When i couldn't sh today and really needed to, i started subconsciously scratching my arms until they were close to bleeding, my friend who noticed said "you don't need to do that now i'm here" at the time it really helped. Didn't last all day though, but at the time helped.
Have you ever looked fear in the face and said "I just don't care"?
I was in hospital and I was trying to hurt myself with what ever I could find. One of the really nice nurses who made me feel safe came over and took hold of my hand and said "you don't need to do that Jodie. You're in pain, and I can hear you."
Really helped.
****! that makes me wanna cry, how beautiful :)
they don't get it i wanna scream
i wanna breathe again
i wanna dream
My Partner said my scars don't bother him, they're no more unattractive than my non-scarred skin, and that I'm the bravest, strongest person he knows. He said sometimes I'm bloody hard work but I'm more than worth it. I can't express how much that meant to me, I try to remind myself of those words when I'm down.
My Mom said she's proud of me, scars or not she's proud of me and always will be. I feel very lucky to have such supportive people around me.
After my sister found out, she went into my school to speak to my gave teacher about my sh , but she couldn't find her, so she spoke to her old head of yeah mr.p and my drama teacher mr.w, mr.p said to me later that day 'it takes a lot to make your sister upset, she spoke to me earlier, she's very worried Charlotte.' that helped cause it showed me she cared :/
Then mr.w spoke to me when I was down, he said 'charlotte, I know it's hard, and your going through a lot, but talk to me when ever you need to, I believe you can get better. Were all worried about you' he's my inspiration, I really do look up to him, and him saying he was there for me helped a tremendous amount:) <3<3
Someone once asked me, 'Why do you always insist on taking the hard road?' I replied, 'Why do you assume I see two roads?' Take it from someone who's fallen... it's a long way down.
Ooo I have remebered something that my friend said this really helped considering i was crying my eyes out at that time! She said ' Lauren you have had it so much worse then me and you inspire me as on a night out you forget about all of the problems you have and its amazing to see your having fun , laughing and having a good time. Your so strong'
'Do you know how horrible it is to see what you are doing to yourself? You might not give a damn but I do. I don't want to see you as another statistic. If you were my sister or friend or even a colleague I would be devastated'. Said by my Care co-ordinator about my self harm before someone else stepped in because she was too emotionally involved. It showed she cared though.
'More than anything else I want you to email me and say you are ok and really mean it'
A teacher of mine once said:
"I just want to take you home and give you a big hug", which was sweet. She was pretty much the only adult at my school to make any effort at all to talk to me about it and try to understand (they all knew because I had previously been suspended from school for cutting).
After many years, I told a close relative by email, and her response included this:
"You are very special, [my name], I don't know another person who could look at themselves with the honesty you have just shown. You are on a tough journey I know but from what you've said you've got some good fellow-travellers. I am more honoured (probably not the right word) than I can say that you've let me become one of them."
I had been really worried what her reaction might be, and this was just the best response I could ever have hoped for. She is so lovely, a great support, and I am just so incredibly lucky to have her in my life.
Before getting to this thread, I had been reading through the 'inappropriate things to say...' thread, and there are some horrendous examples on there of things that have been said to people about their self-harm. This thread has sort of restored my faith in people a bit, and also prompted me to appreciate how lucky I was to receive generally positive reactions.
Sarah told me "You're going to get through this with enough help"
The way she said it :)
And then her daughter (My best friend <3) said a really awesome thing :D
She likes logic ;) There is a lot of stuff so I'm saving space:
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"Nobody's worthless, everyone is worth something.
Even if it is in the long run..."
"Opinions are only Opinions. Nothing more."
"Life isn't a bitch, sure it's unfair at times, most times.
But we generally benefit from it, it makes our souls stronger.
Think about it, how boring would life be if it didn't have downs to it.
Without downs there wouldn't be ups.
Newton's third law of motion remember states,
that for every action there is a equal and opposite reaction.
This doesn't only apply to science.
Other things such as Karma say the same thing."
"Ruby you're my best friend. I don't want anything to happen to you."
lol she is awesome
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'Dreams are like angels
They keep bad at bay.
Love is the light
Scaring darkness away.'
Someone I used to be friends with touched my leg and said "you will get through this, I know you will" in a really caring tone. We haven't spoken in months but this keeps me going.
I just want you to know that you are special, and although I don't know you, I love you
My best friend text me a couple of month ago, and I look at it everytime I get an urge, it says;
'This is going to sound random, but I am so proud of how well you are doing with not self harming. Every time you cut yourself it cut me on the inside too. I'm sorry if I weren't too understanding, I just didn't exactly understand, but I know you were hurting, but you're safe now and I have never been more here for you than I am now :) loooove yooou xxx'
It just makes me smile, it proves she cared and still does, she is such an amazing person.
There was only one really supportive person and he also happened to hurt me. that aside he said some very nice things to me.
When he found my scars he said to me
"Look, I know if I ask you to promise me to stop you'll say yes but you can't really keep your promise. I know its not your fault and I know its what other people say to you or how they make you feel which makes you do this. But please, please, please, please don't hurt yourself. okay?"
It was just the first time someone understood why I cut and why I couldn't stop but still had the love or care to ask me to stop. Sometimes I hope it wasn't just words but I let them inspire me everyday.
I hadn't emailed the relative I quoted in my previous reply for a while, because I had been feeling pretty down and didn't want to be super-negative. When I finally did email, I told her that was why it had taken me so long, and she said this:
"You need never worry about being positive with me...I do not find [having a 'glass-half-empty' outlook] gets in the way of real pleasure but it feels healthier than always straining to look on the bright side."
and also this:
"It is an open secret that I am one of your number 1 fans and I just know that better things are are around the next corner."
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"Stay strong darling" was something my music teacher said to me.
And "When you stop completely, I want you to text me. I don't care if its 20 years from now. I want you to text me. It would make me really happy" from my duke of edinburgh leader.
"I know its hard but you're doing excellent" From my boy.
"You don't realise it but you are probably the strongest of our students and by far the nicest. We are lucky to have you, I know that. But don't tell anyone I have a soft side :P" From my tkd teacher
"Today is International Nutters Day. Please send an encouraging text to a f*cked up friend, just as I've done. I don't care if you lick windows, you hang in there cup cake. You're f*cking special to me, you're my mate"-
Just a generic funny text, but meant more to me because I know the person who send it knows about my "issues" and it was nice of her to send it.
Him:You don't need to do this. We can sort this together.
Me: I'm not sure that's possible. You're a policeman afterall
Him: I may be a Police Officer, but I want to help you, I will help you, and we will achieve it together. Just Promise me that you'll let me help you
This was when he gave me a section 136. But he did come and see me the next day, and he has helped me out. So I am super grateful for him!
I love you and I'm proud of you for having found a coping method which isn't overdosing or attempting suicide. you'll get through it. I know you will. You're so much stronger than you realise
