Triggering (SI) - Im a tatteltale I did the right thing but i feel awfull

[littlemermaid]

Hi Everyone.

Im having a problem with this person who confides in me.

I have been helpign her throug some hard stuff-but its hard cause im going through it all too. She doesnt know the details of my issues. I never told her about my own issues with cutting, or my suicidal thoughts. I didnt want to influence her in any way or put any ideas in her head if she didnt have them yet

awhile back i called home to talk to her mom cause she was telling me she wanted to kill herself. I couldnt ignore it I felt awfull for telling her mom but I knew I needed to and it was the right thing. She was mad but she got over it and started talking to me again

yesterday again she started telling me stuff again. And she really worried me. And some how figured out that I have hurt myself in the past. She told me she was planning on hurting herself. I dont want her to go down that road. I know how hard it is and causes too many problems and issue it causes soooo many conflitts doesn the road. i personally wish i never opened the door of cutting...but i did. i dont want her to go down that. I was genuinly worried about her, she was giving me all sorts of death metaphors and was really scaring me. I wasnt talking to her face to face so i couldnt tell if she was serious or what.

anywa i talked to her mom again. I feel bad. Cause people have done this to me and I hated them for it. But at the same time I know they were thinking of me and just wanted to make sure i was ok. thats the same thing I was doing to her.

She hates me. I dont care. BUT her sister(who im friends with) is blaming me for her sisters issues. apperently im a bad role model and a bad influence because i have problems too and they rubbed off on her? And her sister is just trying to get attention and because i gave it to her she is messed up. Thats not true. Yes she needs attention-but she NEEDS it. it may not be healthy but for now thats all she knows. just like me in some ways.Her attention needs are not the problem, just a symptom of the bigger issues that are going on. Her sister can't blame me this isnt my fault. but still im worried it is even though i know rationally it isnt.

i just need some input/people verifying that i did the right thing. I know how much it sucks when someone tattles on you, but I was really worried

[Too Shy]

You did the right thing - if her family know, they can try and help her in whatever way she needs at the moment. And the earlier they know about it, the more they can do to help.

She is probably too close to the whole situation to understand right now, and it sounds like her sister is too - they don't know how to react, and they're probably a bit shocked or confused about what to do, so they're reacting by being angry and lashing out at you. Over time it's easier to be a bit more objective about things, and hopefully then she'll realise that you were trying to help.

So yes, I think you did the right thing and it shows how much you care.

[anabelleagain]

You did the right thing. You are NOT a bad role model. You did NOT cause the friend's issues. The sister is hurt she didn't notice/do something first, and she's saying those things to you because she's hurt and feels helpless. The friend may be mad right now, but she knew what you would do. The first time you went to her mum, you did the right thing. I think she came to you again because she needed help and knew you'd find it for her by telling her mom. You're in a very hard situation, but I think you're doing everything you can and just right.

Let the friend be mad. She'll come around again, and I'm sure she knows what you did was right. I know it's hard, but you're being incredibly strong right now! *HUG* I admire you very much, and I wish I had friends I had confided in who had tattled on me. ;)