This is really really tragic. Bullying is out of control, you never heard of people killing themselves or bringing guns to school over bullying 50 years ago. Death is becoming a more common way to solve problems. It's sad.
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I have to agree. I can understand kids running amok and killing their bullies very well, too. Although I can't approve of it and never will. But there was a time, when I was around 13, I wanted to be ruthless and unscrupulous enough to be able to do such a thing. When the fear of the next day at school would get too big, I would wish this. But I always discarded the thought because I thought I would be even worse than my bullies by actually doing so.
Like others have stated, i myself have also contemplated suicide at a much younger age than 11 but never acted out on it. But thoughts on there own are seriously concerning, let alone attempts (successful attempts at that) of it.
Bullying, especially emotional/verbal, is the most horrendous thing someone could go through - it really f*cks with your mind and despite going through therapy, group sessions, etc, it will ALWAYS be there, it will ALWAYS haunt you. It's something that well and truely leaves its mark.
Although it won't be any comfort to his family right now, atleast he's at peace, and he will no longer have to endure the horrible bullying.
That is awful.
And another rant is why is it bad to be called gay? Why is it such a put-down in a way? Sorry I just don't get why calling people gay is so common, and so horrid....Maybe summin needs to be done here aswell?
But it's true that most cases don't get sorted till the worst scenario....I have experience of that. Even then they didn't do much.
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It's horrible when someone commits suicide at any age. At the same time, I don't get why this is such a "newsworthy" story, because there are cases of younger children committing suicide.
I never acted on it, but I thought of it a few times at age 11, and that was the same age I started cutting (though I probably did do some self-harming things before).
Eleven seems so much younger now that I'm 20 though *sigh*
The poor kid though
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Bullying, especially emotional/verbal, is the most horrendous thing someone could go through - it really f*cks with your mind and despite going through therapy, group sessions, etc, it will ALWAYS be there, it will ALWAYS haunt you. It's something that well and truely leaves its mark.
I don't think it's THE most horrendous thing, but I do agree it is Massively downplayed, I'm not talking teasing, but actual bullying and it really does stick with you. Talk to anyone of their school days and if they were bullied-that's the key thing they are going to remember.
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And another rant is why is it bad to be called gay? Why is it such a put-down in a way? Sorry I just don't get why calling people gay is so common, and so horrid....Maybe summin needs to be done here aswell?
Yeah it would be really nice if people stopped using my sexuality as an insult. Would people get away with saying 'that's so black' as a negative or something similarly descriminative? No. Because we are the only minority group that even the government doesn't seem to want to be nice to.
Haha bit of a sideline there.
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That's so sad :( I think its sadder the younger the person is, because younger kids don't always connect actions with consequences (like they want the pain to stop, but they might not realise that suicide is irreversible). They also never get a chance to grow up and realise that suicide isn't the only options.
my first thoughts were at 8 years old... my dad had two kids in his class who killed themselves at very young ages as well. (he's a teacher) it's really sad, but you can feel that darkness and hopelessness VERY young. I used to minorly SI at 3 years old because I felt so bad...
I actually think it is one of the biggest impacts of a childs life (minus sexual abuse) - it's a massive f*ck up to someones mental/emotional state and will most likely stick with them for the rest of there lives. It's one of the most common reasons for suicide amongst young people/adults.
Teasing to me is a form of bullying but not as severe. We're talking full blown bullying where they harrass/stalk you on a daily basis, and now that the internet is so common it's moving to internet bullying - so there is no escape wherever you go.
It really is terribly sad. I don't understand why so few people in authority take bullying seriously. I know a lot do but...there are so many that don't. And these incidents just show how bad things can get...
What surprises me is how the girl even knew how to hang herself and the consequences of it. When i was 11 i dont think i would of realy known how to commit sucide. :(. I hope shes at peace now.
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Jees... That kid's only a year older than my baby brother.
I'd be destroyed if he did something like that, especially over bullying. I mean, my baby brother has spoken to me before and I've threatened to beat the s**t outa the kids who have been bullying him.
But bullying is a major problem, I've had to deal with it most of my school life and it's not been fun to say the least. It's horrible when people call me names because of my sexuality, given the fact that is something very personal, and quite private, especially given the fact that my bullies don't actually know what my sexualiy is.
Thinking back though, I think I first time I ever really cut was when I was about that age as well, mainly because of stuff at home and how bad school had got.
My Ma knows about the stuff at school now, and has complained about it. I've given up now because it does nothing postive makes it worse.
The school tells the people who have done something that I've told them, they say they didn't, they leave it at that, and the girls come after me.
I've been told everytime something happens I have to tell them so they can build up a case, which is a load of s**t really, the most they've done is excluse 3 of the girls that hopsitalised me on the weekend after my birthday for 5 f***ing days, the next monday they were back shouting at me, well I suppose at least then they weren't pushing me about during the day as well.
Schools need to take cases of bullying more seriously, listen to people and actually talk to them instead of making them fill out stupid forms that are going no where. If they don't, things like this are going to become all too familiar and it's horrible thinking about how many young lives could be wasted because of the schools and their blatent refusal to listen to its pupils and actually have the balls to act on what's going on.
I mean, come on, I was told once that I had to just take what [name] did as she'd had a rough background, to which I replied, well mine's not exactly been great either. Another thing that happened was one of my friends was being beaten up in the hall just because she was wearing too much eyeliner and her hair was at the time black, the head teacher just stood in the entrace hall. We asked her what the hell she was doing and why she was letting it happen, and she said she wasn't, so I told her Whatever, she turned round to me and directed a rather upsetting comment as my therapist said I'd been doing really well. She directed at me a comment which was, Some people need to control their anger, sophie. I was almost in tears walking off shouting at her, Well maybe some people need to control their school you stupid slag.
I know from talking to friends, things like aren't issolated, apparently it happens a lot more than people think.
Together, schools and pupils need to find a way to fight this before it gets even more out of hand than it already is, it's not good for anyone and really needs reasessing.
Stuff like this makes me really, really sad =(
My brother's just turned 13 and he still gets really badly bullied.
And last year when he was around 11/12, he told my mum that he didn't think he would get to year 8 at school because the bullies would have made him kill himself.
We've tried so hard to get the bullying to stop, but the school my brother goes to is CRAP for all that stuff. And very recently he beat up one of the kids who had been on his case for a couple of years.
This is an example of where he lost his temper against the bullies, but sometimes he loses his temper against himself and punches walls or bangs his head or something. And reading stuff like this terrifies the crap out of me, just in case my brother feels he has no other option.
It makes Nic very very sad indeed =(
I'm gonna tap him like a maple tree. I'm gonna search him for some syrups. I'm gonna be having sex with him.
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This is why I think charities such as childline are SO important, they give children an opportunity to talk things through. If the child in question could have only seen 'the bigger picture', maybe this wouldn't have happenned. It's terrible to think of all the life ahead that kid will never know.
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I don't find it that suprising but then myself and people I know have considered suicide much younger than 11. Kids are much older in the head now, they encouraged to mature too fast in a way they are too young to be able to understand and cope with. Bullying has always been around and it always will be. Its sad but it's the truth.
Its tragic but i agree..think of the abuse some kkids experience..and their kids so they have notmany ways out..especially in their minds
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