Hey herona237,
Thats a 64 million dollar question ,
"Why is recovery so hard " i guess recovery is hard because its about opening up to our true feelings and emotions no matter how painfull they are . Its where we have to try to heal ourselves emotionally and mentally. we have to work through loss, grief recovery is different for each person it could be recovery from an illness or relationship breakdown.
I can identify with you when you say why cant you get over the fact your ex left you. I had to escape and divorce my now ex wife and leave her, this was now 6 years ago and im still struggling she was abusive to herself and to me, i never was abusive to her nor was i violent to her . She couldnt overcome her abusive past and went into self destruct with herself and me i suffered emotional, mental physical abuse from her.
Your bound to have many questions about "Why did she leave me" and you " thinking you wernt good enough " . Only you can find the answers you have to honestly look back at your relationship and explore what happened between you to descover if it was all your exes problems, or was it because of all your problems, or was it because of both of your problems. Without knowing what happened in your relationship its difficult for anyone else to really say, other than to offer you support and acceptance so that you can begin to find answers.
In my case i was in a 10 year relationship married for 5 years, where my ex wife disclosed her abusive past and then couldnt live with it and went into self destruct but she began to abuse me emotionally, mentally and physically she vertually destroyed me my marriage breakdown was mainly because of my ex wifes behaviour.
keep searching for answers and keep posting
Dave
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