I just need to talk to someone

[chucks_steelers]

I feel alone and lost. I honestly have no idea what I should do. I don't even really wanna post this. I'm a self harmer of only a few months, still in the beginning stages. Only one other person knows about it and I only tell her every so often and usually hide it from her too. I just can't muster up to tell anyone. However, I'm up against the wall now because in 2 days I go away to college and the girl that knows (my gf of a few years) is going to break up with me becuase of my choice to go away. It sounds stupid but im really upset not just about losing her but a lot of other stuff. to make matters worse she is a self harmer in a way as well although she has recovered a lot since meeting me. I just need to vent I guess. I have no idea what I should do and for the last month or so I have had the urge to tell ANYONE about my problem; a teacher, a couple of my friends, my mom, but I haven't and doubt I will. I'm not sure what I'm hoping to accomplish by this post but whatever

E: Also it seems like I'm the only guy in the world with this problem.

[Pilgrim]

Hey,

sorry for hearing that your girlfriend breaks up with you, it doesn't sound stupid at all! How far is your college away?

You are not the only guy who selfharms, although it often seems like this because it is not so well-known. I think if you have a look in the Who are we? Thread you find a few other guys in there.

I think if you have the urge to tell somebody about your sh (and it is definitely a good first step to tackle your problems!), then choose one person that you can trust and who can help you! You thought about telling your mother, and if you have a good relationship with her than she would probably be one of the best choices. Also think about what you want to achieve by telling somebody - do you want help, or just someone to talk to? Do you just want somebody to share your secret?

Of course if you want to you can tell everybody, but I think it is the easiest to first start with one person and then see how it goes.

I wish you enough courage to do it!

[makedamnsure]

Hey, I'm a girl, but I can tell you that you are definately not the only guy that self harms. I know a few.

The easiest thing would be to tell you to give up now. Before you get dragged too deep into all this. I've been self harming for around 10 years and its not fun. And my self harm is very minor compared to some.

But I know its not always that simple. Hopefully (maybe) college is your opportunity for a fresh start. Talk to someone you trust if you feel it will help, and perhaps they will help you come up with alternative strategies for when you feel like self harming.

[michael james]

Hi
Sorry that you are really struggling, but i can a sure you there are many, many guys who self harm, Unfortunately. I have self harmed for many years, and it isn't any fun.

Hopefully you can get out of this habit before its to late, but it is very hard to stop, but try and stop.

Hope things get better for you soon.

Best Wishes
From Michael

[chucks_steelers]

I'm not going to tell my mother. I really don't know how or why I should.

[Loopsie]

What you do or dont tell people is up to you, for some telling parents is good, for some it isnt. Sounds like your having a rough time of it. I know how it feels loosing the one person who you could really talk to.
You are not alone. Even if nobody outside this website knows about your problems. The sooner you stop harming the better tho coz it is really addictive.
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