I'm so happy! A couple nights ago (the twelfth) I came out as gay to her over text :D I didn't know where to post this, but it's sort of a happy light topic I think. Here's the conversation:
Me: Alright well. I'm not sure how to actually say it
Her: What?
Me: I need to tell you something. I've only ever told one person (Jane) and I really need you to not freak out.
Her: Is this about what you told me in the beginning of the year?
Me: Not really
Her: Ok
Me: I'm actually doing pretty well with that. I haven't done anything in weeks
Me: Ok. I'm gay.
Her: Honestly, I'm not actually sure how to respond. I'm not freaking out. I'm just surprised.
Me: Ok. I don't really know what else to say
Her: How long have you known this?
Me: A long time. I realized I wasn't straight in middle school, though. I tried to be for a while after that.
Her: Ok. Because you've told me of guys you liked before.
Her: Are you gonna tell anyone else soon? Don't worry I absolutely promise I won't.
Me: Yeah, I know. You mean Peter, right? I sort of "decided" to like him :/ I'd realized it had been a while since I'd liked a guy.
I'll probably tell Livi soon. I might come out to my mom after Christmas. I don't know, though. You have no idea how big a deal coming out to you is right now. Thanks for not freaking out
Her: I think that telling Livi first is a good idea. I know it must be a big deal for you and it means a lot that you trust me so much.
Me: Your basically my best friend I'm so glad I've told you
Her: Well you know I'm always here for you.
I also haven't self harmed in weeks! I think that learning to accept myself is really helping me become happier and less inclined to sh.
The way I see it, every life is a pile of good things and bad things. Good things don't always soften the bad things, but vice versa, the bad things don't necessarily spoil the good things or make them unimportant. - 11th Doctor
One may have a blazing hearth in one's soul and yet no one ever comes to sit by it. Passersby see only a whisp of smoke rising from the chimney and continue on their way. (Vincent van Gogh)
I was terrified! My friend is a Christian (as is everyone I know, myself included) so I wasnt quite sure how she would take it. But her brother is gay and she's accepting of him, so I went for it :)
The way I see it, every life is a pile of good things and bad things. Good things don't always soften the bad things, but vice versa, the bad things don't necessarily spoil the good things or make them unimportant. - 11th Doctor
One may have a blazing hearth in one's soul and yet no one ever comes to sit by it. Passersby see only a whisp of smoke rising from the chimney and continue on their way. (Vincent van Gogh)
I hate the fact that people in general have to 'come out' at all. It's not like people have to come out as straight. It also adds on to the whole idea of deception, which it really really isn't.
Well done you though. It's a hard thing to do.
The world is just illusion always trying to change me.
You will find wonder wherever you can, and spread joy whenever you are able.
I felt emotions of gentleness and pleasure, that had long appeared dead, divide within me. - Frankenstein.
That's so great! Glad I read this, made my night. :)
Well done to you for being so brave! Glad things are going well for you. :D
The only thing more unthinkable than leaving was staying; the only thing more impossible than staying was leaving. I didn't want to destroy anything or anybody. I just wanted to slip quietly out the back door, without causing any fuss or consequences, and then not stop running until I reached Greenland.
Elizabeth Gilbert
Congrats!!
I've done a fair bit of coming out in my life (I'm bisexual, though I much prefer girls, so for a long time I just said I was lesbian). I was so scared but everyone I actually cared about was fine with it and it was a really liberating experiance.
I'm glad that you best friend was so accepting and I hope everyone else that matters to you is as well. If you ever need to talk about coming out or anything feel free to pm me.
Subtract out the impact
And the fall is all you get - Ani DiFranco, So What
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The way I see it, every life is a pile of good things and bad things. Good things don't always soften the bad things, but vice versa, the bad things don't necessarily spoil the good things or make them unimportant. - 11th Doctor
One may have a blazing hearth in one's soul and yet no one ever comes to sit by it. Passersby see only a whisp of smoke rising from the chimney and continue on their way. (Vincent van Gogh)
Actually, alot of trans* people hate the idea of 'coming out' because it suggest that they have been deceiving people when they have just been living their lives as who they are.
The world is just illusion always trying to change me.
You will find wonder wherever you can, and spread joy whenever you are able.
I felt emotions of gentleness and pleasure, that had long appeared dead, divide within me. - Frankenstein.
I'm sorry.
I only personally know one transgender (mtf) person. She's quite a good friend of mine. She talks about "coming out". I didn't realise it was offensive. Sorry again.
Subtract out the impact
And the fall is all you get - Ani DiFranco, So What
^ Given the fact that gay people only make up approximately 10% of the population that is actually relatively unusual, although I have noticed a fair few gay people are drawn into the gay community and have an understandably disproportionate amount of gay/trans/whatever friends.
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Reason: reference to deleted post.
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