I have really enjoyed reading every ones responses and it has defiantly shed some light on the subject for me. I admit I love living in my own little fantasy world but I do see the reality of it.
I recently started dating a friend of mine who I have had a crush on for awhile now and I care for him very much. He makes me feel special and beautiful so my opinion about the soul mate thing has changed somewhat. I still believe in soul mates but I also realize that you could possibly have more than one soul mate in this world and nothing is set in stone. People change and life changes an we can't control these things. I don't care about waiting for a soul mate because I am happy with my boyfriend and he makes me feel happier than I have felt in years so I am just going to enjoy it as it is and deal with whatever comes. Life is to short to spend time pinning away for someone that you aren't even sure you will ever find and who is to say you haven't already found someone who is right for you.
I don't care if I sound like a corny love struck girl because I am enjoying my life for the first time in a long time so none of the other stuff matters at the moment.
“I didn't want to wake up. I was having a much better time asleep.
And that's really sad. It was almost like a reverse nightmare,
like when you wake up from a nightmare you're so relieved.
I woke up into a nightmare.”
― Ned Vizzini
Well honestly I dont believe in love. Period. I believe we only seek out someone because as animals we are we dont want to be alone, now then anything further than that is merely a chemical response to our natural animalistic desires (I.E. Sex, mating, company, ect ect). But Personally I say Love doesnt exist, because as far as argument goes I'll go with the classic response to it, it goes against our primal instinct to **** as much as possible to populate the species, that doesnt mean I do that, but realistically I believe that.
Furthermore a "soul mate" or "love at first site" scenario is completely illogical in that what if your "soul mate" lives halfway across the world and you never plan on going there, or you go somewhere not exactly where they are... You would never meet. Or with the commmon belief that everyone is born with a "soul mate" what happens to the people who die alone? Or when theyre young? what happens to their "soul mate"?
So strictly speaking from a logical standpoint thres no love in this world, much less a soul mate.
Take me away, I just want out from this self-imprisoned self-made Hell. Don't be surprsed, this is your mind coming to life by self-sacrifice. This tragedy of death will walk hand in hand with every thought of regret. Blame yourself for what you've become. The mind is a powerful thing set to self-destruct.
~I, Dementia - Whitechapel~
I think that we do have 'soul mates', i don't think it has to be just one person though.
I think it's kinda like someone you connect with on an unconcious level - like having the same set of values/beliefs :)
Take too many pictures, laugh too much and love like you've never been hurt because every 60seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back
...don't be afraid your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin.
And @JDenning (my quote message isn't working!) that's not strictly true.
There's something called the sex for food theory; prehistoric women would 'give' hunters sex in return for the best bits of meat from a hunt. Then, when they became pregnant a bond was formed as the males want to see their offspring thrive.
So although our instinct is to just 'spread our seed' (obv males, not females!) our emotional attachments and the succession of race/population changed when we became sedentary.
Boo ya for archaeology degrees lol.
Take too many pictures, laugh too much and love like you've never been hurt because every 60seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back
...don't be afraid your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin.
Doesn't change my mind, because looking at modern society I think its sad that prehistoric man had more sense than modern then, because some men go get women pregnant and then leave and want nothing to do with their offspring, making your point a moot point, because that doesn't always happen in modern times, in fact a lot of time it doesn't.
Take me away, I just want out from this self-imprisoned self-made Hell. Don't be surprsed, this is your mind coming to life by self-sacrifice. This tragedy of death will walk hand in hand with every thought of regret. Blame yourself for what you've become. The mind is a powerful thing set to self-destruct.
~I, Dementia - Whitechapel~
Also I'm loving conversation, I was talking with a friend about this the other day and she said she thinks that our soul mate could be a friend, and we could have many... thoughts?
Also I'm loving conversation, I was talking with a friend about this the other day and she said she thinks that our soul mate could be a friend, and we could have many... thoughts?
Hmm I find that theory to be very possible. I think honestly it could be anyone and that doesn't necessarily means it has to be someone you are in a relationship with it could just be a friend who is like your other half and you can have a awesome friendship with that person. I guess I didn't state it earlier but I honestly don't believe that your soul mate is only someone you will have a relationship with because it could be a friend or a stranger you meet and just feel a connection with but it most certainly doesn't have to be romantic.
Also yes people do die alone which is sad but the fact is no one ever promised that we would end up with someone we love or that we would end up with anyone at all. Sometimes we just don't find a person we connect with in this world like that which sucks but that is life for you. I do think even if you never find someone you want to be with that you can still lead a happy life with friends and family.
“I didn't want to wake up. I was having a much better time asleep.
And that's really sad. It was almost like a reverse nightmare,
like when you wake up from a nightmare you're so relieved.
I woke up into a nightmare.”
― Ned Vizzini
A lot of people are meant to die alone, otherwise we'd be born in pairs with the person we're supposed to be with
Take me away, I just want out from this self-imprisoned self-made Hell. Don't be surprsed, this is your mind coming to life by self-sacrifice. This tragedy of death will walk hand in hand with every thought of regret. Blame yourself for what you've become. The mind is a powerful thing set to self-destruct.
~I, Dementia - Whitechapel~
I don't believe that we have soul mates, although I don't believe in fate or destiny or anything else like that. I believe that every person makes their own choices, and there's no higher power controlling how our lives go and who we fall for.
I'm in a relationship, and I'm very happy in it. But it wasn't 'love at first site' or anything like that. I fell in love, and also learned to love, my boyfriend over time. I don't know if we're going to be together forever, but that doesn't really matter to me, I just plan on enjoying the time I have with him and being happy.
Right now, I don't believe in love. But that has more to do with my state of grumpiness and the horrible state of my own love life than anything. Normally, while I don't believe everyone has a single soul mate, I do believe that strong affection can bind you to another person to the extent that it is like a soul mate. Whether or not that is healthy is another issue altogether.
I'd like to think so. I don't believe you'd have just one soul mate in the world, you could have many in your city. I don't know, it's just about finding the right people through circumstance. In regards to my beliefs I'm unsure since they can opinions on this kind of thing can change. I really don't know overall, I can agree with many opinions. Hopefully one day, who knows what's round the corner.
Although brief, I think this is very to the point and a well thought out response. It really made me think.
Originally Posted by Bellatrix No. We meet people who elicit chemical responses. THen we grow to care for their personality traits.
/cynic.
Everything passes, everything changes. Just do what you think you should do.
I believe everyone has a soul mate, but whether we get to meet them in this life is a completely different story......
Wannabe CPN : -)
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