hi
i'm probably stressing over nothing again, but my period is around 13 days late. i had pms-ish symptoms last friday but apart from that i haven't had any thing else heralding it. i'm mostly worried because i don't use protection with my fiance- he pulls out and usually that works fine. is it normal to be this late? or should i buy a pregnancy test... D8
well if your not using protection then yes you should. The withdrawal method doesnt work because there is still sperm in pre-cum. You should speak to your doctor about protection if your not wanting a baby right now.
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I would most certainly get a test, not only will it let you know if you are pregnant, it will put your mind at ease. Its not a nice thing to be pondering over. It is also good for both you and the baby to find out early on, for health reasons.
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Also, on top of what others have said I have noticed that you have said it 'usually works'. Does that just mean that dring this time you haven't got pregnant? I take it it does. You don't get pregnant every time you have unprotected sex (and the withdrawal method is NOT a form of contraception. It is NOT reliable). There is a specific time window in which you can get pregnant (which can change between different cycles as not all are the same length even ifyours usually are) and at other times you can't. There is no way to know for certain whether or not you've ovulated (unless you seek tests at a doctors) though there are indicators and so you don't know if it's just been the timing each time. Even if you have unprotected sex at the right time, even presuming the guy has a really high sperm count and healthy sperm (which to be honest a lot don't) then nowhere near everyone gets pregnant and if the sperm and egg do fertilise this doesn't necessarily mean this will implant into the uterus and even if that does then it doesn't always mean you have a pregnancy resulting. That's just showing that it is down to pot luck what you're doing and depending how long you've been doing it it may just be that you're incredibly lucky (if you're not trying to get pregnant) that you've not.
You need to take a test. They are best taken first thing in the morning when the hormone level will be at it's highest. If that comes out negative then wait a few days and if your period still hasn't come then take another as it may be the first didn't pick up the hormone because there were too small amounts or it was too early for your body to be releasing it whereas the 2nd being done a few days later will tend to have higher levels of hCG (the hormone they test for) in the urine compared to the previous time as there will be more going around your bloodstream and entering your urine then.
If you're not prgnant then it may be that you're just stressed (sometimes the worry that you may be pregnant tips it over the edge and the worry delays it), that it is naturally a longer cycle, there is a bit of a blip in your hormone levels that will sort itself out or could also be to do with a change of diet or lifestyle.
If you are pregnant then whatever you want to do you need to see a doctor ASAP. If you're not then I'd advise you strongly to go to the doctors and discuss methods of contraception. Condoms (apart from 'sheep-skin' latex-free ones) are the only type of contraception that also protect against most (not all) STDs but then if you're both 'clean' and only sleeping with each other then that will not be a problem. Other common forms are the pill (of which there are several types) which you take daily, the injection which you generally have every 8-12weeks depending on the type, the implant (Implanon) which gets inserted via very minor surgery into your arm and this lasts for 3yrs and is the most reliable form of contraception at the moment, or, usually reserved for people who have already had children but not necessarily, you can also have the coil fitted which gos into your uterus and releases hormones which prevent pregnancy and it also stops implantation. There are also other types available but those are the most common. As well, if you're not wanting to get pregnant using these alongside a condom is also the best way and gives the most protection but any sort of contraception at all is much safer than what you're doing right now.
Glad to hear it and yeah, I think if I was you I'd book an appointment with a nurse (or doctor) and discuss contraception ASAP as it definately sounds like you don't want to get pregnant.
The withdrawal method doesnt work because there is still sperm in pre-cum. You should speak to your doctor about protection if your not wanting a baby right now.
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[quote=Animad;2904049] You don't get pregnant every time you have unprotected sex (and the withdrawal method is NOT a form of contraception. It is NOT reliable).
Sorry Animad but you CAN get pregnant every time you have unprotected sex. I knew someone who did.
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No you can't, it's impossible with people. Like I say, there are certain times when you're fertile and certain times when you're not. People will have sex at any time, they're not like other animals where they only have it when they are fertile. However, to get pregnant a egg has to be released. Your hormone levels can fluctuate meaning some cycles are different to others and can be completely different meaning you can actually get pregnant then if you ovulate when you wouldn't usually but you most definitely can't get pregnant at any time, you can just have blips in your hormones which means at times you may ovulate at times that are out of the ordinary. There are very few species that can get pregnant (when they are not already) at virtually any time and humans definitely aren't one of them, the difference with humans is they can feel sexually aroused all the time.
I did actually make this clear in my post saying
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There is a specific time window in which you can get pregnant (which can change between different cycles as not all are the same length even ifyours usually are) and at other times you can't. There is no way to know for certain whether or not you've ovulated (unless you seek tests at a doctors) though there are indicators and so you don't know if it's just been the timing each time.
showing that I'm aware that the timings can be different to what you'd normally expect due to you ovulating early or late but you need to ovulate and you don't have premature eggs (follicles) that are ready to ovulate at any time as the hormones that are needed for this go through peaks and troughs through your cycle but the timing can sometimes alter same as you may not always show the typical signs of ovulation such as a drop in body temperature and hormones in your urine which ovulation indicators look for.
Never once did I mean that it was totally impossible as, like I said, hormone levels alter allowing for ovulation and this NEEDS to occur and there is almost always only one ovulation in each cycle and ovums (eggs) deteriorate or have passed to far after a few days so they can no longer be fertilised/ the zygote (fertilised egg) has travelled too far there isn't enough time for it to implant into the uterus. Though sperm can survive in the females uterus and fallopian tubes often 5-7days but in some cases 10days which is why there can be a spread of dates in which someone can have sex and still end up pregnant.
well this person has several kids now after believing you can't get pregnant after each time you have sex. You're very defensive esp as I was only talking from personal experience.
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THE COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS I CAN
AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE
If, at the point at which the boy is about to deliver his love lotion, he says a little prayer like "dear Jesus please dont make a baby", you are totally safe! *nods*
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Just so you know, I was not being defensive. Everything on here has to be accurate (and never did I once say you can't, like I said, people's cycles change...) and so I had to mention that with fact and reason behind it. It was not to get on other's backs or for personal enjoyment or that I felt I needed to be looked at as better than anyone else; if I'm wrong I am happy to state that in a thread and then go back and edit my original but leave my post there that states I was wrong. I do look over these things and I don't just say things without thinking about the accuracy. As well as that, personal experience is not medical science that has been tried and tested and because of this personal experience is not seen to be reliable and is actually against the rules of the forum.
If, at the point at which the boy is about to deliver his love lotion, he says a little prayer like "dear Jesus please dont make a baby", you are totally safe! *nods*
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we don't pray, so I guess that answers my question.
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