Yeah, unaccompanied leave only happens in stage 3. Stage 1 is around 3 months long, stage 2 is around 6 months long and stage 3 is around 3 months long. It's not bang on leave the day you came a year later, it depends on how fast you progress and ''get it'' if that makes sense?
There are now 5 patients, 6 patients in a couple of weeks. It's a 12 bed unit and they aim to fill it by around next April when it first started. I was told by a member of staff a few days ago that we should all be bloody grateful for having a bed because they vet people very carefully and most are rejected. Apparantly they have interviewed loads of people but turned them down.
I was in a bad place before coming here and I got a few backs up but I hope I can return with a clean slate now I am able to think more clearly and hopefully I can get back to supporting others too.
Thanks for taking the time to write on this thread. xx
GRANT ME THE SERENITY TO ACCEPT THE THINGS I CANNOT CHANGE
THE COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS I CAN
AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE
Hello sweetie,
I know I haven't really posted here, but I have been following your thread and I just wanted you to know that I think you're doing a very brave hard thing. I'm really proud of you :)
Love and hugs,
Heaven x
Just tonight, I wont leave and I'll lie and you'll believe. Just tonight I will see, that it's all because of me
I've been following your thread too and am also really proud of you. Well done for moving up a stage, I can imagine it must have been very hard work and scary to get more freedom but you seem to be doing really well. I'm sorry to hear about the bullying, that's really not on, I hope it calms down soon x
I've been in this unit 4 1/2 months now believe it or not! Another 8 months to go : (
You stay usually more than a year you see.
i think i would go nuts locked in the same place for a year. i am on the other side of the pond where hospital stays are extremely short. do you find it helpful to be inpatient for such a long length of time? that is a question for anyone by the way.
for staying in the program even with all the bullying. that shows real dedication to recovery.
for staying in the program even with all the bullying. that shows real dedication to recovery.
thank you, that's very kind
It is very hard and sometimes I feel like I'm going nuts but I spent the age of 15 to 23 in 11 different hospitals and units without any breaks into foster care so 8 years versus 1 and a bit makes it so different.
I think you have to be careful not to get institutionalised when IP. That's the key to staying sane. I miss my pets the most because you can't explain to them why you ''abandoned'' them where a human can usually be explained to.
xx
GRANT ME THE SERENITY TO ACCEPT THE THINGS I CANNOT CHANGE
THE COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS I CAN
AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE
I miss my pets the most because you can't explain to them why you ''abandoned'' them where a human can usually be explained to.
xx
that is true but one thing i have found is that pets know when we aren't doing well and it is really hard on them. i know i have gone away for 2-3 months to an eating disorder treatment facility and when i came back better, my pets knew. pets live so much in the moment that it is almost like we have never been gone. hopefully you will be a much better place when you get out and that will make the whole year or so of time just disappear for your pets. they would much rather have a you feeling better even for a shorter period than to watch you suffer in the long term.
I just wanted to empathise with the pets thing. I went into a unit for a year and I had to give up my dog. I was devastated but knew it was for the best because I couldn't care for her properly before I went into thte unit and she was basically in and out of kennels. She went to a a lovely home with another toy poodle. I miss her and hope one day I will be well enough to have a pet again.
I really hope you are progressing ok at the unit. it sounds like it's hard work but i hope yo will reap the benefits.
You dont need to destroy yourself anymore, we all know you were good at that,
now retire from all that hard work you do
of bringing pain to those sweet eyes and heart
hugs sorry have little words at the momment
but i wanna say i think ur really brave specially how u did deal with the bullying hope they stop soon hun
hugs take care
young girl its alright your tears will soon dry your soon be free to fly
she's falling from grace , she's all over the place..............
Your doing fab, well done for Graduating to stage 2 of the programme, it was your hard work that go you there, and I know you have so much more to give and take reward for.
I know the bullying has continued and some of the stuff they've said, done, and threatened is pure evil. Don't let their lack of interest in the therapy pull you away, use them as the example of what not to be. They'll come away empty handed, a year of their life WASTED, you will come out a year wiser, healthier and stronger. What doesn't kill you really does strengthen you, inside, somewhere, the experiance can be used to build yourself and your internal resources.
Keep going with reporting their behaviour, the criminal damage to the ward is just one example of how little respect they have for the world around them. Keep that in mind; they are aggressive and disrespectful to everyone and anything, staff, you and their environment. It is not you they are bullying persay, its their outside world. They are the common denominator, they are the problem, and they are the ones who should be punished. DBT ain't DBT if it doesn't teach consequences and emotional awareness for the self and others.
As I said on the phone, it appears the staff, of this new ward, what with patient after patient being added week on week, consecutively, staff are under-trained to deal with such challenging behaviour and they are scared. When a group of violent, abusive and disruptive individuals is put on a ward where many staff have a lack of experiance, there are bound to be moments when they give in and cannot maintain the consistency of consequence. Its their problem however and should never have impacted on you. I am sure C will be on their backs so that you are not penalised in terms of staff time, just because they choose to kick off when you need to be escorted up to your bedroom, you earnt the right to be on level 2, it is them who should their fag breaks removed, for their distruption, not you being told to wait on the ground floor till their fights and disruptive behaviour has been sorted out. The staff know you are a reasonable person, who will wait, patiently, however this is not to be taken advantage of just because a bunch of other people are more troublesome when asked, quite fairly to behaviour.
I send all my love, as does F, we both think you are doing tip-top! Under all the circumstances, I am therefore immensely proud.
Send me a text with the details of the ward/a weekend you'd like me to come and visit :) Sorry I haven't been in contact much since you've been admitted :( I do think of you often. Really can't wait to see you. The public transport training scheme has been recommenced and going well :P
Love you!
sticks and stones may break your bones but words can tear your heart out.
for staying in the program even with all the bullying. that shows real dedication to recovery.
recovery is really worth it x
