Cant trust my family

[happiness...its all a lie]

I dont know if this is the right place but im just getting seriously hacked off at the moment.

I tend to binge eat a lot and always have a supply of food in my bedside draw. Anyways from time to time bits go missing but my boyfriend didnt really believe my own family would go in my draws so we did a test. We left a bar of chocolate in my draw where all my mental health letters are and my journal etc so all my private stuff. When we got back off holiday it was gone and my brother admitted to taking it- so he had gone in my room without permission and through my stuff to get the chocolate. I told him not too as there is private stuff and i dont want him in my room he said sorry and that he wouldnt do it again.

Anyways on sunday i took my bf home but ended up staying at his due to a panic/anxiety attack, i had planned on going home so left my supplies in a different draw. I got home to find 3 out of 4 bags gone. I asked my mum and she said it must have been my brother i went mental and said hes going in my room stealing from me, hes a thief and has no respect for me -yes only chocolate but still thats not the point and going through my personal stuff if it was the other way round he wouldnt like it. So i txt my brother asking if he liked stealing from me, he apologised and replaced it. Then i saw my mum had eaten one of the bags and never admitted to it or said anything but quite happily let me call my brother a thief even though she too had been in my draws as well as telling me how wrong it was of my brother!!! hypocrite or what???

So yeah im really angry i feel like i have no privacy and all my secrets are known by people because it appears they are quite happy to go through all my stuff without asking. I told my brother not too because of my private things and he said i just went for chocolate and i said thats not the point its my private stuff anyways he just got angry with me and wouldnt listen to what i said.

This is supposed to be my home, my room is my sanctuary where i keep myself to myself and safe. Yet my family just destroy it by going through my stuff. I cant keep anything in there anymore incase they read it. Or if they have already i dont know i just cant trust them anymore and my boyfriend doesnt get why i dont ask them for support or believe they care because they just disrespect me and think so little of me to go through my personal stuff.

Am i being too sensitive or am i right to think my family dont respect me or give a dam about my thoughts and feelings?

[Niniane]

Personally, I think you're right. You have a right to privacy, and they certainly have no right to go looking up into your private things like that. Clearly, you're not overreacting. I always go mental when my parents do something like that. I've told them so many times not to get into my room that they ended up nor doing.
Have you talked to your mother about what you found out ? Also, if they won't stop, what about putting a lock on those drawers ?

[fuzzy_sweets]

I do not think your over reacting. Your bedroom should be a place of sanctuary and somewhere you can have your belongings without fear of them being stolen. If possible i would get a lock or safe for things you do not want them to touch.

[happiness...its all a lie]

Well im away at the weekend so im going to put all my personal stuff in my suitcase and lock it as a temporary measure, as no one will come in if im here.

I told my mum and told her why i was upset- not about the sweets but that i have private personal stuff in there and its not right for anyone to go in there. She agreed but wouldnt say anything to me about her going in there. She was ok and knew what i was saying but im just going to hide it now.

I cant put a lock on the draws but i am going to find somewhere else to put it where i know people wont find it. I love my room its the only place i feel comfortable and where im not being judged and it feels violated.

Thank you for your replies makes me feel better that im not over reacting about it.

[pea soup]

I'm so sorry they have taken away your privacy. My family has done the same to me many times and it hurts. My mother has just stolen $2500 from me. I had an inheritance from my grandma and my mother had to have control of it because I'm on disability. She just took it and I had no idea until I asked her to send me some money and she told me that there was none left because she had to take it. I will no longer trust her. I understand what your going through and I know and it's a helpless feeling. I hope things get better for you.

loves.
xxxx

[CrazyAboutMonkeys]

Haven't you tried the lockbox with the keyhole with your personal stuffs in it?? I thought that it might be works best for you and your bedroom. No one should invade in your room anymore so you can have it all your bedroom for comfort & feeling the best.

Good luck!

[Mandimoo]

My parents use one of these to lock their top drawer as they have to lock away all medicines as foster carers http://www.wickes.co.uk/content/ebiz...ocks_large.jpg

[happiness...its all a lie]

Thanks guys. Im sorry peasoup your mums theft is a lot worse than mine but im sorry it happened.

Thankfully my brother is leaving soon so wont be going through my stuff but we shall see, i give up on everything my leg is broke and my relationship ended and everythings a mess tbh