My dad has went missing , my mum woke up this morning to find him gone , he left without any shoes on , he isnt very well mentally at the moment .
We are worried that he may try to kill himself.
My mum has contacted the police.
He has gone missing before and tried to kill himself both times before.
Yesterday he wasn't eating yesterday so my mum called the dr because she thinks that the stress of my mum having cancer making him depressed.
Unsure what to do.
I have my young nieces here at the moment and we havent told them whats going on.
But if the police turn up here they are going to ask questions and am unsure what to say to them.
I'm sorry to hear about your dad, I hope he turns up soon. It must be very distressing to not know where he is. I have no advice but just wanted to let you know I am thinking of you xxx
"Recovery is something that you have to work
on every single day and it's
something that doesn't
get a day off."
I'm really sorry to hear that about your dad. You don't need to cut, you need to grieve for him healthily, remember all of the good times you had with him, particular things he did, things he said and it's okay to cry, it's good to cry for him. Remember to lean on your family too, they're going through the same thing and you all need each other.
Take care of yourself xxx
You can't lose hope when it's hopeless.
You gotta hope more,
then put your fingers in your ears and go,
"Blah blah blah blah!"
I'm so so sorry to hear about your Dad, can't imagine how you are feeling right now. I wish that I had more words, all I can do is send you strength and tell you that you can get through this, though I'm sure that that seems completely impossible right now. Thinking of you if I can help please let me know
This feels unreal ...I cant go down to my mums at the moment because i have my nieces here and they dont know about my dad .
My sister is going to come down tomorrow and tell them .
trying to act as normal as possible .
Its hard to , but we have too.
Unsure what happens now ...
Im so sorry to hear about your dad and your mums illness. I hope tomorrow you and your sister can find space to talk and support each other. Please take care of yourself xxx
thank you for all your support ... Am at my mothers at the moment but going home again today because we need to get back for our cats.
Spent the night at my mothers she is really upset and it took her a long time to get to sleep.
My mum says she now dont want the cancer treatment unsure if we can change her mind .
Dont want to lose my mum too.
:(
It's good that you've managed to spend time with your mum but I'm sorry about what she's said in regards to her cancer treatment. She's going to be very shocked/upset/lost/hurt and her reaction to this may be wanting to refuse the cancer treatment. Just try to talk to her and tell her that by having her cancer treatment, she can remember your dad and do things to remember him/things he's always wanted to do. She just needs to see that life isn't all about hurt.
(If you want to talk to someone about your mum too, I'm happy to talk. My brother has terminal cancer so I've seen him go through the treatments.)
Take care,
Lanny xxx
You can't lose hope when it's hopeless.
You gotta hope more,
then put your fingers in your ears and go,
"Blah blah blah blah!"
I'm sorry to hear about your dad, I can't imagine what your going through right now. Please allow yourself to grieve. Cutting won't solve anything, you are already hurting enough. Hold on there
Kat xxx
"Recovery is something that you have to work
on every single day and it's
something that doesn't
get a day off."
I'm so sorry to hear this..*hugs* Give your mum time to think it through, she is probabky just reacting rashly atm. I hope you manage not to cut. It won't help anything in the long run. I'm sorry again.
I'm so sorry this has happened. I hope that with time, your mum will decide to carry on with the treatment. She must be very shocked and upset as you are, and it might be these feelings making the decision for her at the moment xxx
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✪ If the soul is left in darkness, sins will be committed. The guilty one is not he who commits the sin, but the one who causes the darkness ✪
Thank you for your support.
I have decided to go and have a tattoo done saying dad with a design and the year he was born and the year he died on it. unsure when i will get it done but with in the next few weeks.
The last few days have been very hard for my mother she is on Valium at the moment to help her feeling a bit calm as she is all over the place , angry one minute and crying the next.
She is meant to be getting the cancer treatment tomorrow but i think under the circumstances they will not do the treatment until my mother is able to decide what she is doing.
Am back home at the moment but am going back to my mothers house tonight with my husband.
My dads body wont be brought to the funeral directors until Wednesday / Thursday.
Unsure when we will have the funeral maybe not until next week.
Me myself i havent had a chance to let my emotions out , i feel as if am keeping them in because my mother is so upset right now ...i think after the funeral is when i will most like show something because thats the way i cope with things normally .
I do want to cut but if i cut my mother will find out and i dont want to upset her by doing that.
Am unsure of other ways of coping with this at the moment.
My husband has gone out to visit my nephew who is in a secure unit tonight i have to wait until he comes back i know that am safe here but am also scared of being on my own at the moment as well , I have music on and lights on. he will be gone for about 2 hours .
I just have to keep myself calm until then.
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