Anyone else go through this?

FoggyReality · 20-12-2010, 01:19 AM

I am dating a guy (who is a normal drinker and very supportive of my sobriety) and when he tells me he is going out to drink or party...I get this pit in my stomach and get really jealous and kind of down. Now, one bad thing I have done is not attend a meeting in over a month, so that I know has something to do with it, but at the same time, I had these felings when I was attending meetings. I just want to know does anyone else ever get that feeling or is how I am feeling understandable...and will it go away with more sobriety time? I don't want to drink, but I just get a little Blah. I am coming up on 2 years in March, so I am wondering if thats also something playing a part and the fact that I am in a new environment (state) and in an internship I am not really loving.

I just want to know I am not alone and that "this to shall pass"! Thanks everyone! =)

Sigma · 20-12-2010, 08:15 AM

I think it will pass - the urges get stronger during stressful times (like a new environment and an internship you're not enjoying). If you've managed 2 years then you've managed to get past the urges before (2 years is fantastic!). But it does sound like you could do with some more support at the moment, so why not find somewhere to go to meetings to help you through it?

take care

dollpart · 31-12-2010, 06:22 PM

yes... i've had to cut down *a lot* on drinking, still sometimes slip up, and i get the most intense feelings of jealousy when my partnerr gets drunk... i know it's unfair, as all "normal drinkers" sometimes get a bit tipsy, but it aches me...

*hug*

SweetEscape · 01-01-2011, 02:21 AM

in terms of me it doesn't matter who it is, I get crazy jealous and if it's my fiance.. even more so. I work at a shelter so there is naturally a much higher occurrence of substance abuse issues, and I even get jealous of them. Imagine that jealous of homeless people..

RemoteControl · 08-01-2011, 11:17 PM

I think also with it being christmas time (when you posted), this can make things harder because alcohol is such a common part of the 'festive season'. Like theres always offers on in stores, and adverts on TV and people who dont even drink that much tend to buy a lot more alcohol at christmas.

I think once you've had an addiction to some sort of substance, the urges to drink/take it again are going to come back when you're feeling more stressed and reminded about it more.

I hope you feel better soon - maybe you could ask this person if he could not mention the drinking aspect - I mean obviously you'll know that thats probably what he's doing when he goes out, but maybe if its not explicitly mentioned, this might help a bit.

Hope you're ok.