But I have something I need to get down on "paper" (a computer screen in this case).
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My parents are divorcing. My Mum is using me to get at my Dad. She makes me write out horrible things to say to him on a piece of paper, then go to him and read these horrible things out.
My Dad got a moment with me when my Mum was out. He hugged me. He hugged me so tight and said everything will be ok and that he cares...it was such a precious moment.
My Mum wants me to take him to court...she wants me to be cruel and horrible to him and she won't let me talk to him....
I love my Dad...I wish my parents weren't divorcing so I could go out with my Dad and do things together...we used to go every Sunday (when he wasn't on business trips) to central London for a Chinese dim sum and then we would get out our foldable chairs and draw things together...I've got loads of drawings of bridges and the Thames, as well as some of St. James' Park and various monuments...
We used to go to Cyprus as a family to see my Greek grandparents...they have a villa one mile away from the beach...they have a citrus garden which is huge and lovely to get lost in....they have over fifty animals...although my Greek grandfather is dead; he died from Alzheimer's.
I haven't been to Cyprus for over six years...I miss it so much...I love it there...I loved going for walks in the Troodos mountains with my Dad when it was really hot at sea level (it gets to 45 C in the summer in Cyprus)....
My Dad buys me presents that I appreciate...like when he bought me 2kg of dried dates....I love dried dates. He bought me a really posh fountain pen and ink cartridges for it...I really like fountain pens...
My Mum wants me to hate him; she loves going on about how bad a person he is, how he has these affairs and he is "sick in the head". Ok my Dad is having extra-marital affairs, but I can't hate him...I love my Dad.
I miss my Dad...I want to do things with him that we used to do when I was younger...I remember the time he taught me calculus (I was ten years old lol) in a Chinese restaurant on a napkin...
I WANT YOU BACK DAD...I NEED YOU.
My Mum makes me send cruel e-mails to him as well...she's making me pretend to hate him....
Dad....I love you.
PM me if you want a PDF copy of the ICD-10or the Mental Health Act 1983/2007. I ALSO HAVE THE DSM-V BOOK and am a pharmacology student.
I have a visual impairment / neurological problems so I need people to type in clear text and no funny fonts. Also excuse any typos, my vision blocks things out.
I have autism and have problems communicating, PMs included.
Just becasue I type well doesn't mean I speak well. I am only part time verbal.
it must be horrible to go through, but if you want to see your dad then go and see him, i realise it may not be that simple as i havnt seen my dad in years.
sorry, im a bit crap at things like this
*hugs*
be strong, you can get through this
I'm fine! Totally fine. I don't know why it's coming out all loud and squeaky, 'cause really, I'm fine!
My friend called my Dad up for me and arranged that sometime soon I will "go out with my friend" (her) which actually means I will meet her up and my Dad will be there. I know its bad to go behind my Mum's back but if it means I can see my Dad without her ever knowing, its too precious to say no. I want to tell my Dad how powerless I am.
Thanks IllScarlet.
PM me if you want a PDF copy of the ICD-10or the Mental Health Act 1983/2007. I ALSO HAVE THE DSM-V BOOK and am a pharmacology student.
I have a visual impairment / neurological problems so I need people to type in clear text and no funny fonts. Also excuse any typos, my vision blocks things out.
I have autism and have problems communicating, PMs included.
Just becasue I type well doesn't mean I speak well. I am only part time verbal.
I can completely relate. My mother tried to do this with me and my dad when they split up.
I feel really sorry for my dad. My mum has brainwashed my little sister into hating our dad. She won't even refer to him as dad anymore and calls him by his first name. I'm hoping as she gets older she'll realise what's been happening......
Don't let your mother destroy your relationship with your dad.
Let her know that you realise he's hurt her but he's still your dad and you don't want their battle to ruin the relationship you and your dad have. He's done nothing to hurt you and he loves you and you love him. Whatever goes on between them is exactly that...between them.
I hope you can find a solution to this without hurting your mum or dad. x
Thanks. My Mum is just very bitter as my Dad no longer loves her.
I am trying to keep my Dad and mine relationship going. Meeting him up secretly will help.
I'm so sorry that your Mum has brainwashed your little sister. Have you tried explaining things to your little sister? How old is she?
PM me if you want a PDF copy of the ICD-10or the Mental Health Act 1983/2007. I ALSO HAVE THE DSM-V BOOK and am a pharmacology student.
I have a visual impairment / neurological problems so I need people to type in clear text and no funny fonts. Also excuse any typos, my vision blocks things out.
I have autism and have problems communicating, PMs included.
Just becasue I type well doesn't mean I speak well. I am only part time verbal.
I'm sorry... it sounds like your mom is hurt and using you to release her anger. No matter how hurt she is, she has no right to try and make you hate him for something he did to her. Everyone makes mistakes, and while I can see why she doesn't want anything to do with him, as long as he is good to you, there's no reason for her to want you not to see him.
If you don't mind my asking, why do you live with your mom? Can't you live with your dad, or tell your mom absolutely no to the emails (i know parents can be good at manipulation) and tell her you ARE seeing your dad, because he is your dad and you love him? Maybe threaten to move out if she won't listen?
