I need support to stop cutting for religious reasons I am Muslim and cutting is against the teaching of Islam.
So am trying to stop cutting all together .
I know that maybe a silly reason to stop but i believe that am doing wrong by doing this
I am going to get rid of my tools today and try and make it through each day with prayer and reading the Qur'an
But i need other support as well when am feeling bad and when am feeling down on myself
Things get on top of me and i try and deal with it the best i can
I will try and use distractions and delay myself from cutting
I just need someone to be here with me
My husband is supportive and knows that am trying to do this
I have crisis numbers i can call when am feeling really bad
and i can come here as well
i'm not Muslim, i'm Christian, but that played into my decision to stop and how i try to resist and all that. for me, the youth pastor at my church was really helpful and supportive. i don't know if theres someone that could help you through in that sort of way.... i think finding help from people in that sort of situation really depends on their temperment and beleifs though. cause i know that if i had asked a priest from where i went before, it would've been a disaster.
when i'm upset or having an urge it can be helpful to reread my favorite verses, or listen to my music that is God focused and all that. the other thing i've done once is picked an applicable verse and worked really hard at turning it into some sort of thing that i could put on the wall of my room. or on the inside of my binders. places like that. its probably a bit odd, since i now have a couple different copies of the same verse posted around my room in various forms, but it working on them helps me to concentrate on what they mean, and then i have them to remind me.
have you taken a look on the fun and distractions page... there is a long list of distractions that is stickied at the top, and you might get ideas from there.
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The magical part: They NEVER run out, so borrow some any time you want.
Thanks i will have a look and at the fun and distractions forum see if there is anything there i can do while am feeling like i need to cut.
Am ok at the moment in fact i feel great , but i do have worries about my mum coming round on Wednesday.
She don't know i have gone back to Islam and the last time i did she was really horrible to me.
Treated me like there was something wrong in what i was doing .
She hates the fact that am doing things that she views as different from her ideals.
I just worried about her reaction to this.
But am trying to think positively about everything at the moment
I agree that religion is not a stupid reason to quit! I dont know alot about the Islamic faith, but can you just skirt around it..i dont know if thats helpful at all. i have to do that with my fiances family because they dont know im Wicca and not Catholic. Maybe sort of the same principle? But stay safe and try to stay busy and have someone to talk to
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No i cant just skirt around it am female and all female Muslims wear the Hajab witch is islamic dress because women are not to go around in public with there hair ,arms and body showing.
It is harm ( bad ) to go around with out the Islamic dress,
My mother will also notice that am praying as i have to pray 5 times a day as all Muslims have to pray 5 times a day Fridays there are more prayers .
Am not looking forward to Wednesday at all.
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I understand your struggle, I do. Going through that fight myself, one victory at a time. Please message me if you need support. We're all in this together.
Thank you so much for your support it means a lot to me .
Am ok at the moment not really thinking about it much just getting on with my day really
Tomorrow is going to be stressful with my mother hopefully she dont freak out much this time around.
My husband will be there with me and he will be supporting me
Its my choice at the end of the day there isnt much that she can do about it isn't there .
Not feeling so good at the moment , feel like i need to cut but am trying not to .
I just feel all over the place about tomorrow also there is something going on with my mums health at the moment and am worried about that as well
I don't want to argue with my mum but i feel that she will start an argument with me about it.
:(
Going to try and stay distracted
one tactic to avoid arguments is to recognize how the other person is feeling, and validate that, but then go on to stand your ground (in your case, basically what you said above). at the very least it takes people by surprise, but if it works right, it can lower their anger and stress level because they know that you're listening to them and thinking about what they're saying, rather than just blocking them out or trying to start an argument (as it might seem in their eyes).
*hugs* good luck tomorrow. keep posting on here if you need to
this is my magical medicine cabinet. Left to right they contain: courage, hope, calmness, and strength.
The magical part: They NEVER run out, so borrow some any time you want.
Religion can be a very powerful tool both as a reason to stop and a motivator to remain free from SI. I'm a Christian and I found that my faith really help me to stop SI-ing. I used Lent as a way to stop, promised myself and God that I would give it up for Lent (2years ago) and haven't cut since. Is there anything like that in the Muslim calander that you might be able to make use of?
Feel free to message me at any point if you want to talk about anything.
Best of luck with your mother.
Everyone needs someone to lean on, so lets stand in a circle and all lean on each other. That way no one will fall down.
Got things mixed up it was next month that my mum is coming up but am sure she said yesterday so i was all stressed for nothing.
Feel really urgey because i have cut in days , the longest i have ever gone with out is 7 months and that was about a year ago.
Normally i cut every week and because i get triggered or i get urges to do it i seem to just give in most of the time when i have felt like this because i know its the only way to cope with things
but this time i cant do that.
I cant give in to it.
I have been reading the Qur'an and praying when i have been feeling bad but also distractions as well
I must get use to doing the distractions or i wont be able to do this at all
Hi, don't have much else to add, to be honest everyone else has already said it all :)
just wanted to say that i agree that religion isn't a stupid reason to quit, i dont think it matters what it is that makes you want to quit as long as there is something
and feel free to pm me if you ever want to talk about anything
hope things get better soon for you x
