Triggering (SI) - I've been cutting again lately !

[stumpy davies]

Well my battle continues my last cut was about 1AM this morning & well, now I feel pretty sad, lost, & lonely, as some of you are probably aware I've been having relationship problems. My fiance seems to like lieing to me. Well I had all my bags packed ready to leave & he decides to tell the truth after sitting there crying for about an hour & a half. Well he did go up & spend 3 nights up with his friend who started texting & phoneing me claiming they were having an affair behind my back. He said he only lied to me because he knew that this is how I'd react, but I would have forgiven him if he had told me truth where as now I'm finding that difficult, I was going to leave him only because he lied not if he was having an affair but am still not sure I can trust him to continue the reationship as I don't know if I can take being hurt like this again. What he doesn't know is that if he isn't extremely carefull now then I will leave, He thinks it's an idle threat but my bags are still packed. I also have another guy after me so it's not as if I'd be on my own. The guy who's after me is a really fit looking bus driver. But even so I still love my fiance & feel reel sad about the state my relationship is in could use some advice please what do you guys think I should do? Thanks Ceri x

[shadow-seeker]

heya there im sorry to hear your having troubles can i get this right so your fiance has been having an affair??
xxxx

[.ghost.]

*hugs* Sorry things are so hard right now.
Has your husband admitted to having an affair or is it only your friend telling you that?
It's up to you whether you stay with your fiance or not, I personally don't think I'd forgive somebody but then again I don't believe in love or any of that so it wouldn't really be the same. If you stay you have to be prepared for a lot of hard work to try and make things ok again, I've seen a few people in my family having to repair relationships after an affiar, wasn't very pretty to watch...
If you did leave, I don't really think it's fair to start a relationship with the bus driver just because you don't want to be alone, chances are that it won't work out and then you'll have another thing to add to your problems.

Take care
xx

[stumpy davies]

Well looks like it is definately over between us, I have to sort out my housing before I can do anything. I wouldn't get with the bus driver any way I want to be friends with him first, I like to take my time before getting into a relationship with any guy. I think I will still be friends with Stewart though as I am slowly getting over things, I will cry for a little as miss what we had but don't want to lose him as a friend. Thanks for being here love Ceri x

[shadow-seeker]

i hope things will start looking up for you and im sure they will. just take evryday as it comes and you'll pull through.
take care and be safe
*hugs*
xxxx

[Chrissyann]

I'm sorry about what happened hun. Everything happens for a reason, and you'll never know what's around the corner. Although you probably don't think it at the moment, you're better off without him because you can't have a relationship based on lies. I hope things work out for you hun, you deserve happiness.

Take care
Chrissy
xxx

[_plastic]

*hugs to you so tight*

believe me it's gonna be hard but you will need it no more if you started to think positively

[stumpy davies]

Well thanks guys I'm feeling a lot better today, my auntie & uncle came to visit me today after moving back to Wales from Spain. I really missed them as they are really supportive & the only people in my family who understand SH. I hadn't seen them for 4 years. When they get their new house I can go & stay. I'm so glad you guys are here for me too every hug helps (hugs back) Thanks Luv Ceri x