how to cope

nightcat · 18-01-2009, 11:20 PM

heyy,
I was wondering if any one could give me some advice about school.
my friends and I have been getting hastle from a group of girls, persistantly and it's really getting to us all. every break time, and lunch, we sit there writing out stupid things called incident report forms, which is just pointless, all it is is writing down what happens and hoping something will come of it, hoping the school will help us to stop whats going on.
I'm sick of them thinking it's alright to push us around, pushing us over as well as pouring various forms of food and drink over us, generally making our lives hell at school.
What are we suppose to do? How are we suppose to cope? The school won't do anyhing about it, they refuse to admit anything is happening, and I'm scrared because Monday is just around the corner and I know that if the girls do anything, so much as even look at my friends I will freak out on them and hurt them badly, because I'm sick and tired of this.

The thing I hate most is the fact that it's effecting my whole life, My boyfriend keeps having a go at me because i've become more upset than what I usually am I've lost all ability to control my SI and I keep snapping at him when ever he tries to ask if im okay. And my mum keeps trying to find out what's wrong even though I dont want to say because she'll freak at me and we'll fight again. I've found it hard to go out again which I haven't had in about seven or eight months and I was so proud that I wasn't getting urges to harm, but all the negitivity has come rushing back, I've become scared, and emotional wreck, I'm finding it hard to think straight when I think of the idea of school.

I really can't deal with all of that with school at the moment, I'm just getting so annoyed that the school refuses to do any thing, How do I cope untill I get out of there with out killing some one? Because I don't think I can, They don't care if you get hospitalised by the evilness of the school (I got attaked out side the school last february I still don't really know why but I think it may have something to do with the fact I told some one that it wasn't very nice to take the mick outta some one's name, that's litterally all I said and the next thing I know I've been kicked to the ground)
But yeah, If any one could give me some tips on how to keep my cool when I'm imprisioned there, or even if there is a way to make the school do something I woul love you for ever

19-01-2009, 12:18 AM

Firstly those girls deserve nothing but punishment. Bullying and constant abuse is disgraceful behaviour. I was bullied pretty much all the way through school and just put up with it. It strained me alot and has affected my self confidence drastically so I definately advice not doing this. Have you considered writing a personal email or letter or organising a meeting with the HeadMaster, or a School Counsellor/Nurse. If not then maybe you can confide in a relative (as you dont want a fight with your mom). Instead of SI try and do other distracting methods such as holding an ice cube or cutting up paper.

If you try and retaliate it can either go one of two ways:
- They get worst
- They stop.
After I had been bullied for so long... When I heard my sister was bullied I launched out at the people and hurt them. Not violently I just .. Well I wont say not sure if Im allowed. The bullying stopped due to the fact I got the leader. I wouldnt advice violence as it can go very bad. As hard as it sounds you have to try and ignore it. Although you shouldnt have to move just so you can have some peace and quiet if you are in an area full of people or somewhere with visible dinner ladies like a hall, they may not be able to poor food down your backs. You really have to try your best to ignore them... I would strongly advise telling a family relative, have a meeting with the headmaster or a school counsellor or nurse. Sorry if this reply is a little late. Hope it helps a bit... xxx

teenytineytori · 19-01-2009, 07:35 AM

I would definitely talk to the principal or head of the school. I would set up an appointment and pretty much tell her everything that has been happening. because you have been filling out those incident reports there is a paper trail of bullying that they can not ignore. Also, I would tell them that you are worried that as their behavior escalates and becomes even more constant you are worried that it may come to a fight at some point. I would bring up the incident from outside school to let them know that you do not intend to start a fight but let them know that you will defend yourself against the constant bullying. I would also seek out the school counselor. She can give you some strategies to deal with this effectively and also many times you meet with a school counselor at lunch and that lessens the oppurtunity for this group to harrass you. ((hugs))