My parents were 38 and 40 when I was born. I feel like it's actually more common now to wait until later to have kids, just because you are more settled with your life and career.
Really? From what I've heard it's more common to have kids younger. Like 13 and 14.
It's in the Daily Mail, it must be true
Don't be fooled by my smooth skin. The deepest scars are the ones unseen.
Remember compliments you received, forget the insults. If you succeed in doing this, tell me how..~ Baz Lurhman.
Letting it get to you - You know what that's called? Being alive. Best thing there is. Being alive right now that's all that counts. ~ Doctor Who "The Doctors Wife" 06.November.2011
I love the idea of having children. I think that having a life to care for other than my own would give me a deep sense of purpose; one that I've been missing most of my life so far.
But at the same time, there is so much wrong with the world today that I can't get over the feeling it would selfish to bring children into it. What if they get depressed by the same things I have, or suffer in the same way I have? I'm terrified of being responsible for that.
it's the choices we make.
"I meant," said Ipslore bitterly, "what is there in this world that truly makes living worthwhile?"
Death thought about it.
"CATS," he said eventually. "Cats are nice."
yes i definitely want kids ii dream of having a little boy but we can't control these things my problem would be the process of finding a partner keeping it not letting my anxiety get in my way of getting down to child making <.< >.> if not adoption or fostering but until the right time and well enough my pets will be my babies
“There is no sun without shadow, and it is essential to know the night.”
I want lots of children and i want to foster too.xx
There are times to stay put, and what you want will come to you.
But there are times to go out into the world and find such a thing for yourself.
I aint no abacus but you can count on me.
I know my girlfriend wants us to have kids, but personally, I don't.
I don't think it's right to inflict myself on a child. As my Psychologist once said, things that make us us, like fears from our traumas, feelings about things, vulnerabilities, etc are things that we pass on to our children.
If I was normal, I think I'd like kids, but I won't have any for that reason - it has to stop, no more damaged children are needed in this family, & none will be produced through me.
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Reason: I can't spell!!
Previously unicorn-tears
In a burst of light that blinded every angel
As if the sky had blown the heavens into stars
You felt the gravity of tempered grace,
falling into empty space
With no-one there to catch you in their arms
Kahlia1981 & silentgirl are my RYL sisters Plumeria Sister
Yes, I would like a child. I often imagine having a daughter and bringing her up. It would be wonderful.
In the meantime though, if anyone wants to be adopted on RYL I am happy to become your RYL daddy
"Resolve to be tender with the young, compassionate with the aged,
sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant with the weak and wrong because sometime in your life you will have been all of these."
I voted "dont know" but Im going to say prob not. dont feel it fair to possibly pass on what I have to another, and if we are being honest...the human race is doing quite well on its own(ants and cancer look up to us when it comes to how quickly we spread)
