social services should be able to provide you with support because it's not right or legal that you are out of education.
i'm dyeing my hair in a bit purpley colour, bought it months ago only just getting round to using it. am determined to appear like i have 'snapped' back into shape for church tomorrow lol.
everyone keeps telling me off for doing too much... i've only been food shopping once, taken chloe out to stay 'n' play once... i feel better being active.
mand x
Mand, South Wales, Full-time working, single mother to 2 scarily independent girls.
I AM A PROUD PLUMERIA SISTER
Hon you will be fine, have you talked to your boyfriend? There is support out there for you hon x
Not talked to him yet.
He's away at the moment.
So can't talk to him.
I don't have a clue what I'm going to do without him here I could deal with it if he had msn but he doesn't so can't talk to him or anyone.
Ick thiss is going to be hard!
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Reason: added xx
'please...please...please dont leave me'
'havent you heard the news your dead?' '
'this used to be a funhouse but now its full of evil clowns...'
Congratulations! i had my son at 17, its more than doable. mind I wasnt already caring for a 2 years old! But i'm sure that will be doable too!
I've met mothers of 16/7 with two children and they cope fantasically with and without boyfriends, family help etc.. Lots were much better mothers than the 30/40 years old new mums that i was friends with!
I totally agree with Mandy, you need to be in school, there are special schools for teens parents/mums to be who havent finished school yet and I'm sure there are schools who will catch u up with missed work, like gsces.
There are also special teen midwives at most hospitals, so they should be able to give u more relevant support. Of course this is assuming you go through with you pregnancy, from the sounds of it you're in two minds, which is understandable and normal.
I would suggest you're first appointments to be with a doctor, who should go through your options with you and refer you etc (like mand said) and also your local connexions centre, they should also be able to counsel you and refer you, with education and pregnancy stuff. xxx
Last edited by [Awakening] : 10-10-2009 at 07:02 PM.
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Congratulations! i had my son at 17, its more than doable. mind I wasnt already caring for a 2 years old! But i'm sure that will be doable too!
I've met mothers of 16/7 with two children and they cope fantasically with and without boyfriends, family help etc.. Lots were much better mothers than the 30/40 years old new mums that i was friends with!
I totally agree with Mandy, you need to be in school, there are special schools for teens parents/mums to be who havent finished school yet and I'm sure there are schools who will catch u up with missed work, like gsces.
There are also special teen midwives at most hospitals, so they should be able to give u more relevant support. Of course this is assuming you go through with you pregnancy, from the sounds of it you're in two minds, which is understandable and normal.
I would suggest you're first appointments to be with a doctor, who should go through your options with you and refer you etc (like mand said) and also your local connexions centre, they should also be able to counsel you and refer you, with education and pregnancy stuff. xxx
that's alot of things to take in!
I'm not too sure if I wanna go through with this.
I can't not on my own.
I'll have to be happy all the time
I'll have to be able to cope by my self.
I can't
I can't
I can't
'please...please...please dont leave me'
'havent you heard the news your dead?' '
'this used to be a funhouse but now its full of evil clowns...'
Hon I know it's scary, **** I found out I was expecting Kyle at 19 and I was still bricking it. It's perfectly normal to be scared/nervous etc. No-where in the 'rules' does it say you have to be happy all the time. And you know yourself you are capable of looking after a baby because - You look after your baby sister.
Just take it one day at a time until your boyfriend gets home, do you have a counsellor or anyone you can talk to?
No I don't have a cousellor or anyone to talk to.
I'm actually getting quite scared.
and nervous.
and a hell of a lot of other emotions as well.
'please...please...please dont leave me'
'havent you heard the news your dead?' '
'this used to be a funhouse but now its full of evil clowns...'
what is the situation with your sister? do you count as carer/guardian? do you want to look after her? do you think social services could help more?
your education should not suffer because your parents can't cope.
i think i'm getting mastitis, my left breast would not produce any colostrum and when my milk came in, i noticed my nipple points out to the left instead of forwards so maybe that's why ella couldn't latch on properly and expressing is awkward too. its starting to hurt, i'm still expressing and massaging it to try to relieve it.
mand x
Mand, South Wales, Full-time working, single mother to 2 scarily independent girls.
I AM A PROUD PLUMERIA SISTER
what is the situation with your sister? do you count as carer/guardian? do you want to look after her? do you think social services could help more?
your education should not suffer because your parents can't cope.
mand x
I am her guardian legaully. I love looking after her it's something I actually look faward to doing, she's possibly the only person I am still alive for even though she's only two years of age. Social services are crap round our end plus my mum and dad are both social workers and it's not much help.
'please...please...please dont leave me'
'havent you heard the news your dead?' '
'this used to be a funhouse but now its full of evil clowns...'
i wouldn't have thought that a school age person could be a legal guardian. try to get more support from social services.
berni, i'm doing the hot stuff, breastmilk and lanisoh too. its nipple sensitivity rather than soreness, i think its why i hated the sensation of feeding, i always hated them being touched. am pumping 80-100mls 3 times a day and not wearing a bra at night as apparently that can help. also combing a wide tooth comb towrds the nipple can help so doing it too. it's not as sore, less engorged and just feeling where the blocked duct is. am trying to release it, it might get infected though.
mand x
Mand, South Wales, Full-time working, single mother to 2 scarily independent girls.
I AM A PROUD PLUMERIA SISTER
its starting to ease up a bit, i've found that when the milk stops flowing, if i squeeze my boob whilst pumping i can get a bit more out, it's certainly not got any worse, so hopefully it's done the trick.
daddy keeps calling Ella Chloe lol. he goes 'daddy's got chloe....oops i mean ella' lol. Chloe say 'baybee' now instead of baba :D. things are getting etter slowly, chloe sleeping again and ella seems to sleep if put on her side (just like big sister) so we're doing that for now.
love to all. mand x
Mand, South Wales, Full-time working, single mother to 2 scarily independent girls.
I AM A PROUD PLUMERIA SISTER
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yeah hence the heartburn lol! she has slightly more than chloe... but she was baked for 13 days more, we think her hair is just 2 weeks longer. she's also 2 weeks chubbier in the cheeks especially.. but otherwise is the spit of her sister.
hmmm should i post a comparison shot?
Mand, South Wales, Full-time working, single mother to 2 scarily independent girls.
I AM A PROUD PLUMERIA SISTER
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that's alot of things to take in! 
