So lately I've been having a lot of bullying problems online, and it really bothers me and freaks me out. I spend a ton of time online because I'm sick, and it's my only means of socialization and entertainment pretty much. But lately, I've sort of had no clue what to do with myself, because I've pretty much tried to cut out, or limit my time on a lot of sites where the bullying and harassment have become too much. Which makes sense, but leaves me bored and lonely for much of my free time, because I have this place, and ONE other website that I can chat on an feel "safe" and out of the two, this is the only one I really enjoy spending time on most of the time. So I'm limited, now.
And it sounds weird, because that might be okay for the average person, but because I'm ill, I don't get out much at all. I almost never am able to leave the house except to go to a doctors appointment, most of my friends have long forgotten about me. If I don't speak to people online, I can go DAYS without having a conversation with another person, and I'm sort of needy. >.> I like to talk to people a lot, so I don't know how I'd feel going a DAY without conversing with someone. It's something I enjoy, and for it to be so limited bothers me. =/ Especially since the two places I feel safe speaking with others aren't the most active places online. This place is sort of, but it can take a while to get a response depending on where you post, and that leaves me sort of bored.
I was wondering if anyone could advise me on some websites that are "safe"? Like that have strict moderation that won't allow such things or a place that just has a "nicer" crowd in general. I'd like to find a few new "safe" sites where I can interact with others and feel okay about it, so I'm not so limited on my socialization...
Unfortunately I don't know too many since the internet is generally unfriendly, but I go on a similar forum to this one sometimes and everyone seems fairly friendly. Here's a link: http://self-injury.net/
I've found that communities based around a hobby/game tend to be friendlier in general, even though the moderation isn't always strict. If you have anything you like to do in your free time (like crafting, video games, etc) maybe you could try joining one of those. I'm sorry you've had a rough time so far. I hope that you find somewhere new that has all the things you're looking for.
I don't have any suggestions for safe sites but I totally understand the bullying. I used to occasionally go on baby-gaga.net for advice but always ended up getting hurt. Maybe I'm just uber sensitive or self-sabotaging.
But I did join up on the site that pukeandcandy listed.
No one is useless in this world who lightens the burden of it to anyone else.
Namaste, have you ever tried RYL Chat? That can be more like conversation and means that you won't be bored waiting for replies.
Also, I don't know any forums off the top of my head that where bullying doesn't take place. I assume that any place with people, there will be an element of bullying because it happens everywhere which is a shame, but an occurance. Facebook is good for games and suchlike, you can do them whilst on Facebook chat and whilst you won't get talked to every second of the day, you might get a conversation every so often.
I know you won't want to hear this but I will say that basing your life completely online is not a good thing. I mean, what if you have a power cut? You don't always know who you are talking to online, as well, not completely, so be careful not to let yourself get hurt through that. Perhaps, now that you know your struggles, you could begin to challenge them, rather than to push them away.
Namaste, have you ever tried RYL Chat? That can be more like conversation and means that you won't be bored waiting for replies.
Also, I don't know any forums off the top of my head that where bullying doesn't take place. I assume that any place with people, there will be an element of bullying because it happens everywhere which is a shame, but an occurance. Facebook is good for games and suchlike, you can do them whilst on Facebook chat and whilst you won't get talked to every second of the day, you might get a conversation every so often.
I know you won't want to hear this but I will say that basing your life completely online is not a good thing. I mean, what if you have a power cut? You don't always know who you are talking to online, as well, not completely, so be careful not to let yourself get hurt through that. Perhaps, now that you know your struggles, you could begin to challenge them, rather than to push them away.
Take care of yourself.
Well, I can easily survive without it and I do, but put yourself in my position for a minute and imagine never being physically ABLE to go out or interact with others your age. I didn't make the choice to be sick, but I am. And that leaves me with limitations, and like everyone else, I make do with what I can. I realize it's not ideal, but I don't have any other choices, except for COMPLETE isolation, which I've gone with before, and made me much, much, much worse off for doing so. It's not ideal, but then when you're living with something like this, nothing is... you make do with what you can because you have to...
I've considered the chat here... I used to be really active on it years ago, but these days, chat rooms make me incredibly anxious, and I can't manage to bring myself to try it out again. >.<
I'm a bit like this, although I do get out I spend hours everyday on the internet. It might be a bit weird but sometimes I go on parenting forums and post my problems there. Mums are nice and always look after me, maybe I crave a mother that I dont think I ever had.
You could always PM me :) I would love to get to know some more people round here and I know many of the newbies feel the same :)