It just doesn't seem fair for your mom to drag you through her anger and hurt, especially when you already have so many other things to deal with. So try and stand up to her. You have every right to see him, no matter what he did to her. Their relationship shouldn't have to affect your feelings about him if you don't want it to. As long as he is loving toward you, that's all that matters.
As for seeing him and not telling her, I personally don't think that's a problem. You're an adult; you can see who you want.
Thanks. My Mum is just very bitter as my Dad no longer loves her.
I am trying to keep my Dad and mine relationship going. Meeting him up secretly will help.
I'm so sorry that your Mum has brainwashed your little sister. Have you tried explaining things to your little sister? How old is she?
She's 12. I've tried but she won't listen. We don't see our dad very often as he lives abroad so really she's just happy to listen to our mum's lies about our dad.
I'm glad to hear that you are working at having a normal relationship with your dad. My only worry would be if your mum finds out about these secret meetings...would it ruin what you and her have together?
I'm sorry... it sounds like your mom is hurt and using you to release her anger. No matter how hurt she is, she has no right to try and make you hate him for something he did to her. Everyone makes mistakes, and while I can see why she doesn't want anything to do with him, as long as he is good to you, there's no reason for her to want you not to see him.
If you don't mind my asking, why do you live with your mom? Can't you live with your dad, or tell your mom absolutely no to the emails (i know parents can be good at manipulation) and tell her you ARE seeing your dad, because he is your dad and you love him? Maybe threaten to move out if she won't listen?
It just doesn't seem fair for your mom to drag you through her anger and hurt, especially when you already have so many other things to deal with. So try and stand up to her. You have every right to see him, no matter what he did to her. Their relationship shouldn't have to affect your feelings about him if you don't want it to. As long as he is loving toward you, that's all that matters.
As for seeing him and not telling her, I personally don't think that's a problem. You're an adult; you can see who you want.
Take care. :)
My Dad is not giving my Mum money; he will only give her money if she moves out. I still live with both my parents, but I will be going to Cambridge University in October this year.
I'm afraid I can't say 'no' to my Mum; she has me wrapped around her little finger.
I will see my Dad behind my Mum's back because I still love my Dad and he still loves me.
PM me if you want a PDF copy of the ICD-10or the Mental Health Act 1983/2007. I ALSO HAVE THE DSM-V BOOK and am a pharmacology student.
I have a visual impairment / neurological problems so I need people to type in clear text and no funny fonts. Also excuse any typos, my vision blocks things out.
I have autism and have problems communicating, PMs included.
Just becasue I type well doesn't mean I speak well. I am only part time verbal.
She's 12. I've tried but she won't listen. We don't see our dad very often as he lives abroad so really she's just happy to listen to our mum's lies about our dad.
I'm glad to hear that you are working at having a normal relationship with your dad. My only worry would be if your mum finds out about these secret meetings...would it ruin what you and her have together?
Hugs, I'm sorry that you can't change your sister's mnd.
I do suspect my Mum is lying to me too.
If my Mum found out, she would never forgive me and would probably kill herself. The level of secrecy must be maintained at a high level.
PM me if you want a PDF copy of the ICD-10or the Mental Health Act 1983/2007. I ALSO HAVE THE DSM-V BOOK and am a pharmacology student.
I have a visual impairment / neurological problems so I need people to type in clear text and no funny fonts. Also excuse any typos, my vision blocks things out.
I have autism and have problems communicating, PMs included.
Just becasue I type well doesn't mean I speak well. I am only part time verbal.
Hun,
That sounds really horrible what your mum is making you do. Could you possibly tell her that just because she hates him doesn't mean you have to and tell her that you love him? Take care, sweet. xx
Thanks all, especially thank you to WontBeTakenAlive.
I will hopefully be meeting my Dad in secret (my friend said she'd cover for me) soon. I will tell him everything. I will tell him how much I love him and that I don't mean the horrible things I'm saying to him.
But my Mum wants me to take him to court! I can't take him to court but she's forcing me to! I don't want to do this!!!
PM me if you want a PDF copy of the ICD-10or the Mental Health Act 1983/2007. I ALSO HAVE THE DSM-V BOOK and am a pharmacology student.
I have a visual impairment / neurological problems so I need people to type in clear text and no funny fonts. Also excuse any typos, my vision blocks things out.
I have autism and have problems communicating, PMs included.
Just becasue I type well doesn't mean I speak well. I am only part time verbal.
Tell me if I'm being too nosy but what is your mum wanting you to take him to court for?
If you don't want to go then don't. Is she trying to make you lie about something? If she is then you will end up getting in way over your head and people will get hurt.
My Mum doesn't want to move out and my Dad is going to call the bailiffs to evict her. So she wants me to take him to court, because apparently, legally my Mum herself can't do anything. So she's using me to get at him.
I don't want to, but you don't know my Mum. What she wants is what always happens.
PM me if you want a PDF copy of the ICD-10or the Mental Health Act 1983/2007. I ALSO HAVE THE DSM-V BOOK and am a pharmacology student.
I have a visual impairment / neurological problems so I need people to type in clear text and no funny fonts. Also excuse any typos, my vision blocks things out.
I have autism and have problems communicating, PMs included.
Just becasue I type well doesn't mean I speak well. I am only part time verbal.
