Opinions, telling people? (ref to si not really trig)

[AJ303]

This thread is more for people who always wear long sleeves really, but do consider or actually tell people about it, i was wondering how people go about telling others they have scars, I don't really mean parents/relatives more like friends and so on.

Those who are not as worried and wear short sleeves/swim.. ie; show them presumably just accept remarks randoms give & its open around their friends.

My problem is that personally 98.9% of the time I keep SI scars and stuff compleatly to my self, wear Lsleeves that cover right down to the backs of my hands, dont swim...and this is my problem,

See i have seriously been trying to quit over last 6/7months and last coupple of times i have managed a coupple months or more, but then i have a bad day and relapse again, and im back at day one, which is so frustrating and always a blow, i know this is because i end up saying to my self, well why not? I will always have to be on gaurd anyway, cover my arms, avoid swimming and such so why struggle with resisting when i want to do it, when it can never be in the past, over and done with, forgetable,

Thanks for anyones views!

[Catharsis]

Hi,
Im one of the people who always wear long sleeves, or jumpers. My boyfriend knows i SI, and so does a close friend. A couple know i used to ( though i still do :\ ). Even though they know, ive never been able to show them my scars, and i dont think i want to either... I like to hide it away. But telling people is completly down to you. Or even just showing your scars, you dont ever have to tell people about them.

I can really relate when you say you think why not. Because you dont feel you'll ever be over it. But you said you've been trying to stop. Try and hang onto the reasons you started trying in the first place. It may not seem like it, but you can get over this.

[Ampelmann]

I have told some friends in the past. I just brought it up in conversation like it wasn't anything unusual and because they were friends I am very close to it was just left at that. I know I can now bring it up again if I need to and they will look out for me but not talk if I don't want to. I think it was a conversation about how we dealt with stress. It actually sparked some confessions from my other friends as well about 'negative' coping methods.

Otherwise, I've found it's easier to tell people in an email/on msn/over the telephone rather than in real life because I tend to be scared of seeing their reactions.

I know you how you feel about well why not if nobody will see anyway. I do that too. But then I think well this is about me and me getting over this for myself to feel healthier and happier and more in control of my life. Even if nobody else sees my scars, I woud. And although sometimes I give in anyway, sometimes that helps. Take care xx

[Gone.]

I have told some friends in the past and they have asked to see my scars. I don't like to show people my scars, only if they are incredibly old and I still get comments on them sometimes. Sometimes on the bus people keep on and on commenting about them and it makes me irritated because they won't shut up. If I don't react to it (and I usually lie anyway) then they will stop.

If someone has only seen my scars and doesn't see the person behind them then they are more likely to make cruel comments about them. If they know why they are there they just leave them and accept them. They don't see the most recent anyway.

I never go swimming and rarely show them off. More so now than I used to. I guess it is what you are most comfortable with. Sometimes showing your scars is a symbol of what you have survived and beaten.

Writing things down is so much easier than saying them. Or even simply muttering one word that will hint what you are getting at. I don't know... I never chose for people to find out about me.