I was watching this program on group therapy for SI last night and the people in the group seemed totally comfortable showing their wounds and scars to one another.
Personally, I'd be too ashamed to even let another SIer see my scars. I dont know why though. I also feel uncomfortable seeing other peoples scars. I realise that there is a thread similar to this at the minute but I was just wondering how you guys would feel exposing your scars to other people who self harm. Is it just me that feels like this? Sorry for rambling..
i am able to show my GP and counsellor
but i cant show my friends who SI
i am ok with SCARS!!! like clearly old scars as such
but not like new cuts and scabbed sorta scars - thats just plain triggering for me
but mhm im with you - i dont think i could show a group of SIers my SI
(i think i'd be scared of any kind of competition or sometihng like that)
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I'm alright with it so long as everyone else is ok with it being there. My arms I tend to forget about really, so everyone sees, SHer or not. But when I've been to meets, and it's been hot, I have asked if people are OK with me rolling my jeans up because my scars are worse there. And most people don't care, so why should I?
As for fresh cuts, if it was a group and everyone was showing them, I would feel OK with it. If anything, it would probably help you feel more comfortable with yourself, which can only be a good thing.
Wake me up before I change again
Remind me the story that I won't get insane
Tell me why it's always the same
Explain me the reason why I'm so much in pain.
I wouldn't wanna show people at all! Even in a group, I don't think I'd be comfortable with that.
I don't mind seeing some of my friends' scars; well let me clarify cos obviously I don't like them being there! But I don't mind my friends being open about their scars when I'm around, although it does make me sad to see them.
I won't be comfortable with it. I would be very likely to get triggered if they had 'better' scars than me.
Gatsby believed in the green light, the orgastic future
that year by year recedes before us.
It eluded us then, but that's no matter - tomorrow we
will run faster, stretch out our arms further...
And one fine morning - So we beat on, boats against the current,
borne back ceaselessly into the past.
I agree that I feel very uncomfortable. My scars are mine and i don't want to show them to others, as well as I think i would feel really like embarassed. Also i feel uncomfortable to see others like i should be embarassed for them.
I wouldn't be comfortable with it even though my scars are pretty much faded. I am however comfortable with other people showing me their scars and cuts. It doesn't bother me at all any more.
Forget the risk and take the fall if it's what you want it's worth it all
I showed my scars to my friends because they made me feel so guilty and like I wasnt a good friend, they havent seen them all though. I hate showing my scars and wouldnt unless it was life or death.
I think seeing other peoples scars would trigger me, itd be like competition and I would feel like I hadnt got enough sort of thing. And I just wouldnt feel comfortable, especially with new cuts. I think Id be ashamed of how pathetic my scars are... compared to other peoples...
I don't think I'd mind too much showing other SIers my scars because I know they'd understand. I think I'd feel bad if mine were less serious scars than other people's but that's something I can work through.
I don't like showing my scars. It makes me feel so very vunerable. I hated it when my parents, teachers, and guidance counselor forced me to show the scars to them. It was horrible.
In a group.. It depends, really, if I would show them or not.
I'd feel really weird; only my doctor has ever seen any of mine. That was a really bad experience, but I think I may feel slightly different about showing them to another SIer. I don't think I'd ever want to though, because it would just feel like comparing or something, really no need to do that...
I don't hide my scars (well, that's a partial lie; I cover them in makeup), but I don't purposefully show them either.
If someone notices, I do get uncomfortable, but I try to be as honest as I can be...
My friend's and I who SI aren't sitting around comparing scars, however. Although we will occasionally show them, discuss them, and ask questions about them it is always with a good reason (such as First Aid Advice). I only show mine to my closest of friends, and that would be simply because they are like a part of me. It's like sharing them with myself.
I've shown my cuts to a few people from here. (That I met in person.)
I was totally comfortable. Anyone who knows I self harm, if they ask to see scars, or cuts, I'll make sure they want to, but I'll show them. I'm not ashamed of them with people I know.
On a long enough time line, the survival rate for everyone drops to zero.
