My sister came in my room today and asked if I have cut myself lately. I told her no. Two minuets before she came in, I did. I feel horrible. I don't know what to do.
Maybe admitting to her that you lied and telling her why you didn't tell her right away would help you feel better. Always helps to get things off your chest if you can I think. =] I'm sure you'll be able to get better support/advice if you post this in the "Self Injury Discussion and Support" forum, since this is a forum meant for non triggering or supportive threads, about everyday things. Hope you find the support you're looking for in the self injury forum. xx
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Sometimes it just means you're strong enough to let go.
Whilst this thread was totally in the wrong place, did it need five people to say it? Surely only one person needs to say it, and people can report it, requesting it be moved.
OP: Do you trust your sis and want to speak to her? Why not go and say now that you've done it, but felt you couldn't tell her before? And yes, like I-heart-hobbit said, maybe resolve to tell the truth next time?
I think it can be a complex situation when family is involved, especially if the sister is younger. I think you should look for help within the family by talking to them, but if that isn't feasible due to your family situation then look for support from professionals outside of the family.
Also acknowledge that it was probably really hard for your sister to come to you and ask that.
I know it doesnt really hep the situation but I think lying is something that a lot of self harmers can relate to because its really hard to tell the truth and then deal with the consequences of that. The guilt is often a problem.
It is true that you may fool all of the people some of the time; you may even fool some of the people all of the time; but you can't fool all of the people all of the time - Abraham Lincoln
Life is a tragedy for those who feel and comedy for those who think - La Bruyere
If you cannot be the poet, be the poem - David Carradine
I think you hit the nail on the head mentioning the guilt...that can definitely prevent you from disclosing your self-harm to your sister...and maybe you are worried about how she may react...
If you decide to talk to her about your self-harm, you could mention how difficult it is for you to talk about it due to the guilt. Also, you could mention what you need from her in order to be able to be honest about self harming (remember that you can ask, but she may not necessarily give you what you need).
These are just suggestions, I don't know what's going on in your family and the relationship with your sister, so it's up to you what you want to do...I know being honest is tough!
Sorry that I had it under the wrong thing, I am sort of new to this site, and wasn't sure where to put it. Thank you all for the advice. I hope I can gain the courage to tell her the truth. Just a little peice of info. my little sis. is only two years younger and everyone in my household knows I have a prob. with SI, but I think they think I stopped. My mom was suppose to call a therpist or whatever, but still hasn't I don't know if it's because she thinks i'm fine now or whatever. Idk. I want help with my prob.,but at the same time don't. =/
I know what you mean :/ I've done this a lot, and it makes me feel horrible. I wish I could be more helpful... I hope you're doing alright <3
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