Is it a display of how far along you have gone in the rat race? Oh yeah, I could say, "hey, I have been depressed and haven't achieved anything worth mentioning, how about you?" Then, I am left to feel like a failure at life.
Can school reunions be something worth attending? Don't people go to these things, to see how far people have gone in their life? Are you married? do you have children? what job do you have or career are you in? It makes me wonder if school reunions are all about who have suceeded in life.
Like Stellata said, for many people who are severely bullied (it's the main reason why I started SI'ing), I think actually going to a school reunion will be counterproductive. Like it or not, some people never grow out of being jerks, and they will be there. If you cant work due to health reasons, or dont have a decent car, then there will be people who will put you down. Even if you were not the target of bullying, then some bitchy comments will come out. If it is not you who is the target of the comments, it will be someone, for example the single mother with the multiple kids. You have to be quite strong, especially if there is no partner.
Of course, it could go alright, but could you cope with the talk of school? School memories? If it is held in the school, could you cope with going into the building?
For many people who had a wonderful time, and good memories, then of course it may be worthwhile going. But for those that have less than happy memories, then it may drive them to SI.
Of course, ultimately it is up to you whether you go or not, but I am just giving my opinion. I would hate for someone who go to a school union, be so hurt that they end up SIing.
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"He who is tired of Weird Al is tired of life." - Homer Simpson "I hear those voices that will not be drowned" Sanity is a nasty disease. The world would be a happier place without it. - Rilic
RIP Kat 4th July 1987- 11th June 2013
I wouldn't go, who cares what happened to people you went to school with. If you want to get in touch with old friends you can do it other ways without having to see everyone else again.
Even as the stone of the fruit must break
that its heart may stand in the sun,
so must you know pain.
There are only two ways in which one can live their life. One is as though nothing is a miracle, the other is as though everything is.
I just want to add that it's not always the people who used to be bullied that dread school reunions.
It can also be the people who were successfull in school, but didn't achieve anything later in their lifes. The people who are single moms with multiple kids, or the divorced dads who get to see their kids once a month for a limited time.
I think if you are ok with going to the building etc... give it a try. If you don't like it you can always leave and not go to the next reunion.
A friend of mine had nightmares about a highschool reunion but he went anyway and it turned out to be a lot better than expected.
It's up to you if you go though..
You survived the abuse.
You're gonna survive the recovery.
a) See what the people who did bully you have done jack **** with their lives.
b) the girls who used to be popular and also the girls who piled on the slap to see if they still look at pretty as they used to because I bet they don't now.
Also who says you actually have to tell them the truth about what your doing. Who's gonna know? unlss you are friends with some people still.
I think there would inevitably be a lot of comparing what people have done with their lives, because what else could you talk about?
I didn't go to my 10 year reunion (I was conveniently out of the country) but didn't feel any desire to go as I still hold quite a bit of resentment to the people who made my life miserable back then. But some of my friends who did go said it was a brilliant evening so maybe it would've been okay.
But a few years ago my Dad went to his 35th year reunion and I remember him saying it was much more enjoyable because, I guess being that much older, people didn't seem self-conscious about the state of their lives. (Wasn't there a thread on here a while ago about caring less about what other people think as you get older?)
I think unless you're likely to get upset by it (like if you were really badly bullied) then it probably wouldn't be as bad as you imagined.
Каждому, каждому в лучшее верится,
Катится, катится голубой вагон!
The whole idea makes me cringe! Not a hope I would go to a school reunion.
Yeah, I would hate it too! The only few people who were good to me are on facebook, and that is as far as it will go. If they wanted to meet up then fine, but I am not bothered if they dont (since one has moved quite far away I doubt it).
But if they did offer me to go to school reunion, I would definitely decline!
Wannabe CPN : -)
"He who is tired of Weird Al is tired of life." - Homer Simpson "I hear those voices that will not be drowned" Sanity is a nasty disease. The world would be a happier place without it. - Rilic
RIP Kat 4th July 1987- 11th June 2013
I wouldn't go to mine if they had one, firstly, 99 percent of the people were NOT my friends and didn't talk to me, and when they did it was just nasty comments, so why on earth would i want to spend an evening with them? Secondly if i did i would probably end up getting very depressed a i judge myself very harshly compared others and so i wouldn't want to be in that position to begin with.
Thirdly i've got no time for people who we're nasty to me or didn't talk to me at school, you didn't talk to me then and were an asshole so don't try and be all pally with now
Rant over
Is it a display of how far along you have gone in the rat race? Oh yeah, I could say, "hey, I have been depressed and haven't achieved anything worth mentioning, how about you?" Then, I am left to feel like a failure at life.
Can school reunions be something worth attending? Don't people go to these things, to see how far people have gone in their life? Are you married? do you have children? what job do you have or career are you in? It makes me wonder if school reunions are all about who have suceeded in life.
What are people's thoughts on this?
That's how I view them. I wasn't bullied or anything and got along with all kinds of groups of people, but I still wouldn't go. Despite that, I still felt alienated and I hated high school. My 5 year already passed, and at that point, I was still aware of what quite a few people were up to......My 10 year is coming up in 2013, and I still think it will be dumb to go. I never had school spirit, so why start now? lol Plus, my whole theory is: If these people REALLY wanted to know what I was doing, they would make the effort to call me and ask.
Also, 99.9% of my friends were a year or 2 ahead of me, so.......Yeah. Kinda pointless. It seems like the people that plan these sorts of things are always the popular types anyways.....*rolls eyes*
