I had a friend in a similar situation to you, she lost the baby through miscarriage but she also made the decision to keep the baby at 14 (before she lost it) she ended up having another baby as soon as we left school and I have never known a better mother in my life, she would do anything for that baby.
What people don't realise is, age doesn't make a good parent. Its a kind, loving and giving person who makes the good parent.
I wish you well and hope you are as good a mother to that child as my friend is to her two beautiful daughters.
There's mums of all ages who don't look after their child/ren. There's mums of all ages who do look after their children really really really well. I have a best friend who got pregnant, not through choice, at just 15 (soon turned 16 after) and is an amazing mum. I nearly went through the same situation myself <as my best friend> at 13 (well I soon turned 14) but I lost it.
You all seem so quick to judge her just because of her age :/ That's highly unfair. Yes, the age isn't ideal and nor is the timing. But I'm sure she'll be a great mum :)
Er..I just wanna say well done.
And it is really up to you what you do with the pregnancy-dont let people tell you what to do based on age!
Im 19 and would LOVE a baby but I wont have one just yet cause i wanna concentrate on uni- but people think im mental for wanting one at this age, but ALOT of them say that if i did have a baby I will be an amazing mother and say they think I will be so happy when i am a mum. So yeah- age isnt everything.
Being quite so young will be hard-especially as you are too young to get a proper job to support the child, but there is ways around this if it is what you want.
Also, ignore those that say 'study is out of the window now' or say that you cannot go onto a good career if you keep it-Thats complete rubbish!! there is 4 young mothers on my uni course (and no i dont go to a crap uni where anyone can get in) so you can still do anything you want
Feel free to pm me as I have looked up quite alot on having a child young.
Good luck
x
The replies on this page have calmed my anger alot!
You are amazing, chosing to keep ur baby and not use abortion or adoption as the new contraception is a difficult choice for many.
Age is not a reflection of how good a parent is or not. Some of the best mothers i know are teenagers, one was 15 when she had her daughter and she is a fab mother! Younger mums tend to talk more, and tell people when they're struggling, which is a brilliant thing.
In the past 14 was the average age to have children.
I don't know where u live but in the Uk there is so much help for young mothers, u ARE still able to have an education, u can continue into further education and go to university. Along the way there is so much help available to help u get to where u want to be and to be able to provide for ur family.
Yes its damn hard being a parent, I had to learn to be a parent and a fully independant at the same time because i moved out at 18 when my son was 4mnths old. That was incredible hard. But my friends who were younger mothers, who stayed with their families until they were old enough to move out, were able to learn to be parents before having to learn about bills etc. I think that would have been slightly easier for me.
I think its fantastic that ur so sure of ur choice. U are going to be a fabulous mother! And I agree with you hon, ur child is a gift from God.
I'm sorry that people have been so judging towards you, i really don't think thats fair or helpful to u. Some of the comments were far from constructive and I'm disappointed to find them here, on a recovery based community.
I really do wish u all the best in this exciting chapter of your life, pregnancy was the best time of my life! If u ever want to chat to me my PM box is wide open.
not really anything to be proud of though.
I highly doubt that at 14, you're emotionally, financially or even physically capable to cope with a baby.
it's not just your life that you need to think about here.
i did ask all of you what you thought and your all being truthful with me....
but HE is my baby i love him and i WILL keep him i know its stupid to have gotten preganat but its not him mistake it was mine and he will have the best life, thank you to thoese who are supporting me i can do this and i will it time to grow up and i live in the US and my future is not set in stone i can still go to college and raise my son no matter what any one thinks hes a great gift and id be stupid not to except him to deni him of life or turn him over to someone else pushing my responsiblty on to another family. this will be hard but not impossible and my age means nothing to how good of a mom i will be
ps went to the doctor today and ITS A BOY !!!!!!!!!!!
A lIfE oN tHe RoCkS pUlLeD bAcK aNd GiVeN aNoThEr ChAnCe To Be hApPy
All I can say is if you're going through with this, as you so clearly are, please look after yourself through this and get every single possible bit of support you can. I hope your parents are supportive and make sure you're getting counseling through this.
(Incidentally, I heard yesterday a study about post-natal depression and exercise is amazing for keeping it at bay, so consider a weekly exercise class after the baby is born.)
" my precious, precious child, I love you and I would never, never leave you during your times of trials and suffering. When you see only one set of footprints it was then that I carried you" you were carried out of are lifes into the next and when its my time to leave this life I know i will be carried into the next life with you.
I wish i had my world complete again.
'Can we protend that airplanes in the night sky are like shooting stars, i could really use a wish right now' BoB
wow congratz on the no cutting thing and being pregnant. youre very lucky because you can have someone who loves you no matter what. Im 15 and cannot wait to have a baby. Its a controversial situation but you will probably be a good mother.
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