The other day my sister and I were talking. She was venting to me about her husband. Recently they have been in fights ( this is nothing new ), and she says she has had just about enough of it. Her husband is very mentally ill, and I feel as if everyone but my sister can realize this. She is standing there telling me how badly he treats her, and I cannot grasp why she is still with him.
The other day she was getting dressed to take their 2 young children to soccer practice, and she though she looked pretty. Aparently, so did her husband, only he though she was too pretty. He yelled at her for dressing too pretty and asked her who she was meeting, implying she was cheating on him. So that day he accompanied the family to soccer practice for the first time, simply with the intent to supervise his wife.
He is obveously over protective and is paranoid on this issue. This has caused a seperation before, but like any 'good' abusive husband he always shows up to the door with flowers to apologize. Last time the break up ending violently, leaving my sister with a bruise and the locks had to be changed for saftey. As of today they are together, and he grows more violent. His violent and uncontolable tendencies and influencing his son, leading to serious problems with behavior.
He checks her phone, doesn't allow her to talk to friends, and drives
away the friends they do manage to have. He was a coach in his son's football last year, and was asked to no longer return because of violence and language with other coaches. My sister is going basically insane with him. So why does she stay with him.
I'm familiar with abuse situations and why one would stay with an abusive lover, but my sister is not like these women. I asked, and the children, need to be loved, and financial support was not an issue. So why does she stay with him? I'm not sure what I can do, It hurts me to see her struggle. He is not good or safe for the family. I know I cannot simply make my sister's decision for her, so what do I do? I cannot just stand by and watch.
( I forgot to mention they have tried therapy and counselling several times before )
