Triggering (SI) - Explaining it to someone...

[SavingGrace]

So, I hope I'm posting this in the right place...

I got told by my Doctor today that as I have to change my medications there are going to be some nasty side effects in the process. I have, up until the past couple of weeks, been doing really well with my SI and it had been down to a minimum and I was really happy, then my meds started reacting with another one and I started going backwards again.
Because of this, and the fact that my meds are going to send my moods all over the place, minute to minute, The one person I have told about my SI and who I live with, has demanded I hand over EVERYTHING I could possibly use to SI I have.

I don’t know how to explain to her that it’s not that simple and if it won’t stop me. She also threatened to search my room and that really hurt, I thought I could trust her with this kind of thing.

If anyone has any ideas on how to explain to her that it is not that simple and she can’t tell me to stop and everything to be cherry pie again….

Please? and Thank-you!
Bee

[flutterby butterfly]

Sorry, I have no advice, I'm in a similar place but I really hope someone can help. Good luck

[Sprinkles]

Show her this website, that's how I explained it to my friend. I bet she does understand but she's a bit worried about what you've been doing to yourself.
RubyXX
P.S I fully understand

[Bleeding Angel]

Maybe its the fact she cares but doesnt know how to go about it, you have to remeber she doesnt know how to deal with this. I think printing her out information might help because then she will have a better understanding.

[yeadatonegurl]

I have no advice but i can understand the whole having someone you told about the si jump off the deep end. I wish you much luck.

[ˈsäləˌterē]

I had a friend do the same thing. You might tell your friend that it's human nature that when you're told you can't have something or it is taken away, it just makes you want it that much more. You might tell her that what you really need from her is just for her to be there for you. For her to be someone that it's safe to talk to about things and that if you're able to be open with her, that you won't feel the need to be secretive. Something else that I did to help my friend was that I made her a card that she could keep with her that had a list of things that would help me when I was triggered. That way she could help me when I couldn't help myself. I hope this is helpful! I'm just speaking from my own experience. Feel free to pm me if you like.

[SavingGrace]

Thanks guys, I told her that I can't just stop and hand everything over, I will do it in my own time and that I need her to just listen to me, and not to panic about it. She is getting me and herself into therapy now because she wants to learn how to support me properly. I gave her this website and the links to the SH info parts and I think she has read them. She is starting to see my behaviour change when I am triggered so she knows when she needs to support me more.

THanks guys, for your help, it made it soooooo much easier!

Bee
xxx

[UnIvErSaLoNe]

Its so hard to work trough this with someone on the other side of the fence. it sounds like your on a good road, but expect bumps as the other person still may be holding in some emotions that may surface at hard times try and see those for what they are love.

Sincerely,
Chris

P.S. people finding out errrr so so hard. Passing you hugs of support!

P.S.S. In a bad situation remind them how much they have helped by trying to look thou your window in recent times. It may make them step back for a moment!

[Winchester Angel]

My boyfriend found out I was harming again recently and he was upset with me. I knew I had to explain things to him but once I had it felt better. I don't think he totally gets it but he is trying. Well done for telling the person you live with and giving them the site. I could never show my boyfriend what I write here. I'd be too afraid what he would think.

hugs, take care
Dianne
xx