending you are!"

"your a selfish prick, do you even care what other people think"

"i'll bray the living day lights out of you..... on no forgot you would enjoy that"

and unconditional love from parents never exists not when they don't understand you as a person :L

[disenchantedxx]

"Self harm is so selfish"
"If you're sad you should focus on school work"
"You WILL stop"

[cloudedmind]

Quote:

Originally Posted by joyjoyandmimi

"If you're sad you should focus on school work"

Yes, because that really helps... ;) corr some people.

[jrod]

"You're such a wuss... Why don't you deal with your own problems and not whine about it to other people. I have my own problems and can control it so why can't you ?"

^ My "friend" told this to me after a few months of her helping me try to recover... She didn't even know why I cut.

[-Shae-Lynn*]

My dad, while taking apart a package we'd received:

"Here, you can do some constructive cutting!"

He didn't mean anything bad but it hurt.

[lau_83]

My friend to me " why not do something else instead"
Like I want to keep doing this.

[Kimaru]

"Here, let me do that. It's kind of scary seeing you with a knife"

From a co-worker when I was opening a box with a box cutter...like I do a dozen times a day, by myself, without incident...

He saw my arm when I was reaching for a box on a high shelf and although he never said anything he is always walking on eggshells around me and acting like I could snap at any moment...

[Imamotherfudgingpirate]

While I was still in hospital after an overdose, my mother says "Have you got a headache? Well, YOU SHOULDN'T DO!" she said it in good humour, actually, it was kinda funny. But still.

[Squid]

E said all of these over a couple of weeks:

'Just snap out of it, its not hard to stop.'

'You don't have bipolar your just lazy'

'You only told me that you cut because your attention seeking.'

[Icecube. Swirls]

My friends and family keep telling me

"Just don't listen to the voices, try and not to self harm, overdose or cut." - Well don't you think I'm trying, have you ever had voices in your head then you will know how hard it is for me.

[brokenbutterflies]

Quote:

Originally Posted by Squid

E said all of these over a couple of weeks:

'Just snap out of it, its not hard to stop.'

'You don't have bipolar your just lazy'

'You only told me that you cut because your attention seeking.'

Ive recently gotten...Your not depressed your just lazy.
Yeah mom, because its my goal in life to not have the motivation to do anything anymore. Wait to make me want to cut again....

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My friend asks for a cutter from the lab technician, but he tells my friend that he'll cut it for her because it's very sharp.
She replies: "I won't hurt myself with it, I'm not 'MY NAME'

That hurt even though she does not know I SH, but has seen some scars.

[ForeverVera43]

My dad once said "boys don't like girls who sh" - I love my dad but that definitely damanged my self esteem and my trust level for anyone went down the drain.
He also said "Do you want to be a grandma and still sh?" - this one just makes you think its eternal, like thanks for being positive about it stopping soon :/