Thank you for listening. I've made this thread because I can't seem to stop binge eating right now. Things are difficult and I am quite suicidal, so binge eating, while unhealthy, is my way of changing my focus and numbing myself to the pain.
But because I am suicidal due to my weight, it's obviously not helping matters. It also means I'm turning back to laxatives even though I know they do nothing and are bad for me.
I'd like some suggestions please at to how to stop binging. What can I tell myself to stop me using food in this manner, how can I stop myself from buying the food, what can I do?
Thank you in advance for any advice you may have.
Love,
Aimee x
Aimee love, I'm not sure what you can tell yourself. Perhaps you could try and take five minutes every time you want to get food or have the urge to and get a pen and paper and wrote put what it is you are numbing yourself from? Or even just some pros and cons to doing it? Another thing you could do is write letters to friends.
Can you stock up on fruit and veg, and have them handy. Things that crunch and take chewing are great, they'll fill you but also give your brain the satisfaction of going through the process of the binge cycle. Grapes ae good for random things to pop in your mouth.
Also, are you familiar with the concept of eating mindfully? I know that can sometimes help when you're feeling like overeating. Listen to your body. And try to find other things to "fill you up." I know that's so much harder than it sounds, and I'm sorry I haven't much better advice.
If you want to talk about why you're feeling like this, we're here. :)_
I think maybe I'm going to have to try and make myself more accountable - maybe write what I eat down each day. I think it would work to help me think about it first if I write it down, it's worked in the past but usually leads me to stop eating. I think maybe if I can find a good book to write it down in or maybe an app I'll give it a go. I'm just worried I'll forget but maybe I need to set tiny goals, like doing it for a full day, then two, then five etc.
I wonder how I can make myself accountable for these goals? I don't want to waste time bumping up this thread.
Carmen & Ash, thank you (and Ritzi and Ilana!). I do have professional support, I see a psychologist and am about to see my psychiatrist next week for the first time in several months.
Setting yourself goals sounds like a good plan. What sort of goals would they be? Make sure you start small. You don't want to set yourself up for failure.
Writing down what you eat may help too, but not if it's going to make you stop eating all together so I would think some more about that one.
I don't know about the accountability thing, I don't really have any suggestions for that other than just try.
Maybe instead of writing down what you eat each day you could come up with a meal plan. One that won't be too much and put you off, but something manageable and that will fill you up enough that you don't feel such a strong need to binge. Just a thought.
Well I have wrote down what I ate all day. I did well until dinner where I ate something terrible for me, but at least I am writing it down and that was my first goal.
Maybe I could do a star chat like you did and have rewards.. that seemed helpful and I like getting stuff, haha.
I know it's a bit weak... but I would struggle with a meal plan right now. I think maybe after a few days of recording my food I'll be more ready for a meal plan though, so I'll try it.
It's not as easy when some people say "to just not buy it" when you are stuck in that mindset. How does it make you feel writing things down? Because I don't want you to get in your head "oh, have I eaten that much today?" and make yourself feel worse seeing it.
You could also reward yourself by buying some nice nail polish or a new top for winter etc? Sorry if this hasn't helped and has only made you feel worse. I didn't mean to.
