he's pushing me back *may be triggering*

[lifeisascreamer79]

this guy heis very dark and stuff he's always negative he won't let me talk to my friends if they are guys. cuz then he starts saying that i dont care and this suicidal thing. he says he cant see anyone and that hes never going to come back then he says something about killing himself being very specific. and i stay up all night cuzx idk whats happening. i try to be positive but i cant do this anymore hes a drama queen like if this was, 90210. its bad i feel like my heart will fly out of my chest im so frustrated. and he says he loves me and he always tries to touch me in a uncomfortable way. sometimes he wont let me leave. i have been raped before and im scared it will happen again. hes so creepy and i live in the middle of nowhere so if i say i dont want to see him anymore idk what hell do. all his statuses are about me its like idk scary.

[Shroomer]

Tell him what you said here
If he cares he will understand
Don't be afraid; everyone has the right to share emotion

[x-love/hate/tragedy-x]

I have had a similar experience (which for me was incredibly emotionally damaging) and I understand how hard it feels to break out of it, all I can say is sooner rather than later is better if you decide you want to break it off; tell him how he's making you feel (preferably in a public place so that he can't react as badly)
hope this helps a little, if you'd like pm me.
xxx

[lifeisascreamer79]

He doesn't seem to understand if i try to say back off he gets mad. Maybe i'm wrong for it :( idk anymore

[talaiporia]

*huggles* No, you're not wrong. How are you doing now?

[lifeisascreamer79]

I tried telling him and he blew up at me i don't get it

[talaiporia]

Oh dear. Maybe it's best just giving him some time and space to calm down.
How are you doing today?

[lifeisascreamer79]

He has me so on edge its always one thing or the other. Like none of my family likes him just in how he posts drama on my fb and how he treats me with words and he gets mad cuz he thinks theres nothing wrong with it. LIke he sees the negative in everything. :(
But thats the thing if i do give him space he gets mad about that too he says why don't you care. I don't know what to do if he's like this what will happen if i say i cant see him anymore

[SuchIsLifex]

i to have been in same situation and i wont go into detail but it didnt end good. My advise would be to save any hurtful msgs somewhere for record of what hes been like as he may be able to manipulate ppl to think its all your fault, tell him exactly what u feel and tell him that u wont put up with it anymore, as you and him and everyone else deserves to feel safe around the ppl we love, also i agree with telling him in public or while someone else is in another room even, also maybe he has issues himself that are underlying, so try talk to him about it in a way that isnt too blaming to anyone in particular, like " ifeel we are going wrong in this way" or somewhat like that if u get me?

Also im not saying this person is going to harm u in anyway, i just learned that saving records of info can come in handy, hopefully you may never need them!!
Good luck in whatever path you choose and i am here if u need me x x

[lifeisascreamer79]

yea i saved all his msgs they go from one extreme to another like omg. Im jsut worried i live in the middle of nowhere and he tends to not talk for awhile then hes back and wants me. i jsut dont want to have any drama. i finally blocked him on fb too i cant deal withthe emotional roller coaster

[x-love/hate/tragedy-x]

Well done for blocking him, how has he been since then? Has he tried to get in touch with you at all?
He probably has some underlying issues himself that are causing him to behave like this; do you know if he's getting any help?
Also; no-one deserves to be made to feel the way he's making you feel, remember that!
xxx

[lifeisascreamer79]

no he hasnt but he always comes back he still has my number and he knows where i live but he got mad cuz i wouldnt let him touch me and i didnt want to have sex with him. its amazing how people can be.

[x-love/hate/tragedy-x]

*hugs*
Is there anyway you could change your number?
(sorry for the late reply btw)
There was no need for him to try and pressure you like that.
How are things going atm?
xxx

[lifeisascreamer79]

i think i will look into changing it i honestly feel scared of him. he thinks theres nothing wrong with it. for awhile i felt like i was wrong to feel like he cant touch me.

[x-love/hate/tragedy-x]

*hugs*
If it's that bad hun you might even want to consider getting a restraining order/enlisting some friends to ensure he stays away.
That's not wrong at all - if you don't want someone to touch you then that's your choice!
xxx

[lifeisascreamer79]

he was such a jerk he always said he had respect for women yet he gets mad cuz i dont want to become his object people can be amazingly stupid. but thats a good idea, x love

[x-love/hate/tragedy-x]

Let me know how it goes :)
Hope you manage to stay away from him/he stays away from you; men who objectify women and treat them as possessions aren't worth knowing.
xxx

[lifeisascreamer79]

so far its been ok he hasnt called but thats usually how it was he would be into me then not then he would be happy again idk it was pretty messed up.

[x-love/hate/tragedy-x]

You can always pm me if he starts hassling you again and I can try and help :)
xxx

[lifeisascreamer79]

thanks :)