Therapy - At what point is it too much?

[fragile as glass]

I don't want to insult your intelligence i5abel and this question isn't meant to but do you think your young age affects the way you see therapists especially as you will be under CAMHS and not the adult system yet?

I know it may seem a hard question to answer when you don't have an adult experience to compare it to. Especially when many kids have abandonment issues (not saying you do - not for me to assume) so try NOT to build up relationships.

[Fry]

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Originally Posted by i5ab3l

I saw my first therapist at twelve years old and I am now sixteen. I do believe it's a little too much - I automatically get attached to my past therapists after a while and I hate the constant turbulance in switching. I also don't like that I have to rely on somebody else to keep my emotions validated and in check.

I first saw a psychotherapist when I was 14. It's difficult isn't it, and I definitely get what you're saying about the attachment side of things. I had the same difficulty.
But you'll get to a point where you can validate your own emotions and keep them in check. I think you're at the first step towards that control already just by noticing that you're being reliant about it at the moment :)

[lellykelly]

i think therpy is what you make you get out of it what you want when you think its to much then maybe it is take a break then go back when your ready :)

[Stellata]

And it's so good to start having support so young. :)
I could go on forever about 'what if I'd had support, the play therapy I really needed as a child, the understanding and protection I needed as a teen' etc...

[fragile as glass]

I had therapy and was offered it for years but it never worked and I've always been left with the questions ''Was I ready for therapy?'' and ''Was it the wrong therapy?'' and is that why it never worked?

Also, is one or both of those reasons why mine didn't ''work'' until I had Gestalt therapy with a female therapist who never wrote notes on her clients (even though they -her bossess-wanted her to) and she was trustworthy. I had CBT, DBT, Person Centred, Systemic etc etc. But she was my first Gestalt experience. So was i ready for her, was her type of therapy right for me, and was she the right person for me?

I think I wasn't ready for therapy and I think that it was her, my therapist, that I built such a good relationship with, that made it work too. 7 years but I owe this lady so much.

[Fry]

When I first had psychotherapy at 14 it wasn't my decision but lasted about 2.5 yrs twice a week, the whole time of which I was also an inpatient. I don't remember much of it apart from how annoyed I'd get when she asked me what I was angry about, when it was nothing at the time. Or maybe there was something she was seeing that I wasn't.
She was a Jung psychoanalyst / therapist or something. I have no real idea what that means. It did take quite a bit of firmness for her to let me terminate the sessions. She seemed intent on getting me to sit down and talk about it thus there being yet another session I didn't want. In the end I walked in and refused to sit down, just told her that was it and left, heh.

[chesterlily88]

Though part of my problem with therapists have been the therapists themselves, a lot of it has been me and my impossible personality. I have pretty bad trust issues and paranoia...honestly, I don't know if therapy will ever work for me.