it is so much harder for me in the winter not to cut. all of the places i do are covered up with winter clothes. which means less likely that somebody will see them. which is one less thing i have to worry about if i do.
does anybody else think it is harder in the winter? what do you do about it? i mean, i can't really wear shorts and tanks all winter... :/
I agree! I think it's soo much harder simply because, who would know? right?
but Im in the same struggle as you its been a 2 weeks since people think i have, but really its been a week, All i can say is try to stay tough!
try not to cut for yourself, because you always know its there whether you can see it or not. And just because it makes it easier to lie to people knowing they cant tell, doesnt mean you should.
Idk if that'll help you but if you ever want to talk messege me :)
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Cold.Heartless.Bitch.
It's a nice nickname isnt it?
Many people like yourself do find winter harder because as you say you are not accountable to others. However you will still know and you deserve to be treated with respect too. If you have a look in the fun and distraction forum you will find a big list of distractions that you may find helpful. Take care
Kat xxx
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Yes I've got it into my mind that I can now let loose with the cutting because no one is going to see my arms. I hate that I'm even thinking like this. I can't offer any advice because I guess we're in similar positions.
Distract distract distract seems the only way to stop myself.
Joining a gym or an exercise class means that you would be in a t-shirt and shorts at least once a week or so. That might give you some motivation not to cut.
I know it works for me, knowing I won't be able to hide them at a class.
True, winter makes it more tempting that way. There's also the fact that the eternal darkness (wow, melodramatic much?!) tends to affect moods a lot. Now I haven't tried this, but people say that tanning in winter - once in a while, not too often - really helps to feel less depressed and tired. It's the nice sunlight effect.
A few other things to consider regarding SI:
- People won't see now, but the scars will still be there next summer. You're delaying that uncomfortable conversation - you're not avoiding it.
- It would be really awkward if people DID find out
So, things like tanning, or joining a gym, sound really good. What about swimming? That's always my plan for winter as that extra incentive not to do anything.
I feel totally the same.
You know no one is going to ask answers about why you have jumpers and hoodies on, ect, because it's an obvious reason - that it's cold!
It's like easier to get away with it, so I think people tend to self-harm a lot more.
Now I haven't tried this, but people say that tanning in winter - once in a while, not too often - really helps to feel less depressed and tired. It's the nice sunlight effect
You can get special light lamps (designed for people with seasonal affective disorder) that would be safer than tanning. You just sit in front of it for an hour a day. Getting outside as much as possible whilst it is actually light helps too. I suffer badly from the darkness.
You can get special light lamps (designed for people with seasonal affective disorder) that would be safer than tanning. You just sit in front of it for an hour a day. Getting outside as much as possible whilst it is actually light helps too. I suffer badly from the darkness.
Yeah, quite true! Good to bring it up. I just thought tanning might be more readily available - last time I looked it up those lamps seemed a bit expensive. (I'm quite affected by it as well, so I'd love one of those!)
I don't mean to engage in lala thinking here, but I've been trying to coach myself to come at this from another angle. I've been telling myself maybe winter would be the ideal time to seriously try to stop for good, and try a regimen of scar reducers, so that next summer I'd be able to wear my tanks and shorts with a smile. I think of how cool it would be to be covered up all winter like a chrysalis, and then in the spring, ta-da! display the improvements to the few people who know about my cutting habit. Just a thought.
I completely agree, thats how i got the scars on my arms as at the time i could cover them i didn't care about summer the, now.. well thats a different story.
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