Contains abuse - Ugh. This is why I don't talk to people.
Everything is becoming way to much. Normally I cope by hurting myself, but I'm trying to recover from that. I am usually not this...I don't know, but I opened up to someone whom I was close too (off of tumblr) about some things which happened and I regret that. So much, it only made thing worse. She started telling me how this was God's plan for me, and that there must of been something I did and that was my punishment. Excuse me for being a child. Tell me, how can a child deserve that? She said that if I had opened up to God and asked for help he would of helped...Oh I did. All those years. All that brought was more pain. When I told her that she said that I must not of been worthy for his help. I know that already. I'm just done. Done with fighting the memories. Done with everything.
Last edited by alive-and-breathing : 26-02-2013 at 12:13 AM.
That's horrible, I'm so sorry for what she said. That is so, so wrong and so cruel to tell you that. I hate it when my religion is misrepresented like that to hurt people so deeply.
Please feel free to pm me if you need anyone to talk stuff out to x
I am so sorry to hear what happened when you disclosed what you had experienced. As if you hadn't been through enough already.
You are absolutely right in what you said - how can a child deserve that? They can't. They really, really can't. You didn't do anything wrong. This wasn't a punishment from God and there wasn't anything you could or couldn't have done to change what happened to you.
I'm glad you reached out here. I hope you will know that this person is in the minority in terms of how they feel about what you disclosed. I know that I would be saying to you that you DIDN'T deserve it and it won't have made you look any less worthy in your God's eyes.
if that is truly what she thinks, she has totally missed the main point and purpose of her religion. and very uneducated about abuse and all that as well.
i wonder if it would help you to talk to a pastor about what she said, and see what they think of it... having a clergy member reassure you that what she said isn't true might help settle your mind... *hugs* in brief, the explanation that i've gotten for things like that is that not everything is "in God's plan" so to speak. God has a plan, but he also gave people free will, which means that we can thwart and throw off his plans (temporarily, because he will get you to where you're meant to be if you let him). he gave us free will, and some people use that to hurt others, even though that isn't at all what he wants for us. what happened to you was done by humans, not by God.
this is my magical medicine cabinet. Left to right they contain: courage, hope, calmness, and strength.
The magical part: They NEVER run out, so borrow some any time you want.
Emilie Diabolica- It's okay, well it's not but in way it is. I mean I'm used to it. Thank you, I'll remember that <3 Same goes for you.
Noodle- Thanks for taking the time to reply, it means a lot. I know no child deserves it but I'm the exception I believe. However, what I did wrong? that's me being born. I know, or well I'm trying to believe that.
Passed Expectations- She always had talked to me like that. Those comments she made above just pissed me off more then anything she has said. I can't talk to a pastor or anyone related to Church. I don't believe in God. There's too many bad memories associated with God, Church,,and all that. In a sense she is right, but yeah. Thanks for explaining, I mean I guess her views are just different. I know humans did it, but yeah. Thanks for the reply <3
Sorry for the late reply, I had replied to everyone off my phone, but apparently it was being stupid and didn't want to post.
i'm impressed that you manage to stay friends with her... i'm christian and get frustrated when people spout super religious stuff at me when i'm struggling, i cant imagine that i would be able to handle it if i was atheist...
this is my magical medicine cabinet. Left to right they contain: courage, hope, calmness, and strength.
The magical part: They NEVER run out, so borrow some any time you want.
Oh I get frustrated a lot..but I just don't let her see. Since I only talk to her on tumblr it's okay..like I can get mad in my head but not at her. If that makes any sense.
I am so sorry that someone you thought you could trust with this hurt you by essentially dismissing it. It was incredibly brave of you to tell someone in the first place and although it may be disheartening please don't be put off by confiding in someone else. Sometimes it really does pay off. I got incredibly drunk on a work night out the last month and told someone that I was a cutter in a stupid drunken confession. Not only has she kept my confidence but has also been very supportive and open minded. Please don't hesitate to get in touch with myself or another member if you need someone to talk to.
