Ok so Lent started yesterday + i've decided that i'm gonna try + give up SI for Lent. Last time i did it was on Monday night which i don't even like to think about it. So that makes *insert some quick calculating here [It was Mar15 on Mon + Easter is Apr4]* 48days if i make it. =[ that's a long time. i doubt i can do it especially considering how i'm feeling atm. But that's kinda why i have to set to goal, to decide that that's what i'm gonna try + give up for Lent cos otherwise i have no incentive. No way i could go any time at all if i didn't have something to aim for [my record is 52 or something days over a year ago]. So i'm gonna try. i guess that in principle failing doesn't really matter as long as you try. i've already gone longer w/o than i would've done if i wasn't giving it up.
Last edited by weepingangel : 19-02-2010 at 01:22 AM.
I really hope it goes well, and trying is all you can do. *hugs*
“Never lose faith in yourself,
and never lose hope;
remember, even when this world throws its worst and then turns its back,
there is still always hope.”
That sounds like a very good idea and well done to you for trying :)
Sorry that you had to go to A&E before and are feeling so bad, is that kind of a reason for wanting to stop?? because it has got to a point where it has gone too far or is scary.
I really hope you do well, and good luck.
Just one thing that i would say, is that you sound worried about not making it, maybe come up with something that is slightly easier? so that if you do slip up it isnt all that time wasted and you dont have to go back to before.
Maybe say that you will try your hardest not to for that time, but maybe allow for some slip ups,try to be as careful as possible and not deep with any cuts and try to distract yourself before hand or something?
i guess it's not so much that i really mind whether i manage to not do it i'm using Lent as more of an incentive not to. As i said otherwise i know i would've done it again already because i'd have no incentive not to. But now i have a reason to put that effort it, something to aim for. + if i mess up then i can just keep trying anyway. i don't really want to quit atm, i did want to + i am aiming towards quitting but i'm just not feeling it atm especially after Monday. Thanks so much for the support.
Good luck. I did manage lent last year (just) so it is doable. I'd love to say i'll join you but things aren't going so great at the moment. Every day without is an achievement and I really hope you can stick the entire time, at least you have this goal and incentive on mind like you said x
Don't know if this helps, probably doesn't, but last year I gave up chocolate. Slightly different I know, but you don't know me and chocolate...
Anyway I had 2 tiny slip ups during lent, and so I just added them on to the end. I didn't eat my easter eggs till the tuesday. Sadly I now eat more than ever so it didn't really work as I knew it was okay to start it again after lent.
However I think its GREAT you are going to try, wish I could. I don't know if thats a good idea, or if you think it will make it easier for you to slip up, thinking it doesn't matter? I don't know, just a thought, I know this is COMPLETELY different.
Also please don't think I'm making out its okay to stop harming now because you can just do it again after lent, thats not what I'm saying I was just oh I don't know shut up Gemma...
Good luck re giving it up for Lent. However, I'm not sure what the relevance of an attendance at A&E is for this post. Sorry but just linking it up with recent threads regarding mental health and competition.
"Everything is possible through Christ, who gives me strength". Phillipians 4:13
That's a brilliant idea, well done for thinking of it, and I wish you the best of luck in succeeding. As you say though, it's the trying that matters, and I respect you a lot for trying.
Make sure you let us know how you get on?
And if all the world was perfect, I would only ever want to see your scars.
They can have their universe, we'll be in the dirt designing stars.
i think i'm going to give up on this. i'm not worried about feeling like a failure if i give in or anything like that. i just don't want to fight anymore. the stupid thing is that i'm fairly confident that i could do it if i wanted to. i just don't. i don't want to fight anymore. Sorry.
Don't give up without a fight. Instead of thinking you can't do it, think of all the reasons you have not to - you're not trying to stop for the sake of it, there are many reasons why - maybe write them down in a list if it helps and read over it when you need the reminder and motivation.
don't be sorry - and i hope you don't mind me writing here!! Let me know if you'd prefer me not to. (felt i should though)
Didn't expect this to be so hard. It's never been so hard before.
Yeah maybe i should think of that, can't think at the moment but i will do.
+ i don't mind =]
Maybe instead of aiming for nothing you should aim greatly reducing your cutting? It would be amazing if you could do it, but as we both know it's incredibly difficult, and it won't help if it ends up making you feel like a failure.
I don't think you should give up on your idea completely though. I have two possible suggestions if full out stopping is too difficult but you want to keep it up.
A) Make a smaller promise. For instance you could promise to always try at least one distraction before cutting, or that you will wait a certain amount of time before letting yourself give in. You could also limit a part of your body that is either dangerous or inconvenient due to hiding scars. You could try to limit the severity of any SI by limiting the tools you use. Or you could promise that any cuts will be properly taken care of.
B) I love this theory because it makes slip ups easier, but why not try the stone trick? You take pebbles or marbles or something similar, and every day you go without cutting (or every time you resist an urge) you put a stone in the bowl. Every day you cut (or every time, which solves the "already did it today" problem) you take one stone out. I think this is a great strategy because it shows overall progress in a different way than counting streaks, where slip ups are emphasized greatly. You could aim for a certain number of stones in the bowl by Easter and if you ended up with more it would be great.
Again I'm not trying to say that you should give up trying to stop all together, and I think it would feel great to go the entire period without cutting. But if that goal is going to stress you out I think you should try a different goal instead of giving up completely, since you've got a great idea.
Last edited by Nine : 27-02-2010 at 05:46 AM.
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