I know what I stated. This isn't about disrespect either. Who are you to say one dynamic is better than another. Looks to me that no matter how much you might change physically you always think the same way
I'm not really surprised by your attitude.
You wouldn't be the first person.
However, I see what you're trying to do (drive me out of the thread, because you seem to see masculinity=having-a-working-penis -- correct me if that's an unfair assumption), and it's not going to work.
Your assumption is incorrect. Masculinity has to do with action and though and nothing to do with physical characteristics. Which was my point before.
I'm not trying to run anyone from this thread, frankly it doesn't matter to me. But now, for the sake of not getting this thread closed, since this is the only god damn place I feel any bit welcomed in, I'm going to end this conversation. We can take it to PM's if you want to talk any more.
Last edited by Blittle1986 : 28-12-2009 at 03:25 AM.
Something minor would help too. The girl went for my idea a lot easier than I anticipated. I don't even really feel the desire to see other women now, its just the fact that I know I have the option that lifts a big load off me.
lol =) i leave for like a week and theres a massive fight. damn i missed all the fun. bit late for me to jump in now but oh well. so brandon why do you think being in a relationship dulls your edge? in relation to the topic im quite charismatic and can understand the thrill of leading people, and can understand why you dot want to loose that. what i dont understand is why being with someone stops you from doing that? and what was wrong with insanitylives saying your not ready to be in a committed relationship? you were asking a question about not being in a committed relationship as i understand it. cause it seems like im just taking insanitys side, insanity you got offended to easily. thats ok though your only 15 thats what your supposed to do, but try not to get offended by this =) everyone knows what its like to be 15, and we were all the same at times angsty and all defensive, and if someone says they werent then there still only 14. hopefully your not to annoyed cause this thread needs all the members it can get.
Because it's happened to be before. I grow comfortable and I watch my ability dull. Although I don't notice it at the time until it gets really bad. Then when things ended in the relationship it takes me weeks to get back into top form.
And I do think it is unfair to be said that "I can't handle a committed relationship". I can handle it, I just did not want to lose the one thing I was good at unless I had to. All of this is moot now since it has been solved.
I am also a man, pretty impressed by all the strong opinions flying about here.
I think it's easy to get caught up in worrying whether your a 'real' man and all the other connotations we all have surrounding masculinity. Maybe if men and women focused more on being good human beings we'd all get a little less confused...or maybe not?
Blittle, its not really fair on her if you ask her to let you see other women but expect her to not see other men, she might agree to it, but as you're engaged you've basically said you want to be with each other only, its not a nice feeling to know someone you love's with another person and I wouldn't wish that feeling onto anyone
as for your talent, to be able to make everyone in a room your friend is an amazing talent to have and you shouldn't suppress it, but maybe know where to draw the line, you don't need to bring a girl home, you already have someone to go home to
as for the whole what it is to be masculine its something someone made up at some time, as el_jumbel says focus on being good people rather than fitting into some ideal role that only really applies to people in the movies
I am also a man, pretty impressed by all the strong opinions flying about here.
I think it's easy to get caught up in worrying whether your a 'real' man and all the other connotations we all have surrounding masculinity.
In my opinion, the creation of a good human being requires influence from two positive sources. A positive feminine source and a positive masculine source. On some occasions a good human being will come out of conditions that deviate from this simple formula, but that is a rarity. THAT is why masculinity is important, and on the same line of thought why femininity is important.
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Originally Posted by el_jumbel
Maybe if men and women focused more on being good human beings we'd all get a little less confused...or maybe not?
What makes a good man is not the same thing that makes a good woman. If all of us are striving for the same thing then areas will begin to slack. Removing focus will only lead to more confusion and to humanity being worse off as a whole.
Edit @ Pictsie: I know I don't HAVE to bring them home, and more than likely at this point I'm not going to. To me it was just having that path available that was important I guess. The feeling of being trapped in a situation is phobia of mine. I can handle anything as long as I know I have an exit strategy.
Last edited by Blittle1986 : 08-01-2010 at 03:12 PM.
nice topic, i'll bite. what do you classify as being a good human being? and anyway why does that matter? because are you judging being a good man on how you see yourself, or upon how others see you? there is a big distinction between the two. i'll put it to you that instead of trying to be a 'good' person why not try to find out who you truly are, and base your decisions upon your own beliefs. its harder than you think. how much of what you believe in have you come up with by yourself? if you let the dice fall where they may and follow your own base morality that is not enforced by god, family or society where will you end up? when there are no punishments are there no rules? you are more likely to be murdered by someone who believes that you deserve to die then by someone who want something you have. what does that say about our morality based upon what society believes to be acceptable. i know this is all jumbled up, but im on an up stage and cant control my thoughts very well. anyways all im really saying is that aiming to be a 'good' person is pointless, when to be this 'good' person your true self is lost. you can never be accepted by everyone.
I'm sure there's a lot of people who are members here who have grown up missing a male or female role model or indeed both. I think
to say that someone needs a male and female influence on their lives in order to maximise they're potential as a person is not a realistic view to hold in a society where so many families break up.
I don't think it should matter whether your raised by two people of the same sex, a couple of different sexes or by a lone parent, your development and who you become is probably in a small way dictated by what your guardians values are, not what sex they are.
I do appreciate though that it can be hard on this site to relate to people when the majority of the members seem to be female and maybe have an unfair (though understandable) opinion of men, it can be a bit alienating.
It's really good that someone started this thread for people to feel more included.
I do appreciate though that it can be hard on this site to relate to people when the majority of the members seem to be female and maybe have an unfair (though understandable) opinion of men, it can be a bit alienating.
no offence but what do you mean by understandable? do you believe its ok to dislike someone based upon your opinion on someone else with the same characteristics? i think thats called discrimination mate, and it should be fought against with all possible enthusiasm.
and by the way just because something is un-realistic doesnt make it any less true. if something is un-realistic it doesnt make its point any less valid.
"We're a generation of men raised by women. I'm wondering if another woman is really the answer we need." sorry i just love that quote, and this topic made me think of it.
