I got two boppies< nursingpillows> and laid the babies in the C curve with their legs under my arms, like thye football hold. I then had bo9th hands free to latch them on and hold or rub their heads. I admit it is tough and takes a little practice. the idea of pumping and doing one of them at a time is good but can be time consuming andmake it hard to pump enough to keep it at strictly breastfed. my firswt set one got nipple confused and eventually had to be bottle fed wxclusively with pumping, and when he went through growing spurts had to have some formula. the babies strictly nursed until I went back to school., then I pumped at school and nursed when home. they were done simaltaniously until the discovered they could kick the back of the chair and then pulled each others hair and reach back put fingers in each others eyes. Then i pumped one breaqst and nursed the other at once. they got to latch on until I got bit one feeding in a bathroom on a trip. after that i pumped and fed exclusively till 3 weeks ago when i went li8fe support and dried up. they were excl8isively breastfed till 17 months old. it can be done. do you have access to lactate consultants there?
Hows Mandi doing? any updates on her and baby.
come cry on my shoulder, I will hold you till its over !!!
I had my scan. Everything is fine, she dated me at 13 weeks so my new due date is the 25th Feb. I was so scared but I'm so glad that the baby is fine. Can't believe how different baby looks from my 8 week scan!
I'll upload a photo of the scan pics later.
i did ask matt to update but its an hours drive to the hospital and he's not been sleeping!
right, so i had a bit of a show - but no blood, then a load of contractions - but no pain. the hospital wanted to check me out coz i'd had 2 sorta half-symptoms. they had no scbu beds there so when the monitor did show i was contracting (if anyone can remember their readouts, the waves (not spikes) were hitting 20 at least once in 10mins) they decided to scan me and found out baby was transverse (sideways), meaning if i did labour it was a c-section job. found out its a girl (Ella-Mae) and she's measuring slightly ahead. so they gave me steroids and tried me on pethidine to relax the womb, did abslutley nothing!
so they gave me 4 started doses of the anti-labour drugs, and then i was transferred to the nearest hospital with a scbu bed, which is an hour away by ambulance. I had 48hrs of the drugs there, its supposed to be 4 starter doses, 20mins apart, then one long-lasting dose every 8hrs for 48hrs (so 6 doses in all). I had them a bit more frequently due to when i arrived at the hospital after waiting hours for a transfer.
They only worked for 20mins max instead of 8hrs, luckily i wasn't dilating. Started getting pains as well as tightenings, we think due to the muscles being tired. So they've discharged me as nothing more the can do.
If i start to dilate the steroids have had time to work so they will deliver. if i don't then all they can give me for any pain is the same as i'm on for my hips. pain has gone but i'm still feeling tightenings. during the hospital stay little madam has turned breech, they're hopeful that i'll go to term, if so she may turn naturally, i may need an ECV or she could stay breech and i need a c-section. however if i labour prematurley the consultant i saw said he's delivered prem breeches up to 35weeks naturally with no ill effects, so if i go early hopefully no section.
right i got 101 messages on fb... thanks for thinking of us, and thanks to those who updated from fb for me, mand x
Mand, South Wales, Full-time working, single mother to 2 scarily independent girls.
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glad you are alright mand! congratulations on your 2nd little girl i have a friend whos little one is called ellie mae - almost exactly the same - both beautiful names !
hopefully ella-mae will stay put for a few weeks yet!
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I hope everything goes well for you Mand, my cousin is called Ella May, I think it's a lovely name.
Berni, I just join in with whatever Adela's playing with, and chat to her about whetever she's looking at. She does get bored and move on t something else quite quickly so I play in the way that she wants. It is good to try and balance the all the saying no that we have to do.
I've got a day off today, stayed in bed till 8.30, luxary!
Berni, maybe try doing activities with him you don't normally do, or do that often, like painting, cooking, messy activities like glupe (corn flour and water)?
It's so easy to get lost in constantly having to present
whatever face you believe a person wants to see rather than your own
chloe loves looking at books. both baby books and i got some free from freecycle so ifshe rips them its not a problem, they're disney books like bambi and snow white.
she smacks the evil queen and kisses snow white and she loves to kiss and thump thumper in bambi! i've heard that asking to join in can encourage a child to play with you, so maybe ask him what he's doing, can mummy see? etc.
chloe likes putting toys away, we have a drawstring bag for her abc blocks, and if i get the bag out she will pick them all up and put them in, then tip them all out again, so sort of teaching her tidying but it's a great game too. does he have many soft toys?
chloe likes rolling all over the floor with big ted (who is 3ft tall!) and her other soft toys, whilst i can't actively join in, i can say 'awww can big ted have a kiss?', or 'shhhh time for monkey to go nightnights' and she'll go shhhh nana and pick him up and pat his back and then cover him with her cover, sometimes she crawls under the cover and has a nap, others she pulls the blanket off and shouts 'boooooooo' and does it all over again.
mand x
Mand, South Wales, Full-time working, single mother to 2 scarily independent girls.
I AM A PROUD PLUMERIA SISTER
aww i'd love a kid at the moment all of these stories make me broody.
especially seeing my mates neice the other day... 11 weeks old only weighing 8lb awww
the ward where i was staying was a post natal ward, only the bay i was in was no babies.
me and the girl next to me were in same situation, she was 33weeks, transferred from the same hospital as me in pre-term labour, drugs not working etc - she even had the same hip thing as me! the 2 girls opposite were in the process of induction, both first time mums, the other pre-term girl had a little boy, so we were being asked 'does labour feel like x' because these girls were desparate for something to work, they were on their 3rd day of induction!
to go to a decent toilet meant walking into the postnatal part and there's a dayroom where the midwives sit and do paperwork and feed babies at night and i found myself wanting to sit in there all night looking at the ickle ones. would be my dream job, an auxiliary nurse on a post natal ward. i'd do nights every night coz that's when you get to cuddle and feed babies most, and change the icky tarry nappies... i got it soooo bad!
i want this baby here.... can't wait to cuddle her.
mand x
Mand, South Wales, Full-time working, single mother to 2 scarily independent girls.
I AM A PROUD PLUMERIA SISTER
Ladies, can we please keep Pegward in our thoughts? I hope she doesn't mind me doing this :S She's having bleeding and cramping and scared about miscarrying. she has a scan booked for (if i remember right) Tuesday. Please please keep her in your thoughts, shes not feeling too good right now for obvious reasons. xxxxx
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aww Pegward, i had early bleeding in my pregnancy, its the waiting that is the hardest, will be thinking of you!
i got 4 holes in my hands from putting ven-flom thingies in, silly dr she'd only been allowed to do them for 2 weeks, and it took 30mins to find a vein, it wouldn't go in, all the anaesthetists were in theatre - the supervising dr wouldn't come to help her....she was trying to put the thing in near my wrist and feed it into the veins under my arm fat (that couldn't be seen). i ended up getting transferred and a dr came and did it straight away, he put it in near my knuckles, the girl in the bed next to my had a huge bruise all over her wrist where the same new dr had put one in on the veins across the underside of her wrist, and everyone had to come and look and have a laugh 'they never put them there', why do they let dr's attempt things that they're not sure of? she wasn't confident to do the procedure in the first place, and by the looks didn't know what she was doing, she was v apologetic though... felt a bit sorry for her, she'd obviously been dumped by her supervisors.
so achey, my neck and shoulders are killing me.
mand x
Mand, South Wales, Full-time working, single mother to 2 scarily independent girls.
I AM A PROUD PLUMERIA SISTER
i have a friend whos little one is called ellie mae - almost exactly the same - both beautiful names !
