I've been self harming for five years, and I've promised my friend I'll try to stop. The friend I've promised this to used to do it, but he stopped before I met him, so he knows what it's like, and says he won't be disappointed or angry or anything if I mess up.
If I do mess up though, I know he'll be so disappointed in me, and I know how horrible it is to know that someone you care about does something this stupid to themselves.
He doesn't seem to understand, though, that stopping self harming won't make me any happier, it will just take away the only thing I know of that can make things a tiny bit better
First of all, welcome to RYL! :) It's good that you have that support system, it can help a lot when you are having a hard time. I understand that you think you won't be happy if you do stop cutting, but when you do eventually stop you will still have ups and downs. When you have those downs your mind may go to cutting, but you can fight these urges. I don't know if this is helpful, but if you wanna talk more you can always PM me. *hugs* xxx :)
I don't have "ups and downs" though, just the "downs" part of it. It's crap =(
I want to be happy, but I don't know how to be without cutting or ODing or anything. Stopping cutting won't make me happier
xxx
Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you'll land among the stars
First things first, you don't know that you won't be happier without it. Not for certain. And it's worth a try, isn't it?
In order for it to work completely though, you should confront the reason for your cutting.
You mentioned a friend that knows of your self harm. Maybe you could talk to him about what's going on. To have his support backing you up would make you feel more confident in yourself.
And, lastly, make sure you're quitting for you. Not for anyone else.
It'll only be successful if you're absolute sure that it's what you want. What you need.
Best of luck x
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I understand where you're coming from. Personally I don't think making 'promises' to stop helps anything... as it can make you feel twice as worse if you do mess up. I think you should talk to your friend. Prehaps you could find another way of coping to replace the harming? I'm here if you wanna talk. <3
I want to be able to stop, and I'm not as bad as I used to be, I just really don't want to let him down because he does act like he genuinely cares about me, which not a lot of people do.
I was talking to him earlier but he had to go =( He is lovely though =)
What else can I do to make me feel better? He says I should go to the doctors and they would make them go away and make me happier but I don't know =/
I'm sorry I'm so pathetic x
Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you'll land among the stars
Your not pathetic at all I think the doctors is a good option because you can talk things through with the doctor. If you did go to the doctors you will have several options that you can look into or try, and if your worried about what to say to the doctor maybe you could write down what it is that you want to say?
I would go to the doctors, maybe, but I can't actually get there without my parents. I could learn to drive in April, but I'm not going to, and it would still be a while until I could get there myself.
I'm starting to rely on my friend too much =(
Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you'll land among the stars
I think the doctors is a good option because you can talk things through with the doctor. If you did go to the doctors you will have several options that you can look into or try, and if your worried about what to say to the doctor maybe you could write down what it is that you want to say? 