See, therein lies the problem! He was 21, I was 18. So, I have the choice of saying yes, and then getting the awkward questions of "what does he, how old is he, etc" or saying no and having to be careful of talking about childhood. My main problem is the stage in a conversation/relationship that this question is asked. It's a bit early to launch head first into my emoing woefest.
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I often go down the route of I have 2 older brothers but we are estranged from one of them.
Or I just don't mention him... depends who I'm talking to.
I don't see why you should pretend he either exists, or never existed. Unless that's what you want to do.
I've spoken to people with siblings who passed away, and it usually goes something like
"do you have any siblings?"
"I had a sister, but she passed away when I was X"
"I'm sorry about that" *change of subject*
EDIT: I'm sorry if you find that this sounds insensitive.
It's not insensitive. To be honest, it's more just to try to avoid the awkward questions. I don't think there is a right or wrong or an easy way to deal with it. Especially if someone asks the dreaded (and rather rude) "what happened?"
I usually go with whatever comes out of my mouth at the time, unfortunately this means that everyone has a slightly different story.
I have a brother and 2 sisters but I normally only tell people I've just got a brother.
"Imagine me being free trusting you totally, finally I can... I can imagine me...
...over what my momma said,
And healed from my daddy did,
I want to live,
And not read this page again...
I can imagine me."
I would think that one's birth in relation to other siblings would be equally important, if not necessary, for this kind of research. Mentally there's a difference between being the first of four children and being the last of four children, you know?
Nous avons abritι tous les rκves du monde,
Et c'est dans le soleil que nous avons grandi.
I was born 2 months premature, traumatically via forceps.
My Mum was advised if she wanted further children, she'd have to have tests.
She didn't like the idea of further tests, or any further trauma.
So there's just me.
And, to be honest, my parents couldn't have coped emotionally with more than one.
I never know how to answer this, so if anyone has genuine ideas then please tell me!
Had one brother, now dead. So I'm not an only child but I don't have any siblings.
Yes, I'll just woe on the thread.
I have the same dilemma as you. Sometimes I mention it sometimes I dont, but its tricky!
I have a twin sister too :] xx
There are times to stay put, and what you want will come to you.
But there are times to go out into the world and find such a thing for yourself.
I aint no abacus but you can count on me.
I have an older brother and sister, they are 26, yes they are twins. I was also apparently a non-identical twin however the other baby died early on and inbetween 2 scans.
Sidenote: I am exactly 2 years younger than them, which is apparenlty odd... however we have all always shared our birthdays with someone so don't find it odd, the concept of not sharing a birthday is an odd one to us all.
I have a older brother who is 23 two year older than me and a younger half sister she is 14 so that is 7 years younger than me lol [although to me half siblings or not that doesn't make much of a difference she is still my little sister no matter what]. Oh I hate being the middle child.
I also have 2 step brothers but I never see them anymore so I didn't count them in the poll.
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I didn't want to wake up. I was having a much better time asleep.
And that's really sad. It was almost like a reverse nightmare,
like when you wake up from a nightmare you're so relieved.
I woke up into a nightmare.
― Ned Vizzini
