Funeral tomorrow...

[Scumbelina]

I found out yesterday that an old friend died on the 11th (his mum posted on his Facebook profile )

The funeral is tomorrow but I really can't decide whether or not to go.

I went to Allie's funeral (peanuttree) & now instead of remembering her as I knew her, I remember her coffin & her funeral & her brother & her Dad crying, it's tainted my memory of her.

I'm going to feel guilty if I don't go but I don't know if I can face it, especially as I'm not in such a great frame of mind myself at the moment.

Advice?

[Stellata]

What does your heart say?

[Hannah Montana]

Heya
Like Stellata says... Its up to you. You need to let your heart decide (at the risk of sounding cheesy). In my own experience i've found that funerals can offer closure and serve as a reminder as to how amazing that person was. But it depends how you feel. Whatever you decide, please don't feel guilty. I hope everythings works out for you hun. xxx

[Putain]

I say go.

People aren't all the same, but in my experience the memory of the funeral is something that fades, like the crap days of a holiday or even a relationship. I remember things which happened at funerals, such as crying over a song, but it's not what sticks with me when i think of that person.
Funerals are an important part of the healing process. That's why we have them.

[risenfromperdition]

*squishes* hope you're feeling as ok as can be expected regardless of wat you decided to do <3

[griddlebone]

Hey,
I know this reply is a little bit late but I didnt attend the funeral of a very good friend of mine and to this day Im glad I didnt. It didnt feel right for me to go....I didnt feel that going would give me any closure of help and so I chose to remember him my way and that worked for me.Having said that when my granddad died I went to his funeral and that seemed to help a lot.....so I think it depends on how you feel and how you think the funeral might affect you.
I hope you made the right decision for you and that youre ok.xxx